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Submit ConfessionGender: Male26 May 2026 at 11:09 pm
#C27169 Hi all, I need genuine and serious suggestions. Male, 26, from a tier-2 city in Andhra Pradesh. I’m settled in a good family business in my hometown and come from a nuclear family. I’m an average-looking guy and I never had any past relationships. Recently, my parents started looking for marriage alliances for me, and I was also interested in getting married and settling down. Around 3 months ago, I created a profile on an online matrimony platform. Recently, I came across a girl’s profile whose background, family values, and education matched well with mine. She lives in tier one city which is around 6 hours away from my place. Honestly, I never had unrealistic expectations about beauty or anything. She is slightly chubby, and I was completely okay with it. We connected on WhatsApp and have been talking for since few days only. Surprisingly, she was the one who made the first video call, as an introvert guy I feel uncomfortable and I just she is an extrovert girl and from there our conversations begin. We shared family details, future plans, hobbies, interests, and many things matched between us, which made me like her more. Later, we exchanged Instagram IDs. After seeing her profile, I noticed she used to make reels. The reels themselves were normal, but seeing some comments and overall social media exposure made me feel insecure and disappointed. Somewhere in my mind, I started feeling that maybe she had a past relationship. I expressed my feelings to her honestly. She became emotional and told me she wouldn’t continue doing reels after marriage if it made me uncomfortable. Later, I asked her directly about past relationships, and she clearly said she never had any past and even promised me the same. The way she cared for my feelings and reassured me made me emotionally attached to her. At one point, she even deleted more than 100+ Instagram posts/reels on her own, saying she didn’t want me to feel insecure. That made me feel both guilty and happy at the same time because I felt she genuinely cared about our relationship. As our conversations became deeper, she started sharing her personal struggles, loneliness, emotions, future expectations, and even some private thoughts. We both opened up emotionally. She also became very expressive about her feelings, desires, and affection towards me. Sometimes she shares romantic or adult reels, and then one day we planned to meet each other soon and told me she is okay to have a private time snd even ready to intimate with me before marriage. This is where my confusion started. On one side, I genuinely feel she is serious, caring, emotionally attached, and truly interested in building a future with me. On the other side, because I never had any past relationships and come from a more reserved mindset, her openness about romantic topics and comfort level is making me overthink about her character and whether she had a past relationship or not. I know being expressive or open-minded does not automatically mean someone has a bad character, but still my mind is confused and insecure. Marriage is a very serious decision in life, and I truly want a peaceful and beautiful married life with the right partner. So I sincerely need mature and genuine suggestions from you all: * Am I overthinking and being insecure unnecessarily? * Should I continue getting to know her seriously for marriage? * Or should I step back now itself if our mindsets are too different? Please don’t make fun of the situation. I genuinely need valuable advice and different perspectives. Thank you.
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It's natural to have such thought process when some bodies starts to think about marriage and relationship .. These are initial jitters .. it will settle down ..If you are in interested to marry her , then know her more if not doors are open .. it's arranged marriage .. You have no emotional bonding or Committment to get married to her .
Bro tier 1 city lo perigina ammailu towns lo tier 2 lo undaleru idi fact, insta reels normal vi chusi insecure feel avthunavu being genz ante Nuvu after marriage aa ammai ni torture chestav and thanu kuda anni posts delete chesindi kabatti future lo em godava jargina ninnu blame chestadi and trust lekunda asalu don’t go ahead with this match.
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First of all few years roll out between birth and death.... On this earth.. My suggestion is don't take things very seriously... Thinkings some time overshoot our expectations and create a undesired and unwanted.... Mess in the mind. Try to keep mind cool. Seems other dynamics are matching as u well said. Get married soon with that girl .... Both of u maintain a principle of exchanging thoughts and adopt a common single platform. U both will be happy.
Marry her .. What is the guarantee u ll search & find a no past girl..If there s a connect between u both...marry
If past matters to you don't marry, because before marriage everyone lies and post marriage they will accept then what will you do?? Think about it clearly and then go ahead... If you are okay with accepting everything then it's fine otherwise dont proceed... Maturity is more important post marriage...you won't be able to do anything if she is lying... So think properly...
You should marry her as per your story she seems to be caring and loving girl which is very rare to find out in this era..
You said she is bit chubby . May be she feels you are Jackpot for her so she doesn't want to loose you and so she is ok getting intimate before marriage. But beta don't go for all that before marriage. And I would strongly recommend both visiting a good pathology lab and getting pre marital blood tests together. Wait for marriage get married and then after marriage only get intimate. When you sleep with someone you exchange energy of other person too. Imagine for some reason u don't get married with her then it's not right so meet outside go for movies sit somewhere chat know eaxh that's all ok. Intimacy only post marriage.
Better know her more....its full life commintment...so dnt be in kashmaksh
Whomever u marry ubwilö not be happy because of your suspiciousness ..be a bacheldor
Don't think too much...marry her
Past doesn't matter..
Stop thinking if she past or not .that not matter what she today matter stop living in illusion regardless of past or not should not be concerned often times mind play trick create imagination which is unnecessary serves no purpose. If u want to go ahead then go ahead if u still living paranoid it better to quit it saves trouble both of them
Don't be too serious... Don't have high expectations like she is a virgin
man at the drop of a hat claims woman is characterless. same thing or worser a man does is accepted because he think his strength lies inside his pants . this is the mindset of most Indian men. hypocrites cannot be corrected . better separate !
Go with her and marry her.. she genuine girl according to Ur statement... She is perfect choice for U. Bcos before the marriage she ready give her mean she trust U lot and don't want to miss U in her life.
First of all, stop judging her coz she is an extrovert. And when it comes to marriage, take time and understand each other, there will be times when you both do not agree to something n that is completely ok buddy. You mentioned she deleted her posts which made u feel uncomfortable-good enough but don’t u think there will be something in you as well which she might not like but did u change anything for her at this moment ?? I guess no coz u didn’t mention anything like that. Taking suggestions from strangers is ok but u should not get dragged by these comments coz you are the one who is talking to her n we as an outsiders can guess only n put our opinions according to our own experience which might not be relevant to ur situation know. You need to decide as how u feel when she is around you or when u guys speak to each other. Always remember not everyone is perfect but go for the honesty which will help you to keep ur life happy n blessed. Talk to her openly as how u feel n see her response. Don’t set ur mind with a lot of confusion coz it might ruin a beautiful thing of ur life. When it comes to marriage, normal women gets connected very easily n they start doing things out of love n trust me that is normal. So, clear ur heart n mind and have open communication as how you feel about her n about few things. Public opinions are ok but it sud not be a deciding factor.
Stay away from online matches dude.
You are an insecure, suspicious person. Please leave that wonderful lady alone, she will find someone who deserves her. Don’t marry and create havoc in another woman’s life because of your insecurities.
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