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Submit ConfessionGender: Male29 May 2026 at 3:25 pm
#C27196 I am in a relationship for the last 4 years our marriage is fixed.. (only fixed not engaged) But for the previous few months we are fighting too much.. Or should I say she is overreacting too much for every silly thing.. She wants me to Agree and do whatever she says.. And if I don't do that - she always fights.. Not normally fights but she goes to extreme.. For eg : today is her brother's birthday she invited me .. but I couldn't go due to this summer and my work.. Mind you she lives 130 kms away from my city. And her city is not connected to train So only way to go there is by bus or by bike as I don't have a car and it is very hectic to travel. She invites me on every little occasion, some times I go sometimes I can't go.. and this is first time I am not going and she is fighting so much for this little thing.. she is not understanding my problem. She wants whenever she or her parents invite me, i should go there always. At this point I have started thinking that if I have taken right decision to marry her , if we are good together? What will I do if we keep fighting like this after marriage.. Small fights here and there is understandable but these extreme fights over silly things is frustrating.. and it is affecting my mental health. She makes every small issue very big. And one more reason for me to not going this time is I think If I will go for every little occasion, that will hamper my image as well ..as their relatives might think I am free all the time..
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Bro Runn...!!!! In the opposite direction as fast as possible... This is not a red flag,it's red carpet.. do not walk on it..!!
Time to think.. God is warning u. Think think and think
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This is the teaser for you..
God is giving u warning sign
Listen to your gut. Don’t marry
Are you getting married into an equal relationship or are you signing off ownership control of your life to your current gf? Will she do all the things she expects you to do ? Run for your life till you still can, you won't get this chance again.
It's a red flag. You need to openly discuss with her....can convey to her that her behaviour is making you confused for your decision. If you want to know whether you should marry her or not, you can go to steer-U.com and opt for a compatibility check. You will get answer based on nakshatra. Hope it helps
Wahi pyar hai
A lots of negative vibes here. She maybe over excited tat finally she gonna marry her love of life. She now see u as part of her family. So she feels that u need to be in every family functions It's normal over reaction from a girl. Try explaining your situation and not to have high expectations and it's not practical all the time. If she still adamant and refuse to listen u may consider about breaking up. Those advising to leave her... is leaving a 3 years relationship so easy for u all? How if the next girl behave the same after another 4 years? Leave her and stay single? Or jump to another? U guys advising to leave so that when the next guy who gonna marry her put confessions here saying I'm married to a girl who has past life & u all can say leave her bro a girl with past relationship is not worthy?
One of my friends got divorced within 1 year after marriage due to the same issue you are talking about
What stops you from running?
Well we need to hear her side as well. If you have second thoughts, discuss with your family
Talking to her and making her understand your situation is of no use. She will not change for sure. These overreacting people take everything to the extreme and won't compromise for anything. She has no respect for you....not even understanding your problems. You still have a chance to come out of this... please make sure your peace of mind remains at the end of the day
Just few months before marriage fights are very common nowadays.
One time you fight and stop talking to her. Maintain silence for some days. Then she will realise and come back to you.
She is a control freak. Most women are, just that the intensity varies. Also she will say they are doing all this because she loves you. They normally bring up love, as the reason/excuse, for their bad behaviour. My advice to you will be to rethink about marrying her. Don't rush.
Be thankful that she wants u around. But at the same time... seeing the aggression... be careful and get a pre-nup and stay safe
Immediately without a second thought, break it silently and move on. You will be in a hell, telling you with the same experience. Thanks.
Run baby run no woman is worth losing your respect or peace of mind
Unakellam indha chinna visyam kastam na .. nee ellam orey roof kizha vazhndu adjust pannitu oru Uyirea pathu maasam kasta pattu pathukutu epdi wife ku helpful ah iruka pora … andha ponnu naladuku achi odru
What is small for u is big for her. It is not about anyone's fault.
Patli Gali sy Nikall Lo Guru...
