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Submit ConfessionGender: Male4 June 2026 at 11:30 am
#C27249 Hi Everyone, I'm 39M, living in Bangalore. A smart, decent guy who is working as a Data Scientist. Born and raised in a traditional and spiritual family. Here is my story: I was married to A, who is well known to our family. After our engagement, we met thrice for dining and shopping together. We had pre- marital counselling too. During our phone conversation, she told me she was not a virgin and had a past. At that point, my heart really loved her and forgave her, although I had never had such experiences. It was a grand wedding because both our families, our elders, were married. We had a good honeymoon abroad. After a month, she asked me, Do you have any physical problems? I said no. And she said that I was not performing well. She said Unnakku Seiyave Theriyatha? (Don't you know how to do?) She accompanied me to a sexologist and found no issues with me. In the later months, I felt that she was not satisfied with me. Sometimes I have to plead with her because I love her so much and want to have her only. After 7 months, she complained to her parents that I'm not medically fit to have a physical relationship. This broke me because we had a good vacation abroad and loved her wholeheartedly. She applied for divorce, noting harassment and abuse. Finally divorced in 2021. Though we live nearby, we moved on (to avoid meeting). We had mutual friends who often talked about her past and her relationship after marriage. She changed her offices thrice; every time I heard that she was in some relationship, and it caused issues in the office. Some married men who have kids and their wives have made it a problem coming to the office. Even now, she is living together with her senior dude who is working with her in CG Whitefield, but her parents think that she is living alone. At the same time, she and her family are seeking a marriage partner. Three weeks back, accidentally, we met in the supermarket, and to my surprise, she smiled at me. I chose to put my head down and leave my cart. The way she spoke about me drained my family and brought shame to society. Now I'm back to the pain I faced in 2021. What could be the meaning of that smile? Do I look like a coward, a joker? When I see and read people's stories, where is moral ethics in life? No god-fearing. Is life to be enjoyed till 40, then what's the rest? Where does this society go on?
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nothing ... she was ex ... she just smiled ... Nothing else ...
BRO. U R LUCKY. U R SAVED. why don't u understand. It's always painful when a tumour is removed from your body but it's good for u. she is PhD is extra martial affairs and love matters.
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Next time you see her, you should smile. You got saved, while she's not going to, not now not ever... So chill
When we go for walking or Jogging, few people smile at us, right ? Simple. U need counseling n move on...
You are a Good person! Just think that she smiled as she knew you, do not overthink! And Yeah- Enjoy your life! (No... not telling you to go after girls or women but.... Enjoy your alone time- give yourself some wellness retreat, Grab a Book and Tea, learn Golfing or get new hobby, Listen to manifestations and Affirmations and last- Be Good - Do Good, Rest leave to God! ❤️
Bro make it simple...just a human nature to smile the known person....be grateful that she honestly left rather doing shady things behind u .. forget and move on...join some strangers club like trekking,marathon clubs...
Be grateful that you got rid of a woman who decided your worth in performance - I don't want to comment on it because I owe you respect - It's time for you to flush her thoughts down the toilet and start again - When past calls .. don't answer it has nothing new to say and old roads don't take you to new places
Physical attractions are shortlived and will drain them emotionally. The guys who met her later would have treated her as sex slave but she is longing for true love
Some people don't feel or have the ability to sense suffering of others, just ignore
Kahena kya chahte hoan??!!😂😂😂
You had a divorce and that should be the end of your story. What she does later should not concern you and I don’t see anything specific in smiling to someone who you have known before.
Nice data scientist who hasn't mentioned his CTC 😎
My suggestion to guys who are contemplating to marry - don't marry someone who was physical before marriage. It might sound rude and regressive but it is what it is. Applies to both
You just need to forget the past and move ahead,lucky to be out of a great family mess ,you did give her a benefit of doubt,but unfortunately that was not reciprocated appropriately.probably God has some different plans for a better future ahead🙏🏼best wishes
First thing that should have stroked you is that how did she know that you don't know how to do, how many uat test did she run before to be confident enough to say that production is unstable... that being said in today's world people with smiles are more harmful than frowns...and u said you are a data scientist... I am planning to career pivot from spring boot to Ai and data science please suggest a transit path
Bro how could you marry someone who is already fuck£d.. don't know how many times she had got.. telling you with my experience my ex when we were in relationship she said she got physical only once but I got to know she had 4 physical relationships in past so you should have not married.. Also if someone who is already fuck£d she will definitely compare the s£x bcoz girls don't forget that ever.. If she is not enjoying she will simply say u have problems bcoz she is habitual of that force and hard s£x.. which she enjoyed in her twenties.. Once I was talking to a girl for marriage purpose 1st ques she asked are you good in bed if not then we should not proceed..😁😁😅 Then i said we should try once and she disconnected
You are stuck in past you need to come out of it
That smile means nothing and let her thing whatever she wants to or what ever the society wants to or let the society go whereever it wants to you don't look back and you just keep moving ahead. Get into travel groups you will fall in love with it. Eventually you will meet someone but be careful.
