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Submit ConfessionGender: Female27 May 2026 at 5:48 pm
#C27180 Hi ppl I am 30 years old mom of 5month and I want to share something that has been happening at my mother’s house. I don’t know what to do or how to feel about it. I came to my mother’s house during my 8th month of pregnancy because of financial issues and my father’s health condition. My husband also stayed with me because he is the one who takes me to the hospital and takes care of me. My mother is also a little unwell. Since my husband had work from home, he stayed with us in my mother’s house. We have a 2BHK house. One room has AC and the other does not. My husband works from the non-AC room, while we stay in the AC room because of the baby. After delivery, according to our tradition, a daughter stays in her mother’s house for around 6 months. I even told my mother that it was okay for me to go to my in-laws’ house, but she insisted that I stay with her because of tradition and family customs. The problem is that my younger sister wants a separate room and more privacy because she is studying in college. She also prefers the AC room because she says she cannot sleep properly without AC. Every night we try to give her a separate room, but most of the time it is the non-AC room because my baby cannot sleep without AC in this heat. She also does not want to sleep with us because the baby is there. I understand that she needs privacy, but she keeps telling my mother, “Why is my sister still staying here? Send her to her in-laws’ house.” My in-laws’ house is safe, but it is in a different area and does not have the same facilities. Also, my mother would not be able to visit me often there. That is one of the reasons we are staying here in the city house. We also have another house in the village side near my in-laws’ place, but there are not many facilities nearby and there is no hospital close by. Because of that, my mother will not be able to stay there for a long time. She can stay only for a short period. What my sister is saying is, “If mom wants to see her, she can go and stay near her in-laws’ house in the neighboring village itself.” Now I am confused about whether she is right or whether I am wrong. I understand that she wants privacy and a separate room, but at this stage, I feel this is more a situation where everyone has to adjust for some time. I really don’t know what to do. Please tell me honestly if I am wrong or if she is wrong, and also suggest how I can handle this situation and explain it to her peacefully.
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The sister is not wrong either.Get an AC and resolve the issue.Your baby is yours and your husband’s responsibility,not your mother’s or sister’s.As father of the child your husband also need to do something.If you want peace live in non AC room with baby.Simple! You’re aware about “tradition” of being at mother’s place but the solution also lies with you and your husband.He should get the needful done or provide facilities in his own house for you.
Everyone is calling the sister selfish, the kind of pressure education imparts nowadays one can imagine what a college goer is going through. Projects assignments exams college classes and then not being able to sleep at night! Is it her fault that the elder sisters in laws don't have facilities or AC or something the elder sister would like to have after child birth?? Of course both the sisters can stay as much as they want in their own house. But adjusting because " did got married" " she will feel bad " " she has a baby" " she will feel paraya" all these are seriously not her problems. She is not asking something out of the world. She has her own studies and career too!! So no one is selfish here. Husband's role is a bit questionable bcz it's his duty to give comfort to his wife and daughter. Buy one cooler maybe.
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Ur wrong...ur sister deserves the facilities as its her home and she has nowhere else to go....as for u since ur married u should go back and stay with ur in laws or ask ur husband to get u a separate house with ac and all the facilities u need..the baby is ur husbands responsibility not ur mums
First of all tell her that it is not her house alone. It's your house also. She can't say you to go to your in laws place. Her concerns are also genuine that why will she stay in non ac room all the time. It's best to buy a new ac by combined efforts and get it installed in 2nd room also.
