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Submit ConfessionGender: Male28 May 2026 at 1:56 pm
#C27187 Hello, I am Male 31 and my wife is 33. We met each other in 2021 through a common friend and fell in love with each other. We were very sure about each other and got married in 2022. It was a love marriage but we somehow convinced our parents and made it arranged with their blessings. Just to give some financial idea, my wife's salary is less than 5 lakhs per month and mine is 26 lakhs per month. I was living in tear 1 city but she wanted to stay near her parents home because they were old and she wanted to take care of them. She would visit to her parents home quite often but whenever I asked her to visit my parents as well she always made an excuse like she doesn't have more leaves and all. From 2022 to 2026 , she has visited my house just 4 times. My parents always taunted me about this but I always told them let it be, one day she will realise and she will treat equally to you as well. I am paying rent, electricity bill, WiFi bill and maid expenses for the apartment she is staying thinking that she has low salary and it is difficult to manage these expenses in a society apartment. Now, from the last 1 year she kept telling me that she wants to separate from me and take a divorce. TBH, I am a fattu guy in these things. I am scared and stressed because my family never wanted me to marry her but I was deeply in love and I convinced them she is the best for me. I am not sure what went wrong but according to her the reason for the divorce is: 1) People of my salary are buying apartment,houses in the city but I have not been able to achieve that. 2) My parents did not treat her well like a family member 3) She thinks now that I am not good enough to be a father because I cannot manage our expenses and I will not be able to handle a new life's expense. That is the reason she never planned for a baby. 4) I am a kind of person who whenever gets angry says something which I should never say but again In a few hours I realise my mistake and say sorry. Yes, it is true that I have a lot of guilt if saying few things which I should not have said. Now, coming back to divorce, she has applied for the divorce and we already had a first date in the court. She also told me if I tell about divorce to anyone in the family she would make a false dowry/assault case against me. She doesn't want any alimony and ready to move out from the apartment where she is staying just after divorce. During the court proceeding, my eyes were full of tears because I had never imagined something like this in my darkest dream. Now, this overall situation is taking a hit on my personal and professional life. I am not able to perform in my office as well as I don't feel happy personally as well. In the other case, she is enjoying her life, buying new clothes, going on a trip. Now, what should I do? How should I manage this situation? I have not shared about my divorce thing to anyone, not even my best friend. I feel lonely and deep inside I am going in depression. I have responsibilities of my family and my younger brother otherwise I would have taken a wrong step of taking my life. Please suggest what to do. Sorry for the long story. This is my first time, I let my heart out and shared what I am feeling Thank you 😊
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26lakh pm guy will not have time to be on social media I guess. 👋👋👋
26 pm , likely you mentioned wrongly else you can afford mansion not house 😊. Although , difficult to accept but better to proceed as she is ok for separation without any alimony, you have age on your side to start life again. This is good for long term for both of you.
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Forgive me 26lpm and you dont know the difference between tier 1 and tear 1. :(
She won't change and she doesn't like to be in good terms with your parents or even you. May be you are not compatible or she lost interest. It's good that you don't have a child to drag and affect in this process. Try to be Practical in life. When you have good salary first thing buy a house and second thing focus on your mental health. When she is adamant about divorce better to accept the Reality and convince yourself. Share your stress so that it doesn't affect you negatively affecting work efficiency and peace of mind. She is not your type it's evident. Emotions don't run life but understanding is necessary. Try to accept the real life problems and take therapy. Best wishes. Am sure you would move on soon with a better life. Stability is very important in life.
Wanted to know the other side of the story too...!! Divorce without any alimony , there might be strong reasons ... From your narration it looks too simple ...
So sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately she has moved on for whatever reasons. Take therapy for your mental health and move on. Everything will be ok in the years to come. Best wishes
Go on vacations. Visit foreign country enjoy.. God have given u freedom so enjoy.. Partners will come at any age if you have money.. जो होता है अच्छा के लिए होता है जो होगा अच्छा होगा..
Job / company name please. If possible let me know if any openings in the 26 lakhs category
26 lacs/ months, still not able to purchase property 🤣🤣 bhai aisi kya job karta jo itni salary hai and itni salary mein bhi tera gujara nhi ho Raha 🤔😂😂
26 lakhs per month? Kon sa job hain 😅
Than the confession,all [me also]worried about did he wrongly mentioned 26 LPM ....
