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Not your problem disconnect and move on with your life , don't invite turbulence in your smooth life

Be strong. Don’t fall into his emotional trap. Providing financial assistance is your choice, but don’t become his emotional support. It could eventually create problems in your marriage.

Please DO NOT meet him, what happened in his life has happened, that's his fate. Everything is in his hands to repair his life. This meeting shouldn't spoil your life. Your intuition is right, you are scared coz it can spoil your life. Take care of your life and family

Your meeting may lead to something else and then something else.. iykyk

You are grieving a possibility, not necessarily the person he is today. It's okay to feel sad for him and care about his situation. But compassion doesn't mean responsibility. Be cautious about: Giving money Meeting alone Becoming his emotional support system You have a happy family and a life you've built over 12 years. Protect that first. Some relationships are meant to remain meaningful memories, not become part of your present.

Mind your business please 😊

Dude. You have a family. Focus on them. 2 women left him. You meet him, he’s gonna manipulate you and get you on his side somehow and I can see it coz you’re already “feeling bad” for him and then in the end you’ll lose your family and lose everything. You’ll end up losing him too. Get over it. You’re 36.

He has regrets of rejecting you in Life ... Thats why he is emotional ... There is nothing in Life except regrets and rejection ... Ofcourse the Alcoholism is another big problem in his life ... 2 divorces and alcoholism , This man needs absolute psychiatric evaluation and also institutilization for his addiction problem ... His mental and physical conditions are absolute bad medically

aage badho life me... kuch nahi h dillagi me

If you plan to meet him, don’t keep it a secret from your husband. It’s an unnecessary burden that you don’t want. If you are not comfortable discussing this with your husband, you should not be meeting this man. Simple

It's so good to see so many men commenting and actually trying to help a woman! Else, nowadays, we only get to see taunts on all posts from everyone.. And coming to your problem, TBH, there isn't any...everyone has a hard time in life...so is he going through...and you'll also get yourself into a hard time if you still are connected with him...you are a happy family of 4 as your said...khud k pairo pe kulhari mat maro!!

Two failed relationships for him means beta . He is not destined for marital happiness in this life's journey. Your marriage karmic path was different from him so God made sure you got married somewhere else. And you are happy. Don't try to get emotionally attached withhim He just wants an outlet. And he is finding g it with you. Today he has asked money tomorrow it will be something else intimacy emotionally getting attached. U can talk and encourage him to come out of that situation. Nothing more beta. May be he treated spouse badly in past life so two came in his life to teach him a karmic lesson Wife's are like Laxmi of the house . If you don't respect her keep her happy. Everything gets affected job profession etc. For men wife's are ruled by planet venus Venus is the planet of luxury Ruling godess is devi Laxmi Maa.

Don't try to look out another life ... Don't ruin ur life because of anyone's devastated life

I guess u need to move on. I bet he has so many other people to share his sorrows and ask for help why only u? If he has some feelings for u. Then it's too late u have a family. Just imagine ur husband has some strings attached like would u be comfortable in him helping her and giving emotional support

Phle reject kar diya to ab Aise insan se kyu milna h apni life par focus kro naa bachhe h naa apke unke or pati ke bare me socho

This page confession always motivate me to stay single. I see it as a blessings. Thank God I don't have these type of shitty ppl in my life. 😌

Two failed marriages for him and if you dont put a full stop to this here, it will be two failed marriages for him and 1 failed marriage for u and Then it might end up as 3 failed marriages for him and 2 failed marriages for u !!

Trap

You might be inviting trouble for yourself. I think you can see it coming but somehow you don’t want to acknowledge it. Why? Because perhaps it’s your karma/destiny that’s luring/inviting you to experience it. Whatever, emotional trap is ready. On top of it financial damage as well. Trudge safely dear girl. It looks dangerous from outside. Wish you good luck.

Just waiting for the next confession of - we met and one thing led to another ....... 😏

Just don't get into this. Get away!! Block and be happy!! This will eventually cause lots of grief in you life...I've been in this situation. Just get out of this shit fully and be happy with your family

Oh lady !! You have a heart of gold ❤️ But I will say that you can support him as a friend but never cheat your husband.

Leave before your husband defines it someday.

Ok... Who's going to tell her the truth?

😏 tera khatega ,paise , physically and emotionally. Tujhe apne bache aur pati apna career and life ki fikar honi chahiye ,nahi kisi ki jo past se belong karta . Uske tho khud L laggaye ,tujhe bhi L laga dega .becareful and protect yourself.

Are you a therapist? Logical person should go to a therapist or psychiatrist with their problems. But, never to married men and woman. Emotional affair is also a type of cheating.

Receipe of disaster under making.

Well I would Block—Delete—Focus on my life and won’t think about ruining my kids and my spouse life.