Do meditation dude. Learn to accept your past. It will help you prepare for future.
Be cool, move on, she just had courteous smile... don't get into trap.
Aise hi achhe ldke phase huye hain. Hum idhar arrange mein ladka dhunde toh kaha milenge.
dont ever go with her, she is not fit for you,,,just find some one who will accept you,,,,,performance is the not the problem,,,just go to the good docter you issues will get solved.
Yovv kavala padatha yaa nimathiya thaniya eruu....unmaya love panna aluthu ta aganu🖤
Hope you didn't smile back, just carry on with your life, let her think what ever she wants to, that's not going to help you in any way. Move on..
She might not be getting someone for timepass, so she smiled after seeing you thinking few days can be passed until she finds a new one. So, ignore n live ur life. Do not invite unnecessary drama just coz someone is getting bored in their life.
It’s testing you if you’re still stupid or not. Feel the hurt for a bit and move on.
Shameless people are like this only. Forget the past, heal yourself.
#jezebel woman you should have may be given second thought..... Before marrying.... She will be like there for ever,any men are going to fall for her..... 🙃😒
You get married & hav kids , forget that past , I am not blaming her , it’s her way of enjoying life
Be masculine not simp!
Why are you breaking your head about the smile? If you like smile back else just move on. There are no answers to why people behave a certain way. They just mirror our blindspots. Create a better future for yourself instead being boggled by her behaviour.
Just recall this santhanam comedy whenever you recall about her " Ava aalu ila macha ....."
Better to forget/ leave those girls/boys who have multiple partners . These people can never be faithful and satisfied in life
What exactly is your problem??
Live ur life. Don't hold on to the past
Such ladies are hopeless .. don't worry brother god will show you the way. By the way it could be that she might have thought that you were such a good person and she left you and the current guy might not be good in character and behavior so she might have regretted leaving you hence she smiled I have seen such ladies who come to their ex again after missing them .. they should never be entertained again. Not even a hi or smile dont waste your thoughts on her .. Just move on and that will be sweetest revenge when she will see you living a good life
Oh I expected an alimony/settlement part in your story. Usually these bi@c*hes do this for extracting money in the form of alimony / compensation
Shameless people smile😊
Why does ppl like u always get such girls and vice versa
When you got to know about her past only you could have cancelled the marriage...You keep reading other stories to know how society is changing....
Bro she wants Deep physical intimacy with some willldd and long foreplay u could not apply this process so she run away don't worry u try another marriage
You are a good man. You don't deserve an uncultured girl Move on..
These days most marriages are crap those who stay in marriage both men n women undergo lot of problems. Be happy that you are single now n enjoy.
She is trying to join u again
Lucky you got saved. Move on n be happy.
Time to move on
❤️saved..
Why do you still think about her? Move on. You have to start Looking for another relationship. Never ever let her come into your proximity again.
🤔bro why are you silly? Dont feel pain dont feel depression what ya need to do is keep ya head high no matter when and how many times you meet ya ex just smile or just ignore as if you cant see irrelevant person once ya do this you will never feel pain in this matter
1. The fact that u thought u had to "forgive her" for her past and 1st experiences Is the 1st problem; 2. Being inexperienced is one thing... that can be improved. But thinking that means u have a moral high ground... is not. 3. Why I point these out? Cz if u don't fix that attitude, you're gonna have a problem in the future too. 4. As for her - Her POST divorce behavior is that which is more concerning - A. Why were u even hearing news from mutuals about her?; B. If what you're saying is true (and not just a bitter rant by a jealous ex), then you dodged a bullet. Be happy, move on. Find someone who is physicaly more compatible along with being emotionally compatible this time. Being on similar experience levels. Don't go looking for a young virgin like many f00ls do to assuage their ego, cz that's how u may end up in another bad marriage. And then take ur call.
Sad to hear your story .she may smile at you like a friend or maybe any guy dumped her so again she may plan to use you . When the doctors side there is nothing wrong with you .she can't say your medically unfit for it to her family and ruin your reputation. She belongs to the street . Will learn her lesson one day . You move on . Live your life . Don't ruin your mental peace by thinking of her.
Focus on your career. Forget her. Though it's hard if someone is bad to you.
Bro avanga casual ah kuda sirichi irukkalam just let it go. If you want to move on just forget about her and focus on your family and yourself. Move on and if your family or friends talk about her just ask them not to talk.
Lucky guy. Virgin deserve virgins
She only smiled at you your luck she didn't come again to exploit your good deeds...never turn back to false and fake humans...