I want to know which company is paying 26 lakh per month to a guy who writes like this. Spelling mistakes, punctuation mistakes, no proper sentence. Which company is it ?
She has found someone else. Just take divorce
U probably means 26 lakh per annum. And it's tier 1 city , not tear
You don’t know how lucky you’re, you’re getting out of this shit without alimony or false domestic violence charges. If you’re 31 you still have a time to find a good life partner and even if you don’t want to that is fine. Enjoy the rest of your life, since you’re earning 26 LPA I am assuming you’re doing descent in your career so explore opportunities out of India may be EU or Australia etc and get settled there. Have your parents travel the world they deserve it. At last I just want to say you’re the luckiest person to be able to get out of this trap. I wanted to add the point that she might be cheating on you already but since you’ve not mentioned that I will not comment on it (because if a girl is getting out of marriage without asking single penny is abnormal in normal circumstances so if that is scenario and you don’t want to confess then I would say you’re more lucky that I said earlier so just one suggestion get over this divorce scenario as early as possible and move on with life).
Move on guy... it's not the end of the world, she just came in 2022,& by 26 you are loosing out of yourself for her sake.. There's soo much more to life than these types of females, live your life & show her you care a damn, keep your parents happy, they still care for you.. Alls well that ends well...
Without alimony and fake allegations jaane de rahi hai to bhai nikal le...
Try to move on. Judging by what you said, its probably for the best that you part ways. You are young enough to marry again. God willing, you will find a more suitable life partner and maybe someday be a parent, and then this chapter in your life won't matter any more. Cheer up.
🙏🏻 oru kumbudu potutu un veliya parunga thambi.. feel pani time health waste panathiga.. think about your future.
I think the salary he mentioned is P.A
Listening to me carefully.. every one goes through bad phase, you are in that phase now .. let her go.. keep up your good work in office, without money you cannot find another partner .. I think she has someone in her life.. build a new life after divorce.. don’t be emotional.. lucky that you don’t have kid yet, it would have been much harder
Complete the divorce process. First thing book a good house. Your salary is good. You can take loan and EMI.
i feel sorry for what u r going through. Do take help of a counsellor for urself to make yourself mentally n emotionally stable. If ur partner wants separation (for whatever reasons) u cannot force her to stay with u.
I honestly think that you did not manage your marriage well. Good that your wife has agreed not to take alimony. Separate amicably and then give it time, it will heal everything. You may continue with your professional life. Try adding more skills. Focus on building your personality like you may consider gym, job switch, playing sports, vacations and other activities down the line. Brighter side is you may fall in love eventually at some point. Things will happen at the right time with the right person. So take the brave step and be calm!!!
Live your live buddy ,have trips eat well. Travel it will take u out of depression.
Bro you said she earns 5 lakh per month how can it be low salary you are saying 😆? And you earn 26 lakh per month so who ever pays doesn't matter.
Really it baffles me that there still great guys like you and people fail to see all the goodness you bring .You know what you did, if you always wanted the best for both of you , it will be her loss.
Take your time to process your feelings, and then you can think about moving on. You're still young at 31, and you'll probably find someone who truly appreciates you and your family. Just be careful not to rush into marriage right away.
Just transfer all your assests and money to your parents name asap
Per month? If it's per year ...your wife's salary is actually too little to leave her with choices in a tier 1 city. Have you ever asked her why she avoids going to her in laws place?
And people wonder why I ask men not to marry someone who is 27+. This is what you get for marrying the leftovers. And go on with the divorce; age is still on your side. Marry a younger girl who is 20–24 at max. You will get plenty of options. And don't marry a girl from online sites. Ask your elders or your extended family; they might know someone good. And avoid marrying someone who works or has a job. Marry a housewife and someone who has never been to a Tier 1 city. Marrying a Tier 1 city girl or a working woman and expecting a happy married life is like expecting a politician to be honest.
What is your and ur ex wife's qualification 🥹
Hey, if you are reading this… Whatever happens happens for a reason so if you are getting this opportunity to over the relationship without any burden please get it done because you don’t know if you stay how bad things can be from both the sides… I am saying out of experience just turned 30 and going through similar situation.. Trust the god’s plan and timing don’t think of ending your life or anything just live your life spend time with yourself and try to be happy as much as you can
Something hidden inside ur story, why that girl was unhappy wid u .if ur salary was dat much ,how could she be unhappy.maybe u didn't spend on her because she was also earning or u always keep track on money ,girls didn't like that atleast early years of marriage.
