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no one is lucky by the marrying another proud to be a teacher,a teacher can make many professionals where as no other professional can make a teacher he knows the culture of IT ( hook ups and dating, one night stands,trips for promotion ) that's why he didn't marry a IT woman by the salary he may have upper hand but by the character and profession you will always have upper hand.

Tell him peacefully that what u have earned in ur life is what u wanted and u are satisfied with it. And the way he insulting u is very hurtful and disrespectful. And don't bother by his words. Keep doing whatever u r doing.

Just tell him frankly that he is hurting you. Whatever he says is really insulting you. Unless and until you didn't open up people will think you are enjoying it. Even though it's a husband or your son you have to maintain your self respect and dignity. So don't lose that. You are generating a future doctor and engineers. You should be proud of what you are doing

Well, if you can do it bravely, praise praise and praise whenever you meet someone or have guests. Use flowery language, say how lucky you are and how unfortunate he is. He deserved an IITian wife and none was available for him. What a big compromise he had to do. Just stay thick skinned and live life to the fullest. Inspite of he being IITian, you have to earn to fend for yourself. .... Bash sweetly.

You are young..work hard..crack govt exams..u will get good salary....show him ur worth

Looks like he married out of parents pressure

He seems a narcissist. Learn to take a stand for yourself in life. Do not tolerate loose comments from anyone. Show them their place once. Believe me next time they will think twice.

Ignore all these I have been a teacher You are doing a very good job Teacher is something else, don't forget that you might have students who has or will enter in IIT Let them All the best,proud that you have choosen to b teacher, usually good teachers are always with less salary

Bro never let him talk to you like this. Give him an ultimatum..that you will leave if he says stuff like tbis

If he is insulting u , he is jealous of few qualities u have which he does not have like confidence, courage etc. Find out which one. It is his fright or flight response which he overcomes only by insulting others and u are his easy target. He looks like emotionally stable and u are not. So dont react. Try not to give in to your feeling, control ur mind practise calmness. Few times if u dont react, all this will stop or he will continue throughout. 'No Reaction' is only remedy for male ego. Earlier in your life u master that, then he will learn a lesson

Tell him that you are born lucky. It's your past good karma. Tell him if he still keep making fun of you may be next Janam he too will get the same back. Usko Etna suna do ki next time bolne ke pahale sochna padhe.

Assuming all other conditions are acceptable in your case... If he's really questioning your abilities to earn... Advice would be asking him point blank if he's so obsessed with an equally earning wife, why did he marry you in the first place. If there's any hostile answers or environment that's created get families involved and get in a constructive discussion so that this instances are not repeated. If still it takes place, talk with your family and proceed accordingly. Always remember, one of the most respectable jobs is that of a teacher... hence we always say "Acharya Deo Bhava" which comes after Pitri and Matri deo bhava.. and if some jumped up educated m0ron can't accept that and there's no respect for you and your profession it's better to pack up and leave. Take Care and God bless you 🙂

He only studied. Not educated

Always marry equalent

Didn't he know any of this when he married you?

If he studied in iit what?? U try to become a professor in IIT

Why did he choose you then from all the options he has before your marriage? Maybe those better options did not even want him and you were the best among them! You also stay proud i’d say, Teachers job is great, you are educated, see if you can switch to a higher paying job.

Leave him ... Self respect is very important, if he and his family doesn't respect you now , then they never will in future your life will be worse God forbid. Hare Krishna

Better leave him then only he will know ur value. Toxic ppl are like this. Once u leave u will find ur own peace. Stay blessed dear.

Why did he marry you when he never thought you both are on equal footing?

It seems he and his parents forgot how he got to where he is now — he was guided by Teachers. Remind them of that. The rest is up to you. If this is the only issue and everything else is good, consider talking to him calmly but firmly. Tell him you won't tolerate that kind of insult anymore

Aap government job k exams de skte ho like upsc mpsc banking

Talk with #husband on a trip and tell your feelings . At least your #husband will understand that he can pass this message to #monther in better way. Further, with time your salary will also increase.

