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#C27173 28M, Kolkata Longest post alert… bohut dardh hai bhai bolne do !! Maybe some relationships never get a name, yet they leave the deepest scars. I wasn’t looking for love anymore. After a peaceful breakup from a long relationship, life simply moved in different directions—when I left Kolkata for my second job, she later moved out too. We still are in touch because I always believed good people and good memories shouldn’t be erased so easily. After that, I genuinely enjoyed being single. Life was simple—office, football, parar adda, late-night food plans with friends, no restrictions from half wife. I was happy in that phase of life. Then I met her in my newly joined office in Kolkata 2 years back. She stood out without even trying—simple, grounded, the kind of Bengali girl you’d notice during Durga Pujo Ashtami Anjali beside her parents or at a para cultural function. In a world full of noise, fake personalities, and half-hearted connections, she felt pure and real. Soft-spoken, hardworking, calm, and innocent-looking. We started naturally—lunches, walks, momo evenings, after-office talks, random laughter. At that time, she was healing from a breakup, and I was simply there for her as a friend, with no intentions… only wanting to see her smile again. Daily conversations, changing bus routes just to travel together, waiting after office, weekend outings, dropping her home—slowly she became part of my everyday life. The smallest moments started feeling special simply because she was there in them. Her laughter started becoming enough to make my whole day better. We overshared everything, and we were very real with each other. And somehow along the way, I fell in love. With time, I realised we were different people. I was happy with my simple Samsung phone and bus rides while she preferred iPhones and cabs. Her world felt polished; mine was simple. I came from a middle-class Bengali family where even small savings matter. Maybe that’s why I never planned to confess, because somewhere I felt she was out of my league. Still, slowly we became closer. I got a green signal, I could feel it, but when I confessed my feelings, she never fully said yes… but she never said no either. Her “maybe, with no expectations” became enough for me to stay emotionally invested. I thought maybe loyalty, honesty, and time would someday turn that “maybe” into a “yes.” Holding her hand and walking beside her for miles became one of the happiest feelings of my life. My first kiss with her felt meaningful because I truly believed she was someone I could build a future around someday. I never wanted anything temporary with her. That’s why before getting into anything physical, I brought her home casually so she could know my world. My family normally welcomed her with warmth because, in my heart, she was never “casual.” I still remember she eating from my hands, carrying her bags, massaging her head when she was tired, eating the last bite of her ice cream, and silently enjoying her presence beside me. I still remember momo evenings, restaurant dates , random walks after office, and those quiet moments where we didn’t even need words. Waiting for her messages became normal. Dropping her home became the best part of my day. Seeing her name on my phone somehow gave me peace. I still remember how happy she looked when I gave her flowers because nobody had done that for her before. Those small things became my language of love. And honestly, I loved her with everything I had. We enjoyed each other’s presence. Maybe it sounds old-fashioned, but I always believed intimacy should mean something real. My belief was simple—intimacy should be with the woman I would marry one day, the one I’d apply sindoor to. Maybe it sounds foolish to some, but to me, it was my way of becoming a good future husband. So when I crossed emotional and physical boundaries with her, it was never casual for me. In my heart, it felt like a silent promise. Somewhere in my mind, I genuinely felt my search was over. We were coming closer day by day and getting attached. But slowly I realised she probably didn’t love me the same way. I was not able to turn her “maybe, with no expectations” into a “yes.” But I still stayed. Maybe because I had become addicted to her presence emotionally and physically. At the same time, she had also become attached to me. I could feel her emotional dependence too. I had two choices—either act casually, take advantage of the situation, and walk away… or stay honestly even if it hurt later. I chose the second one. I would rather cry myself to sleep than become the reason someone else’s daughter cries. Somewhere deep down, I always knew I was rescuing an injured bird, and once she healed, she would eventually fly away. Still, I stayed for as long as life allowed me to. Later she clearly said she didn’t feel the same way for me. But by then, I was already deeply attached to her presence. What we shared felt real to me. We were emotionally and physically close, doing everything couples usually do, so somewhere my heart started believing I had finally found my person. As we were doing everything a couple does and I was fully loyal and honest, I felt positive and thought she might be taking her time. Maybe my only mistake was loving too purely. But at the same time, the girl was emotionally and physically attached to me, cried in front of me, and expressed her feelings. How could I not love her back? How could I love her with impurities or keep