26 lacs per month 5 lacs per month tear 1 city I couldn't focus on anything else, sorry 😑
Must be 26 lakh per annum. It's 1 tier city not tyre
Accept it and move on. I am not saying its not difficult,but its still better than holding her. The more you hold her, the more she will hurt you. Be happy that you do not have children involved and she is going without alimony. You are still young and would definitely find someone who deserves your love
You don't have a child luckily, and she learnt that it's enough, bcz she can manage without you also, when she herself is confident, even you also can move on, bcz there are no children to suffer,
Bro, speak with ur close Friends..consult a psychiatrist as soon as possible…give divorce and let her go…u can’t continue with this person who try to ditch u in all the ways. We are here 🫂
Once a word divorce comes no need to hold on other person she wants it so give it🤣whats the problem dint she loved you and you fullfilled her wish so fullfill this one too world is big bro why sit on one tree when full jungle is yours take deep breath relax give divorce right after that go on holiday for a month and think what Do you want peace or this full drama
Just one question. With so many grammatical mistakes who is giving 26L/month to you 🌚🌚🌚
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I am ur wife boyfriend 😜😜
Leave her,and move on.As long as You put your love on Human beings you will face disappointment,But Try Meditation,Self realisation Things will ease out
After marriage were you 2 staying together or separately is not mentioned. If you both were staying separately then what exactly was the reason for that? If she does not want anything then better separate mutually and peacefully instead of making each other's life hell.
26 lakh per month in India??
26 lakhs per month...31 years....story jam nahin raha...and if without alimoney she wants à divorce just get rid of her...she happy you happy and I am sure yours parents will become very happy...this is the best thing to happen in your life if what you written is true...so dhol bajao khusi manao
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Yu are lucky bro She doesn't take alimony Divorces her and move in your life Yu never wrong yu arr just emotional Jan cvahaty h jane do. Bhai 26per annum h vo correct kr usko
If she has said that she wants a.divorce that she is out of you and she will get a divorce .. So it's better You tell.your Folks that storm is going to hit their house soon ...
Transfer the property to parents name. Since she is asking give divorce as it will be smooth the more delay you will be in trouble. Once divorce is complete think about good life. If you don’t give your jail is fixed
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It will take me 5 working years to reach 26lpm 😀😀 you can loss everything but still you have high paying job, spend time with your parents for some time and decide what to do next.
26 lakhs per month?
There is something seriously missing in the whole story. May be of she writes her own we will know the other side of the coin.
அமைதியாக எந்தவித எதிர்பார்ப்பும், கட்டுப்பாடும் இல்லாமல் பிரிய நினைக்கும் போது நீ ஏன் அதை நினைத்து வருத்தப்படுகிறாய்.
Maybe the 4 times she visited your parents they would've not treated her well... Orelse there's something else she's suffering from...
Shanti se nikal rahi hai , nikal lene de bhai. Kyun SIMP ban raha hai. Faltu ka divorce contest kar raha hai. Mutual divorce leke niklo. Wo already ladka dekh chuki hai, etna samajh nahi aa raha kya ?
If she is taking divorce and she is happy means she do not love you but some other guy. You can't force her. Also our court are also in faour of girls only. So its better accept the reality and move on. Also share your feeling to your best friends to feel light hearted.
26 lakhs PM.... aisa kya kaam karte ho bhai ? Hame bhi batao....
Try to look out for new alliance. Inform your parents n ask them to keep silent for time being .once recived divorce get married
Try c'ounselling as a couple... nothing is impossible to resolve if both decide.
Salary sahi likhe ho na??? 26 lakh per month!!! And you cannot afford a flat of your own??? Karte kya ho itne paise ka???
Just do it as quick as it can be, If any one from the couple is not happy or comfortable and want to quit relationship do it as fast as it can be. It will help both a mental peace. And reduce any further risk due to forced. You are blessed anough she is not asking alumany , hopefully she got a better one . So you accept it and avoid further damage which can cause this relation in the coming days if you force it to continue.
It may be per annum
भाई जब प्रेम विवाह करने की बारी आई तो सिर्फ चमड़ी देखने में क्यूँ रह गए.. Future Planning पर भी चर्चा कर लेते कि साथ मिलकर घर कैसे चलाएंगे, Savings, Investments और पेरेंट्स का कैसे मैनेज होगा etc. You were too dumb for marriage. 🤣🤣
I feel bad for your situation. It’s embarrassing that you vouch for someone with your life and they leave you in halfway. Just give her a mutual divorce and move on with your life.