The same thing happened to me in reverse while I was in Bangalore. I am in the same situation as you
Chill bro, dont behave like a boomer uncle
Corporate Stories & Confessions @highlight To be frank, we are becoming animals. To be frank, in animals too, there are some noble creatures. But, we are not. She is not a wife material. And more over, not only you whom ever she married, it might be endup in divorce only. Because, again, she is not a wife material.
Some people don't feel or have the ability to sense suffering of others, just ignore
Dodged an brahmos bro! Forget dt beach!
Ava oru lolayee, ava ellarayum pathu siripa it's not even worth talking about her , move on man
May b her expectations of physical intimacy is different and you didnt match up ! She may have hyper needs ? ! Its not her mistake nor yours but she shudnt insult u ! In India physical intimacy may b just doing d act by man ! But it isnt so ! Women may not ask because most men term her as character less! Intimacy is not a act it s bonding for both partners! You dont bother abt her ! Let her be in her lane !
Move on....
put a case against her for harassment
Looks like you are an introvert, so it is common to think like so, and even more common if you have such bitter experience with her. But past is past, and never get in touch with past, if it questions your dignity. Having a common city you would see her in future, so just prepare for it, and better to develop apathy from her. I would suggest you to move on, look for new alliance with a decent girl.
How terrible this is! No one deserves such humiliation! Karma hits sooner or later. Just move on. I hope you find true love soon. She never deserved you.
People often fail to understand his pain. He describes how she was smiling while he hung his head in sorrow, which highlights how cruel people can live without guilt or shame, while the kind-hearted suffer immensely. He is reflecting on how life seems to punish the kind while rewarding those who act immorally. Trash her bro. They do not deserve dignity ,love or respect. You deserve to live with dignity. Take her picture, write bitch and burn the picture.
Bro If you are reading my msg than please help me to find a job in your field I have also done Btech as a special branch in Data science please help me And ping me if u can
Why are u so obsessed with her? Tracking her life and all? Just move on na. She clearly didn't love you. Pls find someone compatible and stop stalking her.
U move on bro...get married to a cultured girl and settle down..forget her
Move on! Forget her! She has probably seen many males like you, forgotten who you are, thinking this is a fresh fish and smiled? Snap out of your fantasies! Control yourself.
Just ignore to that that bitch smile , for her sex is everything in life , time will teach good lesson to her one they then she will realize life is not about only sex , sex give happiness for few minuts but a good partner gives happiness for life long specially in old age , when body does ask for sex
u got saved from a bitch so stay happy
Bro bury the past and think about future ignore her completely don't give her any chance ok
Give her a sarcastic smile next time..it should haunt her
Bach Gaye bhosadi ke....you can never satisfy a vaishya
Its time to move on. After u divorced her, there was no point for you to know what she was/is doing with her life. you should give a f.. abt what she thinks,what she does with her own life.. Get a grip and find a girl for urself (some one who does not have a past !!) and this time use ur brains
She is very worst girl in world. Please don't bother her . If she marry next person she will never satisfy. She needs new person every day. She is not marriage material
Dont u see what's happening? U still love her, u r still smitten by her and that's y u r still decoding meaning of her smile! An absolute awful human being- no sense of loyalty, purity,emotions none n yet good men like u go ga ga over such creeps? Why- looks! Nothing else. She is damn pretty and thus u chose to ignore her past present n even future! Such a 3rd class character n u r sitting here n cursing God n nature. Dude there r less charming avg looking good souls, girls , did u consider them. No. Y, looks! So yes, she has looks n options n zero ethics. So u r suffering. If u just see the ugliness of her character not looks u wont be in pain! U wont decode that God evil smile! Settle for a lady with gold heart not looks n see ur life turning into a heaven
Thanks God You are saved bro.. She is pyschik nympho.. Better leave her and seek a new Girl marry and make a happy family..
Bro move on. Be a man. Delete her. Forget the smile. She is cheap commodity.
"A smart, decent guy who is working as a Data Scientist. Born and raised in a traditional and spiritual family." - as if all others are ugly, indecent, and born and raised in non traditional criminal family !!!!!! Looks like you are the type of person who thinks that world begins and ends with you because you are decent, smart and raised in a traditional and spiritual family. Would be really interesting to hear the other side of the story to really know why she dumped you !!!!!!!!
Such people called as ... real....itch
Good riddance... dont think about her brother, she doesn't deserve you.
She is a nympho
Why are you stuck at that wastrel, move on
As long as you keep believing that you are a victim, you will keep feeling low and inferior. If I were you, I would hire a private investigator, get her pics and vids with her multiple affairs and make it public, especially to her family and your mutual friends Stop Self-Shaming!
You're a 39 year old man... Please STOP over thinking... What do you do when you see your characterless weirdo neighbour, you smile and leave right... Same is the situation here... Smile... At max say "Hi" ... Then Leave... You can say "F**k You!, Don't look at me!" And punch her in the face but that'll cost you your job and land you in jail (pun intended). Take care and God bless you 🙂
Disgusting lady..move on..dont waste time thinking of her..