it casual? By the time I realised she didn’t love me the same way, it had become okay for me because I had already given my 100%. She didn’t feel the same way, and that is absolutely fine. I had no regrets about the love I gave her because she deserved it, and she was very pure with me at the same time. There came a point where maturity made me realise that love, no matter how pure, is not always enough to build a life. I loved her with everything I had in me, and if there is one thing I will always be proud of, it is the honesty, loyalty, and sincerity with which I loved her. My intentions were never temporary. I saw her with a kind of softness and respect that made me want to protect her happiness, even if it came at the cost of my own. Somewhere along the way, I started asking myself—what is the point of bringing someone into your life if you cannot give them the world they truly deserve? She deserved comfort, beautiful experiences, peace, security, and a life without compromises. And deep inside, I feared that maybe love alone could not give her all of that. The world is practical in ways the heart often refuses to understand. Sometimes loyalty, honesty, and emotional depth are not enough to win against the life someone dreams of. And that is why, despite loving her so deeply, I could never become selfish enough to hold her back. If loving someone truly means wanting the best for them, then I had to accept that maybe her happiness was more important than my desire to keep her with me. I would have been the happiest person alive if life had chosen us for each other, but love also means having the strength to let go when you believe someone deserves more than what you can offer. The painful part is that I never needed grand promises from her to stay. I had become so attached to her presence that even a small place in her life would have been enough for my heart. I was ready to stand beside her quietly for as long as destiny allowed, until the day she found the person she truly wanted for her future. And even then, I would have prayed for her happiness from afar, because sometimes loving someone deeply also means learning to love them selflessly. Before leaving hometown for a new job, I cried in front of her and asked her to stay in my life at least as a friend. During that last cab ride, while holding her hand, I somehow already knew it was the end. Even after moving away, we still talked every day—video calls, random updates, and sharing the smallest moments. She had quietly become part of my routine, my peace, and my comfort. Slowly, even my smallest happiness started including her, even my new office laptop password. Nothing changed except the distance. Then one day she told me she had met someone else and started loving him. That night, I completely broke down. Deep down, I knew this day might come, but obviously it would take time for me to accept it because I was already addicted to her presence. She had cried in front of me so many times, and I had always tried to make her laugh, protect her peace, and emotionally support her. So obviously it would never be easy for me to detach overnight. What hurt wasn’t that she chose someone else. What hurt was how quickly everything changed. A few days before, I was her “first priority.” as she told. Then suddenly, daily calls became one call a week. Messages started getting delayed even when I was simply asking how she was doing. Then came distance. Then silence. Then one day, I was blocked everywhere without even a goodbye. Hardly 2 calls and 3 messages within that, she changed completely and blocked me. We used to do more calls and messages in a single day. Even a phone asks before deleting something. But she didn’t. The way she replaced me hurt me. At least a good ending would have been enough instead of being thrown away like waste. Maybe we were never officially together, but what we shared never felt casual to me. That’s what hurts the most—not the rejection, but being erased so easily by someone who once felt like home. Someone I had helped heal from a similar pain. Sometimes I still wonder—did she really ghost me, or was everything casual for her from the beginning? How can someone cry in front of you, share every fear, every emotion, become physically and emotionally attached, make you feel so important… and then suddenly block you like you never mattered? The innocent heart and warmth I saw in her never felt capable of being so cold. Maybe I did something wrong, or maybe I simply failed to understand the situation. I still remember everything—our favorite food places, random laughter, quiet conversations, sharing ice cream, holding hands for miles, and all those tiny moments that silently became memories for life. My first everything was with her. I was honest, loyal, and emotionally genuine throughout. Maybe I was never enough for her world, but I still wonder—was there ever a lack of sincerity in the way I loved her? Moving on feels strange. Deleting her pictures feels like betrayal. Talking to new people feels empty. Sometimes I still wonder: Did I really mean nothing in the end? The colleague who backbitched about you stayed… but I, who stayed loyal, got blocked. Couldn’t I remain even a normal friend or just a contact in her phone? What mistake did I make that made it so easy to erase me completely? “Sobai roye gelo… ami-i block hoye gelam.” I understand she never officially committed anything to me. But we were emotionally and physically attached, and from my side it was always real. What hurts is