1 saal date karke kaun shadi karta h bhai..aur wo v common friend k through..get out from it asap
You are escaped bro just njoy
be ready for the future issue.. because truth will be exposed someday so better consult a trusted advocate to sort this thing out. idk if I'm wrong or right.this is my suggestion
Let her go..take some therapy...move on..be happy.
Save ur self from cardiac arrest/heart attack & leave this mess asap
Be grateful that the divorce is proceeding without unnecessary complications. Focus on moving forward, take care of the people who are close to you, and try to find happiness in their company. Life has a way of bringing happiness back when the time is right.
Not sure but investigate on you wife. I think there is some extramarital angle here
Sorry for your situation bro. Just divorce quietly if you don't want to get entangled in legal dispute for years and spend huge sum on settlement. That's your best bet.
Live your life bro
Bhai 26 lakh per month salary hai Life boht bdi hai Society me dekho log kaise reh rahe, kitna suffer krrhe, kitne gareeb hai unki help karo boht sukoon milegaa baaki new activities like gym, sports wgera join krlo And group trips pe jao time to time
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Sorry bro but things are not adding up
Leave her and move bro. Take care yourself. Emotions kills and too much love is also not good...
I know situation is hard. Have faith in god and trust that your relation ended without any major financial burden on you. Keep supporting your family and siblings. Life is too short to think about people who don't matter.
Just because Windows is crashing, we don't throw the laptop away! There's a lot of ways we can fix the laptop. Even change the operating system. You can anyways get an upgraded version of operating system - faster and lighter. Life is precious brother. Get the mutual divorce faster and move on. P.s. : keep all the records and evidences intact
Give divorce and move on. It's a pattern in today's generation. You both maybe Good character. If things not working out. Leave it. If not, Women can ruin your life in divorce. Do not take anything to head. Be a man. Work on your fitness.
Take divorce. Don't be trapped in the emotions of your relationship. Oneside emotions are risk. Take a leave, go for a holiday. Live yourself for somedays and enjoy. Get married again. Time never stops, life has to be lived. All the best.
Bro sab kuch chodo aur apni life jiyo ache se its a part of life ek dark phase or bura dream samjkr chod do apni new life chalu kro
You need a good wealth manager first
Lets not discuss the mistakes in your text. You have identified the reason for her divorcing you, but you have not mentioned it here. So be honest to yourself and bow graciously to the Almighty.
Give her divorce and start a new life. Nothing wrong in accepting the fact and move on. In your language, if 5 lacs can divorce and enjoy, then think about 25 lacs, you should be less worried bro. Move on.
Move on & marry
nobody is interested in your problem in the comment section after reading "26"
I understand your concerns. It would be helpful to consult a psychologist and discuss the situation in detail. Based on their guidance, you can make an informed decision.
Since she is willing to go without alimony say good bye You will get a better person
Itna salary ka kyam hai bhaiya.
Just think that she is no longer in this world and move on. And talk to your friends and explore the world, If you don't have any friends, you can talk to me.
Mummy papa ki nahi suni naa to aise hé hota h ab jo ho Gaya use bhul jao or apne mummy papa ke bare me socho agar tumhe kuch ho jayega to wo Kaise rahenge unko kon dekhega yek kam kro unke sat trip pln kro ghumo phiro naye frnds banao Tum bhi apni life Njoy kro ky aisi ladkiyo ke liye itne kimti aansu bahaneka jo hota h wo achhe ke liye hé hota h ky pata bhagwan ne apke liye kuch achha socha h isilye gandagi pahle hé safff kar di ho
भाई तेरे पास जो भी प्रॉपर्टी है सब अपनी मम्मी के नाम पर कर दे और उसके बाद ही तलाक लेना नहीं तो सड़क पर आ जाएगा
It was all pre-planned. Thats it. You seems to be a simp. Isiliye log bolte hai ki shaddi se pahele ek do relationships hone chahiye. You get to learn a lot of things.
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You are lucky soul on this planet earth buddy...... Just get divorced and enjoy your life happily....... In today's world women have made marriage a business and consider alimony as ROI..... If she gives it in writing that she doesn't have any demands just go ahead boldly......
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