In pursual of your old incomplete emotions, dont blind your mind. People change and what you see from outside is never the truth. Dont let negativity come into your life. Be kind, but not naive

NO, don't Otherwise you will regret later. You already have feelings for him, keep it as a well wishing friend. Just think if your husband had such a female friend who has been divorced twice and is vulnerable emotionally, would you ever like him to meet her or support her financially??? If the answer is no, then you know what to do

You are settled financially & family wise too.. do not even think of going back to something which will eventually not work out and you would be his third wife to leave him. Don't fall for this kinda trap! It's a phase it would pass. But do not I repeat do not even think of spending your life with a broke who's 2 wives left him. He is not financially stable anymore. There won't be any comfortable future for both of you. Eventually you would leave him too when u see he does not change, also you would change when u see there is no future for both of you together!!! I am soo mesmerized seeing your package that itself should be enough goood reason to not fall for a broke like him! Just think it this way - there must be terribly wrong in him that is why both his marriages failed and his wives left him! Don't tag urself as his third ex wife. Stay happy with your husband and family! Simply forget and move on!!

If you have feelings for him, get ready for struggles in future. Disconnect with him immediately, unless you want a turbulent future.

Don't spoil your life by getting into unnecessary trouble. You will regret later.

Past shud be kept in past.. U r married..u have a wonderful family along with kids.. why to ruin ur current life by meeting him.Dont even sent him msgs or call him..Marriage means commitment n Loyalty..if u go and meet him.. ur husband's trust will be shattered and it will affect ur marriage..Whatever he has now..it's his problem..Let him sort it out..

It's natural to feel empathy for someone from your past, especially given the history you shared. However, prioritize your current life and relationships. Before considering any form of support, reflect on your boundaries and potential consequences. If you decide to reconnect, do so with clear boundaries and without compromising your own well-being or commitments. Your family's stability and your own emotional safety should be your top priority.

He is not of your concern. He is a grown adult who made stupid choices and has to live with them. You don't need to be Mother Teresa to him. Focus on your own family and professional life.

Wish him the best and never look back

Stop having any FOMO for him. It's his fate. Ask him to seek help from a Counsellor on how to break out of his own mental trap, change ur number immediately and move on from this so called undefined relationship.

Don't invite trouble. Your life is going smoothly. Don't betray your husband and also children

Stay connected to him, and mess up your life

God gave u beautiful marriage life with kids money and husband frm last 12 year but devil thought what is my job then he initiated some emotions in u so that u can choose the path that start disturbing your personal life ... Think from female point of view why two wife left him , why he not thinking that your marriage life affect if he discusses your past connection... Stay wise , logical but not emotional... Otherwise evil already set the fielding...

You are cheating your husband emotionally. Which is okay I guess. Beware of what you may lose here.

#stay-away before you fall in emotional things, you and your family is doing good now enjoy your life. In fact , no more connections is Good for you and your family future

Help him. Look for naltrexone therapy in India(ideally an implant) used for alcohol addiction. It will save him

It's a trap. Do not meet him as you seem to be vulnerable. Asking for support at this point in life from you is absurd. He is broke because of his choices. You are not his correction facility or rehabilitation center. Keep that in mind. Don't ruin your life and your kids life by sponsoring him. He has no back up to any source to repay you. Regarding the bonding you two share, keep it limited to phone calls and texts or stop that completely. I'm surprised how come you don't understand certain things at 36. Be wise and cautious.

Khujali ho rhi shant kar lo use

Jab pata hai samne govar hai phir ji auntyji ku govar me pair nai apna muh marna hai..... Jao khushi se marwao humey kia🤦🏻‍♂️

The way you're drooling over him is a question

Sister...whatever you do give first hand info to your husband...explain the situation and leave the choice to your husband whether to help him or not..your family comes first

for him ur a pickle when he booze.. 😂😂

Misery attracts company.. Stay away

What is this 55L in whole confession ?

He wants the fun back (he recalls old time)

Trap.... He's searching for sugar mommy as simple as that. Don't break your beautiful family, once the poison of doubt starts in your husband heart, no amount of words will compensate. Better, let the bygones be bygones.

He made his choice...don't talk to him or meet him

He likes u because 2 toh already bhag gayi..u r the only one jo baaton mein aa jaogi

If you are able to help then defo help him

"Aa bel mujhe maar"🤣🤣🤣

Speak with him . Try and make him understand that you are having a family . Nothing wrong if u can support with some finance if required .

He made his choice and u made yours! Don't destroy your own marriage! what do you exactly want?

Good you came in here for a solution even if we just a bunch of strangers find it very stupid of you to ask such a thing but ofc since you have had genuine feelings before and knowing you have a healthy family do not destroy what you have now. You will regret otherwise. Support him financially if you feel so and discuss with your husband as well but do not pursue anything beyond that. Just a stranger who feels you will ruin whatever beautiful family you have now if you give your old feelings get in between.

Don't go directly to meet whatever it will only by text or call

You are having happy family of four .life mein sab kuch sahi chal raha lekin mazaa nh aa raha tumko jab tak koi kaand na ho🙄 .kyun itni achi life ko trazedy movie banani chahti ho?

Apne ghar pe dhyan delo.

DO NOT DO IT. You wanna send monetary help, ask ur husband to deal with him. He was married, thinking of you and u wonder why his marriages didn't work? Really? Don't. My sympathies with him, but if u really wanna help, have ur husband deal with it and count ur blessings he rejected u.