खुद को मजबूत बनाओ रोज रोज मरने से अच्छा है एक बार जोर आजमा लिया जाए,इलाज करो साले का

Kitna bada issue nahi Ghar ka nok jok social media par daalne se cool nahi lagoge it's very normal

Tue question is a iitan girl marry school teacher never Kis family aur husband wife main aisa mjjak ni hota Bt aourat ko chiye kyab

पहले तो आप अपना नौकरी छोड़ दे, फिर घर में क्लेश डालना शुरू करे, फिर उन सबको सफोकेशन होने लगेगी🥴

Its waste explaining him how it hurts or bothers, he might be doing it to deliberately to belittle you and he will do it more knowing it affects u, those lines will always be the winning argument in any fight u guys have, he might even say u cant take a joke blah blah! You should feel proud and big about urself, see what u can do for u to feel that way! How successful u wanna be or what success looks like, is totally upto you!! If you feel u r not doing enf, then look for other jobs, study more, etc., or if you already love what u r doing and just you're husband's comments are the only thing thats bothering you, the best thing would be to pretend or not acknowledge at all! Dont react what so ever! Not coz u r not strong, coz u r not weak either to let that affect you! 🙂 Good luck

tell him u get hurt by his jokes nd he shouldn’t jake on ur career plus don’t think any less of your self. what i’m today is because of teacher who taught me through the years . U have power to make your students successful nd even legends in their fields someday.teachers are foundation of every society so don’t think any less of your self . your career nd profession is as important as your husband’s

Accept that he and his parents are great and tell them they are great but u tell how u feel in very polite manner and keep healthy boundaries noneed to feel r depressed about urself don't give ur keep of happiness to some one

Face him and tell him it's enough, draw a fine line , it's not funny to insult anyone, tell him clearly that you don't like such loos comments and it's not funny at all. If he still continues better to leave. If he understands he will stop You are happy with your job and earrings that's what matters

Insted of sharing here, you should talk to your husband, he is your husband and you should discuss! Depression is not a good symbol, be happy, basically insaan ki self respect then uska khush rehna sab se pehle uski priority ho! Aap husband se discuss kre kahe aapko acha nhi lgta aise ! Don't convert discussion into argument just a discussion

Ask your husband who taught him during his school & college life, teacher or someone else ???

Make him understand that you're uncomfortable at those jokes & feeling inferiority complex. He might be saying those words in a friendly mode. Or do some drama by skipping food & all then convey him the message when he comes to convince 😂

Be confident and u should build ur character to face these things. If u r happy with ur husband let these things to go as like that . If not tel him frankly u r not comfortable.

Madam, a loving husband should make his wife feel valued, not make her question her worth. But please don't let anyone convince you that your salary, college, or profession defines you. You are an M.Sc., a teacher, and a human being deserving of respect. His way of speaking may be wrong, but instead of letting it break you, let it fuel you. Learn new skills, grow in your career, and become the version of yourself that even you are proud of. The sweetest success is when the person who made you doubt yourself is forced to see your true worth.

Share this thought with him ..simple Don't think too much .

Husband and wife are not judged by profession. Instead they should become strength and pillar for each other

Ofcourse he is going to have ego .. He has passed out from Top most engineering institute of India . he is cream .. But do ask him why did he marry You when He knew about your qualifications and salary ? He should have married IIT IIMs rather than teacher .. ?

Though he is IIT , he climbed using ladder called Teachers. When he hurt you which obviously means he disrespect the path he travelled

He is right at his position. You would do the same if you were at his position.

My wife is a school teacher and I work in IT. I probably earn 3 times her salary. But I still respect her job. She is making an impact and she has a passion for teaching. Students respect her and take her advice seriously. I am not making any direct impact other than paying heavy taxes and paying bills and future savings. But I don't enjoy my job as much as my wife does. I am proud of her. Whenever I see any ex-students of her meeting her and telling they have achieved something, it's a different feeling.

good keep going and marrying the ones who are above you and rejecting the ones who are equal to your pay scale . Keep up the good work

Give your age you are still at the beginning of your career, instead of feeling insulted and depressed take it as a challenge that you can overcome by investing your time and effort to achieve what is lacking in your life. Teaching is a noble profession that has the power to transform an entire generation into enabling them to face their future. You must put up your head high and walk with pride of knowing that it is teachers like you who have given your valuable time and lessons to development not just any person like your husband but also the entire nation. Think of the success that Mr, A. P. J. Abdul kalam had achieved being top scientists and his contribution to the nation snd he did not just stop there he became the president of India and he did not stop there all the while he kept doing what he loved the most which was teaching the students and he departed while doing what he loved. In front of such great person your husband is just a speck of dust don't give much shit about him. Just focus on what matters to you ahead to gain your dignity and pride.