not losing her. What hurts is being erased as if I meant nothing. Another strange thing is how our common office circle changed too. The WhatsApp group became inactive, conversations faded, and the people we once spent every day with slowly disappeared from my life. They were all girlsin that group. We shared so many memories together—office breaks, random outings, trips, laughter, long conversations, and moments that genuinely felt like family to me. I even brought some of them home. Back then, everything felt so normal and close. Even though none of them truly knew what existed between us, we were genuinely good friends once. That is why this sudden distance hurts so much now. Sometimes I overthink and wonder if she shared her version and made me the villain in everyone’s head, maybe to protect herself or avoid complications. Or maybe it is simply office distance and life moving on. I honestly do not know anymore. But either way, it hurts. It has already been months, yet emotionally I still feel stuck at the same place. During showers, before sleeping, or in random silent moments, my chest suddenly feels heavy and my mind goes back to everything again. I barely talk to my parents anymore. They are trying to find girls for me, some are even agreeing, but I just sit quietly with no feelings left inside me. My close friends have tried so hard to console me for months, but even they are slowly getting tired now. Day by day, the weight inside me only keeps increasing. The hardest part is not rejection, it is the lack of closure. I have always ended things on a good note, even with enemies. We may never speak again, but there was always some final understanding, some final words, some peace. But she was my special person. That is why I still cannot understand how someone who once made me feel so important could suddenly disappear and leave me with so many unanswered questions. “Ek tarfa hoti to baat aur hoti, dukh ye hai ki izhar usne bhi kiya tha.” Maybe that is why a part of me still wonders if I should meet her once—not to blame her, not to force anything back, but simply to ask if I unknowingly did something wrong. Sometimes I also wonder whether I should casually stay in touch with my old colleagues again, or whether they already see me differently now. Maybe I am just overthinking, but somewhere inside me there is still a fear that I became the villain in a story nobody even fully knew. Suggest me what to do.....pagol kore dilo mey ta... my honesty and loyalty is now laughing at me.. And still, despite everything, I cannot hate her. She is still a good person in my eyes. A caring daughter, and someday she will probably be an amazing wife and mother too. Maybe that is why this hurts even more—because even after all this pain, one part of my heart still wants nothing but happiness and peace for her. Khub khub bhalo theko.
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Men I learnt one thing which I am sharing with you . Yes means yes Maybe means No No means NO
10 years from now, I believe this will be just a memory. A memory which makes you stronger emotionally and mentally. So keep that thing in your mind and eventually you will see this as a phase. Ami bolbo, life e kichu nijer goals aano. Nijeke aage prioritise koro. Jara tomar care kore, tader care koro. Because onno keu ekhan theke tomake ber korte parbe na. Tumi nijei parbe. So never ever make anyone, I repeat, anyone in the centre of your life. It should be only you. And baki comments o poro. And ei je exercise ta korle, writing this confession down, is someway hoping je shei manush ti eta porbe (I might be wrong too) However, I would say, do this everyday. Not for anyone to read but for you to read. Everyday write whatever is going inside your mind. No AI, no LLM, just ekta page and you writing with your own hand. That's it. You will soon see patterns and that will heal you. Try it. All the best. Bhalo theke, and nijeke bhalo rekho :))
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List of mistakes you made: 1. You never understood the saying, "Never try to fix a broken person, you'll end up breaking yourself." Broken persons look for repair as soon as possible from anyone, during that quick repair process they can create situations which they won't want after getting fully repaired. 2. You never learned from other people's failed love stories. Life is too short to make every mistake yourself. Some lessons are meant to be learned from others. 3. You made her your entire world and pushed everything else aside. Never make one person the sole source of your happiness. I'm sure the friends, the hobbies, the life goals, all took a back seat once you started finding all your happiness in her. Now if you try to return to those friends again, they will make fun of you. 4. Your biggest misconception was believing that you will find only one and she will be perfect for the rest of your life. Finding the perfect person in one go is not always possible. To understand what kind of partner is right for you, you need experience. You need to know and understand different personalities, reject some, get rejected by some, and learn the difference between your expectations and reality and understand yourself better. Otherwise, you can end up damaging even your future marriage too. 5. You accepted uncertainty for far too long. A person who neither says "yes" nor "no" is keeping you in limbo. When someone genuinely wants to be with you, they make it clear. If months pass without clarity, then the answer is no.
