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Marriage is a partnership. When she can have your child and not have an insight to your Finance, it is not an equal partnership. Both of you should set aside money equally for your respective parents. The sister should not benefit from you as she has her own family. Have a joint for expenses. And the rest goes to the future. It is very simple. Don’t use the reason that you’re conservative to hide things. If there is nothing to hide, then why are you hiding in the first place? You not giving her respect, hiding your finances, prioritising your sister and your family over her is making her insecure and fight. You are blaming the reaction. If you can’t have an equal partnership, then it’s not a good marriage.

1. You not opening up on your salary is okay! 2. Taking care of your parents and sister's responsibility is okay! 3. Your wife sending her half salary to her parents is okay! 4. Wife is concerned about the future is okay! 5. Wife saving money for YOUR future is okay! What is not okay then? 1. You are not taking care of her needs 2. Expecting her to support your family too 3. Expecting her to not to support her family 4. Expecting only her to save money for YOUR future 5. Being introvert and letting the world know about your problem through a facebook post and not letting your own wife involved in any conversation of your financial planning 6. Not saving for the future and thinking some magic might happen when you need money 7. Your in-laws involvement in your personal issues with your wife.. Talk to her... remember it's your marriage...if your parents' responsibility is yours so is your wife's..don't give up...I am sure you are also concerned about your infant's future...don't let anything ruin for that little one.. All the best 💗

I would like to understand one thing,why is there no financial transparency between the two of you? What is the issue if she knows where the money is going? Transparency builds trust. Also, if you can support your parents, why can't she support hers? She may feel excluded from financial decisions. At the same time, she should also be flexible. Both of you can set a budget for family expenses, personal needs, support for parents, and savings. This works best when you see yourselves as one team rather than two individuals managing money separately

I don't understand how people hide behind the tag introvert and extrovert

Your sister is married or dependent on you? Is your sister working, earning, contributing like your wife? Both your parents are working and earning? Who all are contributing for the home expenditure? What if you suddenly stop earning for any reason, is there enough for the next few years. Are you really rich and your wife need not work and earn? Can you sustain her expenditure like your other family members. What if she quits the job and stays at home? You are cunning, not introvert.

Only one thing I understood from the entire thing and is essential to change......I read this " I have always been like that, I am Introvert" ....... The main issue is here .... Man wants to remain the same after marriage but expects the women to adopt all changes and his habits, his family, his behavior, his nature frm day1.... Marriage is a partnership... Y do you think a women coming from a different family into your family ( completely new for her also mentioned arranged marriage) will have 100% trust on you or your family members from day 1 or whatever you say???? Y do you think she shud assume that the future father of her future children will be a responsible father, will have a financially stable household???....she is the one coming to your home with new members calling one of her own, new house, new food tastes, new attire, new surname, new gotra , unknown person to share bed with and " you" are the one feeling uncomfortable to share finances?????Marriage doesnt mean bringing a wife home.... When u haven't allowed her into your life.... A man expects his wife to be his support system till oldage but will keep her away frm his own life aspects.. finance is one of the aspect....... Wife will have her own doubts, questions, inquiries instead of finding more questions into your marriage better to accept her " with her nature- that is how she is" and answer her questions patiently, let her build trust on you,your family, be partners on everything, after marriage there is nothing mine or yours it's all ours. .. is she has changed so much to adopt your house. You also have to change your " introvert nature".... Untill unless you change.... Marriage won't work.... Trust me once she trusts you completely you wont have to think and assume things that you mentioned Abt your family... There is nothing wrong in your marriage everything is fine , mendable, initial hiccups are common, talk to her as a listener and not as society's middle class family's non bendable man who only follows his parents........ If she finds something wrong with your parents behavior "trust her" and find a solution to it..... And not snub her questions.... She is telling "you" her problems n not outside.....that is exactly how a wife shud be....

your wife started working for you...so it's your responsibility to have a transparent relationship with her which includes finances,family matters as well as personal matters...your wife and child should be your first priority.... dodging your share of responsibilities in the name of introvert won't work and eventually breakdown will happen.Think about your child.your parents have each other,your sister would also have her own family but your wife and child are dependent on you.there is no marriage without adjustments and it has to be from both sides.