Try to explain her your thoughts boldly. Tell ur opinions towards life. If she agree move forward if denying move on.
Dear brother if a girl is demanding believe me it will so harsh u will come to suicide ..see a simple girl not a girl who don't follow Ur words . In my sense ladki ko ladke ke hisab se rehna chaiye agar ladka sach me sahi hai
Bro, choose peace! It will only increase i guess, remember her tempo will be completely fine with another person's tune sadly not with you. Choose peace I repeat! Break it up
Just talk to her clearly. Explain her everything once . Try to make her understand ur side. When she is calm and in mood to listen. May be she will understand the things. Bt try to explain only when she is in mood to sort out things. Try this once kr twice . If it's still going on, then u need to move on. Also give her that thought that if it's not working u will move on so that also get time to think.. just don't give her a instant shock also.
Many people here in comment are telling u to break up ,but ask urself do u really love her coz 3 years isn't a joke ,I'm in the same situation where we argue over silly reason, i felt tht he isn't trying enough eventually he asked for break but i refused to keep up coz i really do love him , To be honest people call it toxic but me as a girl want my guy to be there even if it's a same occasion ig u should talk to her about it instead of talking advice from random people coz it will only reunion ur relationship, u will find many people u love but it's hard to find some who loves u and wants to be with u all the time and ya as for me , we are currently trying to fix our relationship coz at the end of the day all tht mtrs is we love each other
Bhai, bhag ja. Aisa mat phaso
Are you physically hadnicap ????Dont u have legs to run ??
Bhaag Milkha Bhaag !!
I think she is not mature enough. And don't expect that someday maturity will come to her. There is still time ,think about it. Bcoz later life will be very unhappy , then divorce, alimony etc will come into picture.
Oru Six month Ava kita pesatha.. marriage process ah konja naal hold panu... Athukulam purinji sari agitana proceed panu otherwise "Thambi poidu"
Any relationship which gives u mental problems, run from it...and stay peace ✌🏻
🤣bro tbh ya need to run this is your chance if you miss dont come here again to share another story
don't marry her if you want peace
Dude, run.
Find a new girl and fix
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Sit and talk to her family along with her. If the understand and she changes then good. If not... Break up peacefully and let go. Without proper understanding, no relationship works in the long run.
Think twice
Actually this is an alarming situation & high time to run away from this marriage! She's eccentric & a complete red flag! You can call it a blessing in disguise that at least u hv got a chance to save your life before it's too late. Things could go to any extreme after marriage! Save your life, golden opportunities do not come roz-roz!
See most of girls and family is like this only.....They always expect son in law should be in person....just said to the girl and family in straight you can't attend all functions as u are in work and busy.....even after that if they create problem just come out of the engagement.....if they change themselves don't complaint they don't respect and invite u in future
Ask her why this is so important for her. Try to understand her perspective instead of concluding "She makes every small issue very big", these are subjective matter. Everyone has their priorities. After asking her about why this matters for her if that still feels unreasonable, ask for solution on how she would manage in your situation. Let her come to the conclusion herself, so she won't feel like the decision is being imposed upon her. And as you said these fights are happening after the marriage was fixed, most likely the controlling behavior is due to some other insecurities. Find that out.
yes do not go ahead with her......it will make your life hell,,,,i am also facing the same after marrige,,,although its love marrige,,,,,,
after marriage where is she going to live ? with u right? all her life she has to go where u go ? yes she shudnt force u to leave ur work and travel tht much . by the way , you can leave her .
Get to know the facts. Every girl will overreact about something at some point in life. You won’t find a girl who is understanding all the time. These are just the ups and downs of life stop being hypocrites.
Run away bro. Red flag. If u want to destroy ur life then get married.
She and her family are completely red flags. Run run from this
Just check she is not getting fucked by other men Reat everything is cool 🆒😎
Looks highly immaturely girl. Such girl emotional not stable kind if adamant if things don't go their way be careful it's not something can be fixed such behavior