It takes quite a lot to complete the things. কিন্তু এটা একদম এই সত্যিই সব থেকে কষ্ট তখন ই হয় যখন কেউ তোমাকে একটা জিজ্ঞাসা চিহ্ন আর সামনে দাঁড় করিয়ে চলে যায়। তখন ওই inner soul continuously একটাই প্রশ্ন করে যায় কি ভুল ছিল আমার যে এই ভাবে একটা paper er moto ফেলে দিলো। In the world of Casual dating or whatever the new terms in market, তুমি genuine etai tomake আলাদা করে।জীবনে যা হয়ে যাক না কেন তোমার honesty,loyalty কে তোমার থেকে যেতে দিও না , ওই গুলো তোমাকে আলাদা করে সবার থেকে। R mon theke ভালোবেসেছিলে বলে এখনো তার ভালো টাই চাও আরও যা পরে এমন হলো আগামী দিনে ও ভালো টাই চাইবে। তাই চেও , ওটাই তোমাকে আলাদা করবে। এত দিন অন্য কে ভালোবেসেছিলে এবারে একটু নিজেকে ভালোবেসে দেখাও তো দেখি! নিজেকে ভালোবেসে কি করেছো সেটার confession পড়ার অপেক্ষা তে রইলাম । R akn akdm kn kichu tei jeo naaaa, nijer opor ,nijer skill er opor focus koro। Valo theko, you are a good human being .
Sabka katega ek na ek din. Sabko lagta hai meri wali alag hai. Nothing new😂
5 years down u shall laugh at this post. N the shit u have written..Stay calm bro... This too shall pass . Whatever happens happens for good...Move one karto hobe ektu ektu kore bhul jaabe tumhi ..rasgulla khao khud jaan jaaoo
Attachment is the root cause of your problems. Before she came you were happy After she came you expected more . But then remember you can't make anyone fall in love with you. It just happens when you meet your destined other half. Till that time people come and leave. Lord Krishna liked Radha But he got married to Rukhmani, satyabhama and others but not Radha. That's life beta.
Arrey you caught it earlier but chose to ignore it.. BASELINE :NEVER NURSE A INJURED BIRD OR A SOUL.. COZ WHEN THEY GET THE STRENGTH BACK THEY WILL FLY AWAY..
Whoever you are... The story sounds damn personal...✌️
Love, no matter how pure, is not enough to build a life. So true, brother. So true. I can relate with this. Do not go meeting her now. You'll do more emotional harm to yourself. The best you can do is cherish the memories and soldier on. You can never erase the feelings from your heart and you will forever think of her ..... but take it that you two were not meant to be together. Divine intervention. Girls are all about their own and personal feelings. They never hold themselves accountable. And they can justify anything and everything that they do with their own agency. Men are different. And you are a good one. Time to flip the page and start a new chapter.
Ekhon loyal er kopal e loyal jote na, se meye hok ki chele..
Sending love brother , cheer up , there are many people like u in this world. Take care
Nhi por paya bro Bas ek hi advice dunga Only simp ,cuckhold Man marry bengali women Bengali women are not good for life only for honey moon phase ,live in ,hook up, ons etc They are worst mother and worst mother in law ,worst wife, My lots of bengali bros starts marrying non bengali women may be they are not Beutiful and hot but they are enough for life Offcourse best girls friend It's alwys simp who never get enough women access in life marry them .