I don’t think this situation is about someone being completely right or completely wrong. It sounds like everyone has valid concerns. You are a new mother with a 5 month old baby, and your mother herself asked you to stay with her after delivery. Wanting to remain in a place where you have support, medical access, and help with the baby is reasonable. At the same time, your younger sister is also living in the same house and is at an age where privacy, study space, and comfort matter to her. It is understandable that she feels frustrated, especially if the room arrangements have changed for many months. The part that seems unfair is not that she wants privacy, but that she is repeatedly asking why you are still there or telling your mother to send you away. Since your mother invited you to stay and the arrangement was made with her agreement, the decision should primarily be between you, your husband, and your mother. A practical approach may be to have a calm conversation with your sister and acknowledge her feelings first. You could tell her that you understand she wants her own space and that this situation is temporary, but right now the baby's needs, your recovery, and the available facilities are important considerations too. Ask her what specific adjustments would help her feel more comfortable while also explaining the limitations. In short, I don't think you are wrong for staying, and I don't think your sister is wrong for wanting privacy. The problem is that both needs are competing in a small 2BHK house. Rather than deciding who is right or wrong, it may be better for everyone to focus on finding a temporary compromise until you are ready to move.
Your time at mom’s house is almost over since the baby is 5months old, you can go to in laws house. You can convince younger sibling, saying you will leave soon. You have your husband to support you at your in laws house, he can buy ac at in laws house.
Take an ac on emi and sort this issue
Don't entertain your sister. She sounds very selfish. It's your right to stay in your parents home. Kaadhu melaiye onnu vechi non AC room la stay panna sollunga
Rent and ac for a few months. You cannot fully blame your sister in this situation as she is a college going student. Few people require a completely cool environment while sleeping while some can adjust to any situation.i have seen this with one of my aunt and few friends.
Honestly, I don’t think anyone is completely right or completely wrong here. You are a new mother with a 5-month-old baby, recovering physically and emotionally, and it’s natural that you need support from your parents during this phase. At the same time, your younger sister is a college student who is used to having her own space and privacy, so her feelings are understandable too. The real issue is not the room or the AC. It’s that everyone has been adjusting for several months, and the situation is becoming emotionally tiring for all of you. What I personally feel is that your sister has every right to ask for privacy, but saying “Why is she still here? Send her to her in-laws’ house” is not a very sensitive way to express it. Family situations are rarely that simple. On the other hand, since this arrangement was always meant to be temporary, it may be a good idea for you and your husband to start discussing a comfortable timeline for moving back, if that is practically possible. Not because you are unwanted, but because long-term temporary arrangements often create friction in even the most loving families. Try talking to your sister calmly and tell her: “I understand that you need your own space, and I’m not here to make your life difficult. I’m only staying because of the baby and the support I need right now. This phase is temporary, and I hope we can help each other through it instead of feeling like we’re on opposite sides.” Sometimes nobody is wrong—everyone is just struggling with different needs under the same roof.
What are the problems in installing another ac in the other room has not been mentioned by the confessor. When we were born did we live in air conditioned rooms? I understand now we have cut trees around our surroundings and heat has started becoming unbearable but please dont say the baby needs an air conditioned room.
I think your sister is addicted of video call with her boyfriend or do something adultly alone.. that's why she wants privacy.. she should understand the situation
Sounds like another AC will probably fix the situation
Sister bodmash hai. Bhanji huyi hai lekin kalesh karne se fursat nahin mil rahi hai.
Hire an ac for few months.. or buy another AC
Your little sister should be a bit considerate given the situation. May be you don’t gel together for some reason ? 🤔🤔
Please do not entertain that behaviour. It's your right to be at mother's house too
Set another room with an ac.. So simple.. Problem solved... 🤣
Buying second ac is the only thing you can do
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Your sister seems to be thinking for herself. or she may feel uncomfortable with your husband being occupied with you. It is not always necessary to follow the tradition of staying at your mother's home for six months.
You are very selfish
Ur sister will also get married n hv a baby So get her basics clear n just hang her upside down fr her audacity to ask u to leave .. Also warn her clearly that she won't b allowed to enter d house fr delivering her baby
Absolutely why are you staying in the parents house with your husband and your child 😂 .. seriously some thing really wrong with you and your husband .
Whumen = Selfish. Regardless any generation 😛