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Submit ConfessionGender: Female28 May 2026 at 4:08 am
#C27183 33 female. I don’t know how to start, but it might be a long story. I live in Europe and got married to a person from my nationality. He was my friend, and due to circumstances we got married. But he has always been rude and aggressive. I did not respond at that time. We had many very heated arguments that led him to hit and beat me. Two times I also went to the police to file a complaint, but I did not follow through. To keep it short: Today, as it was the first day of Eid, I wanted to bake a cake and asked him to take care of the kids for a while. He did not respond. I asked him more than ten times. At the same time, I was cooking lunch and cleaning the house. He ignored me and stayed on the phone with his parents. The kids were crying, and I became emotional. I went into the room and tried to hit him with the vacuum cleaner. It was not hard, but he got up and became very aggressive. He used the same vacuum cleaner against me, even though I had my one-and-a-half-year-old daughter in my arms. Then he completely broke the vacuum cleaner. I could not take it anymore. I was crying and shaking. I called the police, and they came. He said that I hit him, and that he broke the vacuum cleaner himself. There are no visible injuries on either of us. The only damage was the vacuum cleaner. Besides that, the room he was staying in was messy, and the police also took a photo of his room. Earlier that day, I had asked him to help clean the room, but he ignored it as well, while I cleaned the rest of the house, cooked lunch, and took the child to kindergarten. The police heard his side first and were very rude to me. They said they would file a case of bodily harm against me and a damage case against him. It felt like I was treated as the main offender. When the police left, he was laughing at me. I am still shaking and cannot stop crying. He never puts effort into the children. Most of the time I feel like a single mother carrying all the burden. Sometimes I feel like ending my life. I have two small children, and I understand that an aggressive environment is bad for them. But my husband never tries to understand the situation or care. He ignores everything all the time. I am fed up with this situation. I kindly request your thoughts on this matter.
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Mera abdul Alag hai😁
Either accept the situation or leave—that’s the reality. If you choose to stay, don’t keep expecting him to change. If you’re genuinely concerned about your well-being and your children’s future, consider getting legally separated and moving forward.
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Will you mind explaining, what made you go for the second kid. I guess he was the same after the first kid too. Are you into PPD ? Try getting a couple counselling, if it works, fine, else get legally separated.
Sister, I completely understand your situation. Taking care of two toddlers with house chores is not easy without family help. But whatever the situation you don't hit him... see this becomes against you. To let out your anger, you may shout at him. If he is physically abusing you, make sure to record this next time without his knowledge as proof to the police Hope you are financially independent or you have support from your parents before you decide to leave him. May Allah bless you and your kids....
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I don’t understand why people are not noticing that she’s the one who first hit him with vaccum cleaner. Where in a relationship nobody should raise her or his hands on each other specially a woman. If he is hitting first then leave him immediately. But I don’t trust a girl if she’s raising her hand first. Woman should know that you can’t combat to a man in any sort of fight.
Either seperate from him and if that is not possible accept that he is never going to be available for you or any kind of help. Do whatever work you can do alone, when kids are sleeping finish your household work. Don't exert yourself. Control yourself too.. his nature is like that only but if you initiate he will create seen.. in any case loss was yours only.. he broke vacuum cleaner..now either buy new or do it your self. You too keep your mind cool. When you get angry on him that time avoid talking to him..divert your mind, take kids out have walk and come at that moment or on tv but avoid talking to him as much as possible.. keep your mind also cool.. think about your children, what they will learn from seeing your fights at home
Something doesn’t seem right 🤔🤔
First few sign u could have left him Now with children..very sad with children no help from no where.
You tried to hit him, and even the cops agreed. Sounds like he is the one who is the victim of domestic abuse.
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Hi lady , if you are a working woman then first of leave that place and start living separate n independently. After some time , you may think of good n bad for own future n kid.
Women's cells. connect with," abuse to women" related cells ..if possible. Take care
If ur not dependent on ur hubby financially u have divorce him and live peacefully
Do u like me come let try to understand each other
why the heck do women marry such rabid animals and live with them? he and his parents needs to be in jail with their hands paralysed for life .
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In their community women' is just sex toy
You assaulted him first with the vacuum cleaner so he was bound to retaliate. I'm assuming that you're a Muslim & most of them treat their wife's in the same way so it's nothing new. Just tell him to get another wife so that he will stop bothering you.
Leave him... Find a job.. Some turning point will come... Life will be good.. Find a good soul mate... Never ever live with this kind of pyscho related typo guy.
Europe me ye haal hai Moxlem woman ka to Paxtan me to hellhole hoga. There are no thoughts. Leaving him is the only option. Because Koran teaches him to hit the wife and woman are worse than animals and should be treated like one. He won't change no matter what. So better you leave.