Story could've been condensed as follows - Boy meets girl - Boy falls in love with girl & tells her - Girl says maybe , let's see - Girl uses Boy to do everything for her - Girl gets bored & says let's be friends - Boy says Ok, secretly hoping she'll change her mind - Girl finds another bakra - Boy is heartbroken - The End.
Nicollo Machiavelli once said..."Never Love a Woman who is healing from the breakup"....bro I hate to say this you are 28 yrs old but you failed to understand the game of stoicism... Hamesha ek chiz yaad rkho...LARKIYA BAS APNE FEELINGS KE LEYE HI LOYAL HOTI H...MARDO KE LEYE NAHI...Never make a woman as a center of your life....shayad ye incident se tum stoicism sikhoge ab...Be a stoic not a simp....Let god heal your pains...there is no end of the road in learning from the betrayal...mere bhai, usko apne life se delete krne k leye itna busy ho jao ki jab tum raat me sone aaoge toh itne thake hoge ki tumhe kuch sochne tak ka time na mile...Stay strong and start focusing on yourself...bro and learn the game of stoicism and Iron Doctrine...LARKIYA KISI KI SAGI NAHI...yaad rkho
Shaadi kabhi usse maat karna jise tum pyaar Karo..... lekin shaadi usi se karo jo tumhe pyar karte.
Vai aap ka dard to kafi lamba hai yrr 🤣🤣
You are a good man; the loss is her's. May you find someone who loves you with this purity, but please remember to love her back same.
Ato emotional post ami aage kokn o read kori ni. I don't know chele raao bhalobaste pare tomar post ta na porle feel korte partam naa.
Ifs n buts taught u a good lesson. Why getting emotionally invested if someone isn't sure about you?
You didn't make a mistake by loving sincerely, but you may have made a mistake by treating a 'maybe' as a future 'yes.' From your own story, she never actually committed to you. She accepted your presence, your care, your emotional support, and your love, but she also repeatedly kept the relationship undefined. When someone says 'maybe, with no expectations,' it is important to take those words literally, not interpret them through hope. What makes this painful is that your experience felt like a relationship while hers may have felt like a deep emotional connection that never became love. Both experiences can be genuine at the same time. The blocking hurts because it feels disrespectful and denies you closure. But sometimes people block not because the other person meant nothing, but because maintaining contact becomes uncomfortable when they have chosen someone else. It doesn't justify the way it happened, but it may explain it. I would also caution against assuming she turned your colleagues against you. When people change jobs, office friendships often fade naturally. Right now, heartbreak is making your mind search for explanations, and that can create stories that may not be true. The biggest thing I noticed is that you repeatedly describe yourself as 'not enough' for her world. That belief is probably hurting you more than her rejection. A Samsung phone versus an iPhone, buses versus cabs, middle class versus polished lifestyle, none of these determine whether someone is worthy of love. If she didn't choose you, it doesn't automatically mean someone richer, better, or more successful replaced you. As for meeting her again, ask yourself honestly, are you looking for closure, or are you hoping to hear something that will reopen the door? If it's the second, meeting her will likely make the healing process harder. Sometimes closure is not something another person gives us, it's something we create ourselves when we accept that we may never get all the answers. You clearly meant something to her. People don't spend years talking, crying, sharing vulnerabilities, and building memories with someone who means nothing. But meaning something to someone and being the person they choose for life are not always the same thing. Your loyalty is not laughing at you. Your loyalty is one of your strengths. The lesson is not to become less loyal or less loving. The lesson is to reserve that depth of investment for someone who chooses you as clearly as you choose them. For now, reconnect with friends, talk to your parents, restart old hobbies, and allow yourself to grieve. Stop waiting for a message that may never come. The chapter ended badly, but that doesn't mean the story of your life ended badly. And one more thing, if someone has blocked you and chosen a different path, respect that boundary completely. Don't chase explanations. Let your final act of love be acceptance. She was a chapter, not the whole book.
You should have added an executive summary bro!