Yes help him out-that makes us more human.

Shukar kro. Jaan chut gye apki us eqt

Ask , All Money from Husband ? 🤣🤣🤣 Leave Children's into , Husband House 😂😂😂 Marry Someone Else ✅ Who born baby , he Should prepare food for Children's Also 👍🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Not all women but always a women...

Love marriage.... proposals.... met a guy even after rejecting.... Dots are not connecting......

Do not assosciate or your marriage life will be ruined.....women should understand this do not emotionally attach to anybody other than your family member..... One small mistake may lead to the total destruction of your marriage life. He was a past.... And past should better be dead....

Stay away

After reading this I've developed genuine feelings for u💋💞💖❤️call me

I believe you should block him immediately . he didn't choose you back then now it's a trap and everyone knows most women are emotional fools...Just forget the past and stop talking to him as he is being selfish and this will definitely spoil your present happy married life .. be very careful and just block him .. otherwise one thing will lead to another

Red flag

Ignore and block dont ruin your family life he is adult dont pacify him he will learn to deal with his problems himself ups and downs are part of life

Red flag! Never ever give him money. He will use your sympathy to boost his ego, your money for alcohol and you will suffer. Please don’t get involved

I've seen this story from many narcissists. How do u verify that his emotions are not fake? Telling you from experience----+A person who cannot handle 2 full grown females In marriage is either a dumb or a narcissist. Focus on your own marriage. He is just jealous. Beware of such fake majnus and romeos...you are not his personal therapist. Dont fall into this trap. He just want to use you, spoil your marriage. Focus on your own husband and family. He needs a psychologist and good doctor to overcome his addictions. Stop trying to become his personal therapist.

He is trying to trick you in every possible way. You have a beautiful family so please focus on your own family rather than wasting your time for someone who rejected you. He is paying for what he did. If a woman is leaving him then there must be a solid reason behind it. If he is a good person then I don't think his wife would have left him for no reason. You can help him financially as a good human being but meeting him personally will be the worst decision you have ever made.

Not your problem and absolutely stupid of you to keep in touch with him even after your marriage. What if your husband did the same with his ex or his crush?? Please stop and block him...

Dm

End the relationship and thoughts now and go to sleep. One divorce is fine, second tells you the true story

stay away

Don't meet him he is trying to take advantage of your kindness he will use you and your money mark my words 🙏 msit importantly don't cheat your husband and riun your life

Non sense

Two wives left him, he is financially broke. You don't know what he is into, gambling or whatever. Do not lend him money and do not talk to him. You don't want to be the third one

It’s a trap… your story seems like those toxic C-drama stories where ex flame returns and destroys the happily married life of the Female lead.

If you want your family to be happy, immediately block that guy from all possible places. And never try to reconnect that guy. What happened in past is past, don't destroy your present and future for that.

Another confession is coming soon

Ex 🔥 is always risky, keep him away, you might not be aware of his personal stories, if you do ur family will be jeopardy position, it's unnecessary risk stop msg, that's all...

Not your circus not your monkey

Why do these people post only to look for mass community approval when you very well know what you're wondering is incorrect??!! Okk... APPROVED.... go and meet and then inevitably "one thing will lead to another".... and that will lead to another post here!

Invite him for a dinner with your husband and you.

// how to deal with such undefined relationships.// Just cut off him.. block him in your phone/social media and do not connect. Either you be agony ayah for him and he is crying because no woman in his life to sleep with or serve him. If first wife divorced him, second wife dumped him - means there is something seriously wrong with him. Externally everyone is a nice charming and attractive. Once you live with the person - then only you know the real persona. Either worry about that losing alcoholic "charming" FRAAND and ruin your marriage - or just take patli gali and live a happy life. Why so many women want to take care of every other man instead of her husband and children?

In colloquial bengali we have a saying "Baans keno Jhare, Eso Amar G**de" translation for pan india audience "Why is the bamboo in the bamboo cluster, come inside my A$$" ... This is your current situation... You have a stable life happily married, having a good job, but you're having an insatiable itch to take the bamboo inside your backside, and Royally F**K up your life, for no apparent reason. Block him, which you should have done way back. He made his choice, you made yours. So live with it, why are you entertaining his intervention in your mental and social space. Why remain friends even, if you do remain friends, advice him everything would be fine and the next time he starts reminiscing, tell him "too bad, that ship has sailed" unless you want to take the bamboo in your backside. 🙂

Kick him out of your life if you want a Peaceful living ahead. No further talks no interaction ✅

You were attracted lot that's why you are feeling like that ...while doing sex with him once then all the attraction would ran away....so shut everything go and sleep with your good husband ...be happy

he is the red flag thts why two wives left him . u r an absolute idiot spoiling ur life. get out and stay away. women r mostly attracted to abusers and idiots, not real men, oh yes very true .

Forget that drunkard bastard he may be impotent also If who continue illicit relationship with him You will lose your life

Don't do that shit ,be loyal to your husband otherwise ur life can become hell.