Ask him if would have been able to get where he is without a teacher!!

This is expected that's y a non IIT ian should never marry an IIT ian

Why didn't he marry an IIT ian women?

Bahen agar wo bahut educated hota to tumhe bura feel nahi karata. Suggestion yahi hai ki wahan se nikal lo divorce him ASAP. This thing will never get better. Save yourself

Dear He is your husband ask him to not say rubbish thing whatever triggering you simple. He will listen you for sure .

Give back. Your peace matters and you matter the most.

People generally underestimate & humiliate others when they themselves are frustrated inside. Ignore him and be happy with ur 15K salary and try to grow for ur own financial independence. God bless.

And IIT guy can't make another IIT guy..but a teacher can make 100 IIT people ..so be proud

Divorce him it’s not too late be independent and find the RIGHT LIFE PARTNER, not the perfect person because nothing is perfect in life Thanks 🙏

Divorce lele behen wrna aage chalkar woh aur bhi cheezo ka tana marega, ye toh starting h bass

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Tell him to learn to respect your spouse else you are done with it. See if that changes, but some people never change

Talk to him and tell him how he is making you feel. Maybe he is not realizing what he is doing

Ye chij shadi se pehle sochna tha ,tbhi bade buzurg keh gaye he apne se jyada unche or jyada niche ehsiyat (Education or Money dono)walo se rishta nhi karna chahiye

Alimony pe daldo saari hekdi iit ka nikal jayegi 😂😂

Tell him peacefully exactly how u feel... he will surely stop if he respects and loves you .. if he doesnt ... you have ur answer !

Don't be disappointed..... Be proud what u are... Just ignore others... And enjoy your job

Did u beg him to marry No right! It was his choice. No marriage survives without respect.

You should be also proud to be a teacher. Note he is Iit-ian because of teachers also. We are also teacher for last 12 years, note that I was in IT earlier and did my B.Ed at age 47+...

No kids yet long life ahead simply divorce and move on. People quit after long relationships if mentality mismatches. In your case you opted to marry which is ethically and morally correct tried your best couldn't cope up hence file divorce No If No buts. If he challenges and wants to go for contested divorce file domestice Violence act along side with compensation. First go for simple mutual divorce.

On a lighter note, this paragraph should have been much better if truly written by MSc and BEd studied Government teacher. Now I know, why people don't send their kids to Govt schools

He is right .. You don't match his standards .. Do things to match his standards ..

When u marry aukat se bahar then accept the consequences

Your husband is toxic… Divorce him and find a decent guy to settle with. If you continue with this toxic marriage then you will definitely suffer from depression after 5-10 years. Mutual respect is a basic thing for a marriage to sustain. If he is not respecting you then just leave.

Better to leave him!

Acceptance and happiness really matters in every relationship but he doesn’t respect your job, and you’re not happy in that relationship, bro its long journey don’t compromise just a sake of society…choose your own path😊 Take care

A typical rich family is your husband, face him, this is enough no more taunts, jokes anymore, tell him that like you teachers make him rich and educated, never underestimate teachers

Ek divorce ka paper bhej dho ..phir dono barabar ho jaoge..

If have no kids, get courage and then file for divorce, get rid of the toxic people. You are young and will get someone who will value you.

Leave him. It might look difficult now but trust me it is gets better. Have some self respect.

Your problem is a serious one. Try to find a simple and effective solution. If I had been in your place, I would have said, "I have studied your nature and trust me if you'd married someone more educated you couldn't have survived the ego clash. You can never match my temperament." Hurt where it hurts, make him realise what you're facing. If he understands you, his family won't matter.