You weren’t wrong when you said, Longest post alert! 😂😅
Kudos to all those who read the post till end. Uska first line padhke hi I decided to skip
Well, i think you must talk to her if you can and get a closure because if this you don't get a closure, you would not be able to move on in life ever. Also, love can be sometimes really cruel for people like you but its better to accept the reality and get busy with something. May be building yourself.
She will come back to you but you should know that You deserve better brother... Think about your parents, they didn't raise you to suffer like this. Please don't ruin your future for any stranger.
Fake 😆
She actually did not care for you dada, she used you as an emotional support, and this makes me feel (though I absolutely do not know anything and I probably should not say), your previous girlfriend was better as she was in an actual relationship with you, and this person chose to be emotionally close to you, even to the point of time till she finds someone suitable to her choices and not clear things explicitly much before and let you drag despite of knowing you were drowning in her!
Bro Time heals everything 🍀 Sobai amke ai gyan ta dei amio aktu tomake diye gelam🙌🏻 Stay strong brother 🫶🏻🍁
If someone isn't saying ''Yeah I'm ready to be in a relationship with you" never I repeat never stay by thinking 'o thikache amar efforts dekhe akdin thik bhalobasbe'. Hoyna boss, esob cinema ba golpo tei thikache if you don't get the same thing from the other person, leave, don't let the child in you get hurt. And another thing, take your time and heal, heal so that when someone comes and shows you love, you can accept that 🙌🏻✨. Time doesn't heal it's you, yourself who chooses to heal, so choose to heal ✨
You are looking for closure. You may not get from others because people have their own version of stories. When you realise she blocking you is the closure she gave you for your relationship, you need to accept that as the final closure and move on. Trying to keep her as pure makes you feel bad about seeing her flaws .. Office friends moving on could be related to her or may be not ,but thankfully you are in a new environment now... This is the reality.. Don't think you have to process this whole thing now and move on.. you will be able to handle it little by little.. just focus on a couple of new things ( not aggressive distraction but gently taking your time away from thinking about past ) ..it could be new people or new work or hobby or focus on fitness .. slowly the new life will start becoming more important and real than the past ... You will heal along the way...
kya bhayankar bole Bhai
🥲post ta ageo korechile
You were the purest soul in the eyes of those unaware of love's purity.
Babu, always Remember these 2 lessons in life. 1) We are just an 'Option'! 2) Love yourself first & take care of your parents * Love is an overrated thing and we men waste our precious Time, Energy, Money & Mental Peace on these selfish/self-centred women!! Aajkal khub kom dekha jai!! Genuine & Caring kauke pele seta luck. Bhalo thakis🙂
Itna lamba dard hai maine toh skip kr diya post 😒
U have invested too much of urself. This world is cruel buddy. Just an advice, change urself.. there's is still time
Don't love and cry Just Fuck and fly 🕊️
I feel you, my friend. Sending hugs your way. 🤗 Stay strong, genuine, continue being who you are. Give yourself all the time in the world to heal. ✨ Reserve all the love you have to give for the one who chooses you. Bhalo theko.
Same incident I faced before .. it was 7 years ... Same same..
Always remember if a girl says maybe then most probably it's a no from her. You get too much emotionally attached to her even without a proper commitment from her side. When she used you as a rebound only.
Short ke koi bata do last me kya hua?
Welcome to the friendzone. Next time your mission is to bang her fast. Don't waste in your filmy romance
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I am not gonna waste my full day reading this long poopy story.
"Then one day she told me she had met someone else and started loving him." - I mean how this is even possible? Very very strange!
Dhur sala same jinis koyek mash agei post hoyechilo ekhane
Ultra pro Max Simp
I started reading it and kept going, but it just never seemed to end. It was so long confession 👀
The world is not for soft, emotional people with unconditional love & attachment. Get strong or perish. If this sounds rude , just remember, spoken from hardened experience...
Never ever love deeply, never ever give your 100% love to someone except mom, keep room for atleast 15-20%, the more you give of yourself the more they suck it out of you So keep that 15-20% for yourself, love yourself the same way you loved her. The memories will always be sweet, and this phase will only make you a better and a smarter person preparing you to be just the right person for the next person! 🫂
Simple grounded iphone...soda pagla boka . Jottosob!