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#C27221 M33, Am i A Good person or Acting to be a Good person? I am stuck in between these 2. And want to fix if some changes needed within me or no. These 2 incidents recently made me ask it to myself and i need your help to make me understand it as you'll be unbiased. I decided to stay Unmarried, as i was unable to find a good match in the past cos of my Financial situation, within time, I scaled up the Ladder of Success, from Buying Luxury car to Building my New Home to taking my parents to Foreign Tour, and now i am searching for one Love for sure. I am religious and introvert, And I'll be the first person to run away from Fights or Anger zones. So their are 2 instances, 1) I Befriend a Girl from US, it was from a normal debate, and i felt some attraction towards her which eventually developed in a good friendship, she was the Card i used to stop mom from seeing any girl for me, as i was interested in her. 2 months, down the Line, She wasnt Dropping any clue to my efforts, i thot, may be my efforts are too cold for her to get impress, But the more she ignored, the more i felt, that i should chase her, this was when i was 31, after 5 months or so, she shared that she is going thru Divorce, and explained me everything, From marital Rape to betrayal, eventually Her Husband Married American for Green card and left her. I had sympathy for her, including attraction. Now, Mom had created a Boundary that i cant surpass and she was limited to friendzone, i as a true friend, Stayed friend for like 2 yrs, Till last month, When she got annoyed of my Friendly flirt, which i believed was Normal, just a Kiss Emoji, which she even gave me once or twice, so i thot to give her back, on another occasion. She got annoyed, and asked me, if i am thinking of taking advantage of her, as she is alone, Divorcee and Down. I stayed silent, gave her benefit of Doubt and didnt reply her back, She told me upfront that she wants to end friendship and I didnt Protested. Felt like its just not worth the fight. 2) 18 yr Old poor Kid, Recently, joined as a watchman in a society next to my home. I felt petty for him. He was once clicking pic with my Merc and i asked him if i can click the pics for him and got to know him. He used to walk 3 kms from home to society and his pain made me help him, I gave him My Cycle, asking him to use it, and I'll ask if i need any day. In return, he told me, if he can bring anything for me whenever i want and he'll be der for me anytime. I used to give him some bucks in return, and would not let him work for free, tried to teach him that tobacco is Wrong and so on. Lately, i saw him coming without cycle. After few days, i asked him, to which he replied that it got stolen, i didnt reacted to it much, but later, I would ask him to get something for me, He would charge extra commission or sometimes, would say Money fell from his pocket, would Call me in uneven times, and ask me if i have some money again n again. I tried to make him understand, but all in vein. It got on my nerves and i confronted him. And scolded him pretty nicely, did abused him as well, asking if he thinks i am a chu***a and so on. Anyways, and warned him that one phone call can remove him from his job as well. He started crying and called his brother, He came running and we had a great Verbal Fight. Eventually, He had set backs and calmed down, But kept saying me, Ameer aadmi garib ko loot raha h, garib ka faida uthate h aapke jaise log. (People like you take advantage of poor people) and started folding hands, You big people, We have to say sorry even if we are right. Such talks, stayed with me. These recent incidents makes me ask a question, was i right or Do i need to change myself? If no, then these trust issues are new to take shape. I dont know, please help me to understand it. Thanks