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Submit ConfessionGender: Female28 May 2026 at 11:44 pm
#C27189 Hi F 31 I am married for 4 yrs now staying in Hyderabad away from home town with husband and in-laws. My husband is 33 yrs. We have faced some ups and downs in the past in our marriage mainly because of the excessive interference of our in-laws. He will not be ready to understand that and it will lead to some arguments at times. However, after a while, I will ignore that for the sake of marriage, we will get back to normal again to our daily routine and continue normally together. We will spend time, smile together etc. Later whenever I will try to discuss with my husband about some serious goals in the future like buying a vehicle together, he will bring those past things. He will say that I fight with him and he can't trust me. We have no bond and all this, even though we laugh and we spend time and share intimacy from time to time. He will say that he will observe me for years, and like this has been going on for years. I don't understand what he exactly wants or observes or it's that he is not serious. No serious future goals are getting fulfilled like no house together, no vehicle together, not even proper trips together. Every time same thing he will say which will lead to more dissatisfaction and quarrel between us. I don't understand there is some problem with me or him. Now I am 31 and 33, and somewhere deep down I feel time is running for parenthood. I told him we should plan for child. He is saying what is there to plan, when it is to happen it should happen. I said still there should be some timeline like in the next 2 years we should plan, since I am woman it might be difficult after an age. He is saying no and then that first we should have the bond. He will say that we do fight, and still we have not done anything in 4 years. I don't understand what he wants us to do. When I ask him, he will say all these and then such a disturbing situation will be created between us. I am really not understanding what are his real intentions. I feel hopeless and directionless in life. Pls guide me.
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Hyderabad mei hai jabtak biryani khao ji kya baigan ka pilaninga banate ..... Hyderabad ki potti ke chakar dikhra woh sstepney kaun hai find out karo phir ghaaap bolke do g pe do muh pe diyo
Don't get pregnant, he doesn't have good intentions. He is waiting for one shoe to drop, he will leave you sooner or later. Communicate with him clearly, let him know that there were some misunderstandings in earlier days of marriage and you have left those things behind. You are working on your marriage but you don't feel that he is doing the same. Ask him if he is ready to work on the marriage and trust you or not? If not, it is better to divorce each other now than after 5-7 yrs or 1-2 children later.
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He right. After baby birth. If u r going for divorce. He has to pay alimony and child support. So he's being careful
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What do you want ? If you want he has to go what you say - Take it on stamp paper - man never goes by woman's words even if they have been married for 50 long years .. Not happening .. so accept it or Fights will take place .. One day those fights will shape the future of relationship..
Are you taking any precautionary measures for pregnancy..if no, wait till it happens yes, drop those measures and wait for pregnancy...
He’s not serious about future life with you And don’t want to take any responsibility he wants to continue with you till he finds another option then he will leave you 💯
He is simply avoiding taking any responsibility and simply judging you. Something is going in his mind. Don't get overwhelmed with his approach. Try to take it lightly. If you want to know about your future with him plz feel free to go to steer-U.com where you will get instant future prediction without disclosing anyone's name but requires DOB. Hope it helps you
Go for marital counselling!!!
divorce and move on . n never stay with inlwas.
I don’t think this will end well.. Make a decision before it’s too late..
Not done anything in 4 yrs??? Wtf R U wasting your time for?
He's stupid. Take him to counseling.