I have seen this with most of IITians, they tend to pose and show off, education is not about showing off but then I guess its more to with Ego thing!

30+ aur serious relationship ki talaash?" "Verified profiles, AI-powered matching, meaningful connections." "ThirtyFound. Because real relationships deserve better.

Why do men marry to later insult wife and her families? This cannot go on~ Supreme court verdict. Ye padha k suna dena.

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Leave him this will be the best decision

It’s just mis match not to worry take things casually. If u feel more worsen take a call live the way you like, let that proudy family vl pay for that.

Mock him back . Tell him 'Then God must hate u if u think u got a loser spouse , and if u think ur too good then I must be Gods favourite child to have a too good spouse , must be ur bad karma u end up with me , what u wanna do now ? Pay me alimony and throw me out of ur life, i dont mind'

U should have found out before marriage anyways he should realise asap

Discuss d Same matter wth ur partner, let him know he is hurting u. U both r earning Awesome in ur own way

You don't need to prove anything to anyone, be upfront about how you feel if after clearing stating about the situation don't waste your life move out simply and build your life if you cannot value yourself no one will.

Pay 50-50 bills

Do not play in night at bed - let him understand the needs. You made yourself available so he took the advantage.

Ignore his words But don't forget to remind him that a truly educated person never insults any profession. You're a teacher because you're educated and have the necessary degrees.

Some other reacher has made him IITian, he needs to know that.

Mast raho aap bs

1. Why did he marry you after knowing this 15k job? 2. Whether he asked you to leave this job and stay at home? 3. In case he is ready to accept you as a homemaker and you are also agreeing to forego your job that may be the best case scenario. 4. Doing a 15k job may result in 10k or less after daily commuting, office expenses. Whether this will be worthy for the time you are spending in your workplace? A 10-15k job may not keep you self reliant and that's the reality no one is talking about. In case you leave him without any maintenance, will you be able to survive on your own? Ask yourself these questions and please discuss the matter with your spouse. You will get the best suggestion or solution.

Have the same discussion with him and his family with yours. This will eat you in next few years if not months and then you will be depressed for the rest of your life. Leave this toxic marriage if it continues. You will be relieved at the end of the day.

To apne standard k hisab se shaadi krni hoti h.. paisa dekhkr shaadi krogi to yehi haal hoga..

Kuch nhi ignore maro....apna kartavy nibhao bhagwan aagey jakar acha kardenge.starting 2years mai hi bht saari sadia tootjaati h.Tum aisa mat aaney do .believe in god ,sab acha hojayega.

Ye to hona hi tha. Salary gap k baare me pehle se dimaag me kuch nahi aaya? Zaahir si baat hai aisa karenge hi. Mazak mazak me hamesha karte hi rahenge.

Jyada bano mat ye faltu ka suffocatuon kyu Bina IiT wale ke sath sadne se best jagah ho ladkiyo ka ye hai Acha mile to bhi dikkat kharab to be ..kuch bhi hai so tume sab chheze de rha to bardast bi karna seekhlo.jab nhi ho uske barabar nhi to kisi driver se karti Saadi IITIAN SE kyu ki

Why did u marry a rich man ? Bcos u wanted a free top notch lifestyle. Now deal with it.

Tell yr husband not to feel too proud. Ask him, if he would still stay married if he had married a much more educated n high earning girl or would he be traveling between courts fighting harassment cases n divorce with hefty alimony. Just tell him to consider himself to be lucky cos u haven't reached that breaking point yet. If he has any negatives like, doesn't help around house, is lazy in house, doesn't keep things tidy. Point out all these flaws n clap back at him n say, with these many flaws, u think, u deserve to insult me. Play the Michael Jackson song - man in the mirror song. Whenever he insults u, play it loud. Tell him openly, in ur view, he is failing as a husband each time he insults u n u feel less attracted to him each day, he opens his mouth. There ll be nothing more heart breaking to a iit kid, than hearing the words - failure...

Find some of his insecurities and give him back in front of people... Let's give him the taste of his own medicine

You should be proud of your credentials.. of your self worth... Life goes on.. You made a mistake of not doing your homework before marriage