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#C27251 Corporate Confessions: How Many Times Can a Man Start Over? "My wife topped her university in her MBA while battling cancer. At the same time, I was rebuilding a life that had begun with childhood abuse, family conflict, and years of struggle. Looking back, I don't know whether our story is about survival, faith, entrepreneurship, or simply refusing to give up." One of my earliest memories is of my father banging my head against a brass water tap when I was barely three years old. That was my introduction to life. People often ask successful entrepreneurs about their mentors, opportunities, or lucky breaks. I had none of those. My story began with survival. Growing up, I always felt that my sister got not only her share of joy and happiness but mine as well. I was never the favored child. I was never the one people expected to succeed. Academics were a struggle. Somehow, I scraped through until 10th standard. Desperate to escape my circumstances, I ran away from home and took up a job as an insurance field agent. It didn't work out. I was brought back home and pushed back into studies. Eventually, I completed a 3-year Diploma in Electronics & Communication. Looking back, that diploma was probably the first real victory of my life. In 1997, I worked as a TV technician at an ONIDA franchise. In 1998, I entered electronic manufacturing and quality assurance. Later, I moved into the IT industry as a faculty member and gradually built a career in systems administration, particularly in Solaris environments. Over the next eighteen years, I worked across multiple IT roles, continuously learning and reinventing myself. I traveled to the United States three times. For a boy who had once run away from home, it felt like a different world. In 2002, I married the greatest blessing of my life. My wife. She was brilliant, determined, and resilient. She completed her graduation with distinction and later topped her university in her MBA. What makes that achievement extraordinary is that she accomplished it during a period when neither of us knew whether she had another day to live. Four years into our marriage, she was diagnosed with cancer. From 2006 to 2011, she fought one of the toughest battles any human being can face. Watching someone you love walk through that fire changes you forever. There were moments of fear, uncertainty, exhaustion, and helplessness. But she survived. To this day, I don't know whether I was supporting her or she was supporting me. Then in 2012, I lost my beloved mother. If there was one person who stood by me consistently throughout my life, it was my mother. In a childhood where affection was scarce and encouragement even scarcer, she remained my source of emotional support. She may not have been able to change every circumstance around me, but she never stopped believing that I could build a better life. Losing her in 2012 felt like losing the one person who had quietly stood behind me through every struggle, every setback, and every small victory. My relationship with my father remained complicated throughout my life. He had stayed separately for years and moved in with me only after my mother's death. Then began a cycle of quarrels, moving out, returning, and moving out again. Despite everything, I never stopped doing what I believed was right. Back in 2001, I spent nearly ₹1 lakh clearing hand loans taken by my father. My mother owned two plots in a housing society and wanted me to inherit one of them. But because my sister's husband did not have a stable monthly income, I voluntarily gave up my claim. For my sister's marriage, I stood guarantee based on my salary. Using that support, my mother's BDA plot was registered in my brother-in-law's name, and I personally paid the EMI for a year. Nobody forced me to do it. I did it because I believed family came before personal gain. When my father sold his small house, he gave me ₹10 lakh to reduce my housing loan. Years later, after I had fully cleared the loan and he moved out again, I mortgaged my own house—purchased in 2005—and returned every rupee to him. Not because he asked. Because I wanted no debt of gratitude hanging over my head. Then came another challenge. In 2013, I developed arthritis. The pain became severe enough that I resigned from a Fortune 500 company in October that year. The next two years were dedicated entirely to recovery. Swimming. Cycling. Gym. Yoga. Pranayama. Every day was about reclaiming my body and rebuilding my confidence. Slowly, I recovered. And then I started over again. I entered the restaurant business with a friend who already had two successful running restaurants and one failed hotel venture. Inspired by my wife's cancer journey, we built the restaurant around an organic food concept. My wife and I worked relentlessly. Many days we personally stood in the kitchen to improve customer service times and ensure quality. By 2019, the restaurant was generating between ₹1 lakh and ₹1.5 lakh per month. For the first time, it felt like all the struggles had finally begun paying off. Then everything fell apart. My partner cheated me. I lost nearly ₹1.5 crore in value. I managed to recover my investment, but years of effort and growth disappeared. A major portion of the money I had invested had been borrowed from a friend. Losing money hurts. Losing trust hurts far more. Most people would have stopped there. I didn't. I started another restaurant with a unique concept. It became successful almost immediately and ran well for six months. Then life intervened again. My father became critically ill. At one point, I had to ask my sister for hospital expenses because I simply didn't have enough cash with me. I reminded my sister and brother-in-law that they had already benefited from the house sold by my father, three plots, and a flat that had been funded through family resources. When dialysis became necessary, I was prepared to sell my two-wheeler to fund the treatment. Ironically, during better times I had fulfilled a lifelong dream and bought a Kawasaki superbike. Life has a way of humbling all of us. One day you own a superbike. Another day you are willing to sell whatever you have to keep your father alive. Even after everything that had happened between us, I was ready. My father survived dialysis for thirteen days. During those final days, he lay unconscious and unable to speak. I told him what his beloved daughter had done. I remember seeing moisture in his eyes. He couldn't respond. But I believe he understood. After my father's passing, whatever he had became hers. The properties, the benefits, my mother's gold and silver, and the family pension that continued after my mother's death all became part of her life. By then, I had learned that life does not distribute rewards in proportion to sacrifice. Sometimes the people who give the most receive the least. But dwelling on that would have destroyed me, and I still had a life to rebuild. Then came COVID. The restaurant business collapsed. Years of hard work disappeared almost overnight. To protect my reputation and pay vendors, I sold the restaurant. Once again, I found myself starting from zero. Or perhaps below zero. This time, however, I had something priceless. Friends who believed in me. With help from many of them, I entered the spice-processing industry. The journey was brutal. For four years, survival itself felt like success. Every order mattered. Every customer mattered. Every rupee mattered. Today, that spice company has grown into a business that has crossed ₹2.5 crore in revenue. We are now looking at manufacturing contracts and larger opportunities that can take us to the next level. People often ask what kept me going through childhood abuse, family conflicts, arthritis, cancer in the family, business betrayal, financial losses, COVID, and repeated reinventions. The answer is simple. Yoga. Pranayama. Chanting. Faith. And in recent years, Shri Rajarajeshwari. There were moments when logic gave me no reason to continue. Faith did. Most importantly, my wife never left my side. She fought cancer. She topped her university. She worked in restaurant kitchens. She endured financial uncertainty. She stood beside me through every business failure and every new beginning. Whatever success I achieve in life, a large part of the credit belongs to her. Today, my ambitions are very different from what they were twenty years ago. I no longer dream merely about wealth. I dream about legacy. I hope that in the coming years, our business grows large enough for us to retire comfortably and establish a hospital or rehabilitation center in the name of my parents. Some people may find that surprising given my history. I don't. My parents were not perfect. My family was not perfect. But they were my family. My relatives and my parents' friends hardly remember them today. One day, I want them to. Not because of property. Not because of inheritance. Not because of family disputes. But because a hospital or rehabilitation center carrying their names is helping people long after all of us are gone. That will be my final victory. Not over my father. Not over my sister. Not over anyone. But over every circumstance that tried, time and again, to convince a little boy that he would never amount to anything.