Marriage means partnership..marriage means to give priority to each other..U both are not doing any live together.She is the mother of ur child..and she dont knw anything about your finances..She is ur first priority now..Both needs to know every details..of each other whether finances..whether anything..both shudnt hide anything...And ur sister is not ur family anymore..Giving money to parents doing responsibilities for them is separate..It's ur duty..But after marriage ur priority first shud be ur wife and for her it shud be the same..And for ur sister or parents or mere arguments u r thinking of Divorce?.Marriage is a lifelong commitment to each other..At the end ..ur wife will be with u..neither ur sister..nor ur parents..Not evn children..

Why can’t you be honest and clear with her ? I don’t see anything wrong in her expecting you to be transparent with your finances .

Why you don't you guys try couple therapy. And why she needs to contest to take control ?? She is a member of the family right ? Then after having a kid, you are saying you are introvert you can't share things! Ayeen, brother aise kaise?? But I can sense your mental health. I would rather suggest be a bit more transparent, and try couple therapy. And if you think divorce the only way, remember dude when you sleep having lots of sound in your mind, society never sits by you to comfort; society will always judge no matter what. The infant deserves peace. Aapko kisine bola tha kya baccha karo to problem solve ho jayega!

Understand that your first duty is to your wife and child. Your parents have lived their life and your sister will too. Your wife and child depend on you. Remember that and focus on their needs first if you want a happy life.

Personal opinion: You are at 80% fault and she's at 20%. 1)Her fault giving half salary to her parents (assuming that her salary is high). If she's barely making 20k... Giving half is fine. 2) Rest everything is your fault. You are uncomfortable sharing details with your own wife? Why did you marry in the first place? You can't tag being "introvert" on things you don't want to share. Why is your sister dependent on you? You are giving your parents money anyway.. why can't they take care of her(assuming she's not married)

She want her family's future secure Why shouldn't she ask you about your finances Your point is half valid Set your goals togather, involve her in your future planning Save a part of your salary for yours and proper communication makes things easier

If you wanted to be the same as you were from your childhood, then not sure why you wanted a “wife”. I see you very immatured and not accepting her as your life partner. If she can bear a child for you, if she can leave her house under the name of “marriage”, you also should know how to treat a wife post marriage. A partner needs transparency of finances and the future. She has all rights to ask you. Infact, she is not asking you.. she wants that partnership in the relationship. Understand that first.

What's the issue if u show ur finances?U are hiding something and she senses it

First, you have to be willing to be completely transparent with her if that's what gives her peace of mind. You should be open about your finances and spending. At the same time, you have every right to support your family as much as you wish. However, you shouldn't judge her if she chooses to support her family too. If financial commitments to both families start affecting your household budget, then the two of you need to sit down together and plan your finances as a team. Secondly, let her know that transparency and equality go hand in hand in a relationship. If she's earning as well, then it's only fair that both of you contribute to the household expenses in a way that reflects your financial capacities. Most importantly, both of you need to understand that after marriage, her family is yours too, and your family is hers.

And you're saying that she doesn't know how broader things work?

In marriage there should be no secrets between husband and wife . These things should be discussed openly with each other. Priority should be given to ur partner. This will be helpful for future. So silly of you to talk of separation. Be open with ur life partner

All the women talking about him not disclosing his income and expenses to the wife. But no one's talking about the wife not contributing to the household. Tells a clear picture about their mentality. It's like a hive mind. One mind, many bodies.

80% u are wrong

If she can sent her half salary to her parents why u can’t?

So your wife wanted to manage home and be a SAHM but you were not okay with it. So now she works and probably also manages the household and childcare , and you have a problem with her sending half her salary to her family while you do the same , are not transparent with her and not emotionally involved in married life. The problem is you not her

U got married to her and she is not just ur room mate.. She has full rights to know ur salary details and the finances.. However too much interfering in ur decision towards u supporting ur family needs to be discussed and both of u should come to a conclusion!!

My money is my money, your money is our money is the story of most married couples these days. Be firm, what ever you let go, you will have to live with it for the rest of your life.

