Comments for Post #C27259

Don't marry him, he deserves better person than you😎

For now forget about your parent’s choice. This moment think if you want to marry your bf? Because looks like he is a red flag. 🚩 don’t marry even if you have an ounce of doubt because soon love will fly out of the window and you will be left facing his anger. First solve this problem. If no then take a break from this relationship and think about your parent’s choice but only after you have completely got over this relationship. Get therapy it will help you understand if you are marrying a toxic person.

Every parents says so .. My parents also heard the same from their father . My dad is from haryana , mom is Bengali .. So donot worry yeh dialogue purana hain .. Decision is yours .. Only red flag is Anger issues with your Bf .

You are being asked to make two different decisions at the same time, and I think it may help to separate them. The first question is, is this man a good life partner for you? The second question is, are your parents' objections enough reason to give up the relationship? From what you've written, your parents' main objection seems to be caste, not his character, financial stability, or willingness to commit. On paper, he appears to have many qualities people look for in a spouse, you've been together for four years, he has supported you through difficult times, he is financially independent, and his family accepts the relationship. However, I would not ignore the concerns you mentioned about his anger issues and hot and cold behaviour. Those are not small things. Before fighting everyone to marry him, be honest with yourself about whether these behaviours are occasional flaws that he acknowledges and works on, or patterns that make you feel unsafe, anxious, or emotionally drained. Marrying someone should be based on who they are, not on how much you have already invested in the relationship. As for your parents, emotional blackmail such as "you are dead to us" is extremely painful, but it does not automatically mean they will feel that way forever. Many families say things in fear, anger, or social pressure that soften with time. Of course, there are no guarantees. So my suggestion would be, don't choose your parents' candidate simply because you are scared of losing your family, and don't choose your boyfriend simply because you have been together for four years. Choose the person you genuinely believe will make a good husband and partner for the next 30 to 40 years. If, after honestly evaluating the relationship, you believe he is a good man, treats you with respect, and is willing to work on his anger issues, then it may be worth continuing to stand by your decision. If the relationship itself has serious unresolved problems, then reconsider, not because of caste or pressure, but because compatibility matters. The most important thing is that your decision should be based on the quality of the marriage you are choosing, not on fear of disappointing someone else.

1.Hear parents words 2.It is not correct to marry a person younger to you. 3.Dont get attracted by looks or money or luxuries..Happiness is not connected to this.. Parents ll see for u a good match..

It's too late to think. You already gave a commitment by loving him. Think whether he will really cares for you. If yes then proceed

Your parents brought you into this world and sacrificed a great deal for you. They went through many difficulties for your sake, so you should respect them and pay attention to their guidance

He has a car also?? And that defines his financial status?? 😁😀 dont marry him.. he can get someone better..

Don't marry your parents choice

Consult astrologer and submit 2 candidates

Have fun and leave him 😂😂😂😂

If u truly love him go ahead & marry him !

Indian parents just want social enhancement not the happiness of their children