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Submit ConfessionGender: Prefer not to say30 May 2026 at 8:48 pm
#C27212 Hello, I am a 31-year-old man and have been married for the past 3.5 years. Before my marriage, I was in a relationship that lasted around 1.5 years from 2017-2019. I was deeply emotionally and physically attached to my girlfriend at that time. I never discussed that relationship with my wife before we got married. That was my first physical relationship where I was involved. Over the years, I have realized that I do not feel the same level of emotional and physical connection with my wife as I once felt with my former partner. I have genuinely tried to build that bond. I make efforts to express my affection by bringing flowers, chocolates, and spending quality time together, hoping that stronger feelings would develop over time. However, despite my efforts, I still feel that the connection is different from what I experienced in my previous relationship. I care for my wife and fulfill my responsibilities, but internally I often feel that I am not experiencing the same depth of emotions. Because I believed these feelings would eventually grow, I have continued to act as though everything is normal, but I am now concerned that my feelings have not changed even after 3.5 years of marriage. I would appreciate guidance from people who are older, more experienced, or who may have gone through a similar situation. How should I understand these feelings, and what steps can I take to build a deeper emotional connection in my marriage. Thankyou
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If you had married your ex you would be in the sane position now. The thrill is in the unmarried part.
You may be comparing the intensity of a past romance with the reality of marriage. First relationships often feel more passionate because they are new, uncertain, and idealized in memory. A successful marriage is not always about recreating those feelings but about building intimacy, trust, friendship, and shared experiences over time. Instead of focusing on what is missing, try understanding what emotional needs are currently unmet in your marriage. Open communication, quality time, vulnerability, and even marriage counseling can help deepen the connection. Also, be careful not to compare your wife with a version of your ex that exists mostly in memory after many years.
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It was actually a thrill for u because it was before ur marriage, after marriage it remains no longer a thrill but a simple physical need or hunger ,thats y u feel that u don't get that satisfaction..but its all mindset,remove ur ex from ur mind and heart..why spoil ur present with ur past..talk openly abt ur sexual desires or feelings to ur wife,but I wud suggest do not compare both the women..one was ur past and one is ur present..
Firstly, You were not ready for marriage. That's a huge mistake which you did. See marriage is not a coping mechanism or milestone or showing the world something or as a vengeful step. It's an outcome of your success and self-realization that you want to invite someone in life that will act as a value add and you can co-create and develop everything together. For what whatever energies or requirements you have unless those are fulfilled, DON'T DO IT. I don't know your wife's side of the story, but if she's genuinely a good person and had no past baggage and is fully invested in you. Then you're messing up her life for no apparent reason. So advice is you can't compare an apple with an orange. Your past is your past, it should be ideal to bury it, and not even look in that direction. But I strongly suggest that you make sure to tell your wife. Never have walls with a person who is fully invested in you. You should be completely naked and truthful, no lies , no deception, no walls. 🙂
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Forgetting the past is really not so easy when u have actually put in all ur efforts to it. What u r feeling right now is completely normal cuz u never really did move out from ur past which is now haunting ur present. I would suggest before making things worse either u tell ur wife abt it or forget abt ur past.
Rename ur wife with ur Ex name
men never moved on
Bruhh.....go for counselling .