Brother I can see most of the females are pointing at you that you are wrong here. But trust me everyone has his/her perspective of looking at it. My analysis on your matter is- First of all you have allowed your wife to support her parents which is fair enough (but only in the case when her parents are dependent on her). Her mother intervenes in your family's financial matter which should not be done as per me. Not telling her your exact salary is not a crime as per me. N number of males have done that {including me (married for 11 yrs)} and nothing wrong has happened between us. If you are taking care of her needs and along with that saving for your future why is she so keen in knowing your salary. She's jealous of your sister as u n ur parents love her that is wrong on her part. She's your sibling and a brother is like a father to her sister so you have to surely take care of your sister always even after her marriage (not financially after marriage). I think only u n ur wife can sought things out. U both need to talk calmly and focus on your savings and also take care of your beloved family. Fix an amount from your salary and her salary which would be kept aside as your savings every month. You can keep that in 2:1 ratio like 20K from your salary and 10K from her salary. You note down your monthly expenses for household chores and give that amount to your wife and ask her to manage with that. If extra expenses occur u can ask her politely for the calculation of expenses. We are the one who make things complicated and we only can resolve the issues. All the best brother..👍

open a joint account and put in equal percentage of both the salaries and run the household with that ,n if u guys want to save something as an investment for future together then do the investment also with the joint account and after that whatever you guys are doing with the remaining personal money,it's not the other person's concern. I hope this can solve the matter and if she is doing things like constantly comparing herself with your sister,start doing the same with her brother..do tit for tat n that too immediately,if she raises questions just say u did the same. eventually either the issues will be dusted under the carpet or they will blow out of proportion...either way u will know which way to proceed.

If you don’t have a child then you can negotiate now itself with open talks.. like sharing the responsibilities.. etc If you have a child pls be quiet (for the child sake)

Stay seperate from your family..Send certain fixed amount to your parents, set certain amount for your future saving,travel plan.

You are unable to tackle small problems in your life and thinking of divorce. After divorce you will marry another girl. What'll happen if that girl turns worst than the first wife? Will you divorce her too? Nobody is perfect. Try to build a happy and peaceful married life within your limits. Over a period of time both will get adjusted to each other

Before it goes crashing Jump asap

Marriage cannot be happy if girl's family members involves too much in girls married life. The accusitions the girl making on her husband is surely coming from her family members.

You need to open up to your wife. Before conceiving, did you tell her I am an introvert? Ajeeb wife k sath hi sari baten chupani hoti hain. Apne ghar le k aye banda tw make her feel home. It's not her job to make it her home while everyone else is trying to exclude her from most of the family matters.

You both need a counselor who can explain conflicts and how to mutually overcome it instead of creating a tense environment at home. Both of you create a joint account and put money into it for house expenses . Both of you have independent account for personal use . Both of you out money in your infants name also. This should resolve the issue related to finance . Also in marriage there is nothing wrong in sharing financial earnings to each other . But nobody should try to control each other .

HV 4 accounts. 1 common one where both of U contribute equally or 60/40 or 70/30 for home expenses. Another one both contribute for savings for future. Then both HV separate accounts for your own expenses with which U both can give to your parents or your own expenses .

Ask both side parents to come to your place nd have a face to face conversation. Before you all start the discussion make it very clear that no one will interfere when someone is speaking. A open clear communication is very much needed. Tell her parents very clearly that what ever you are giving to your parents is your will nd wish nd no one has a right to speak on that. The same you too follow when she gives out for her parents. Respect each others parents and families. From your side point down each nd everything which you are doing. She is married to you so you need to give her the love care nd respect...even if you are an introvert you need to speak to her about Salary finance Expenditure Investment. Both of you need to respect each other it's only then the Trust will build up. Divorce is not the solution to anything but a good healthy communication is . God bless you both with Wisdom.

Joke of the day.He is supporting his sister and complaining his wife doesn't earn.He is supporting his family ,but when the wife supports her own family he has issues. Wife should be the priority after marriage.If you can't do this then dont marry.

Bro is too introverted to express his feelings to his wife, but somehow manages to write whole paragraphs on a random confession page. Smh.

Ei bolod gulor jonne marriage is not meant for ! She deserves better

The first solution for your issue is to be transparent with your wife.. she is your better half.. any woman would expect her husband to share everything with her..and that is a healthy husband and wife relationship.. saying that you are introverted and all isn't an excuse at all.. who is she!? She is your wife..she isn't the third person at your home.. being not transparent will make her feel so ... Talk with her.. discuss what is happening at home , make her also sit along with all family discussions you have with your family at home..ask her suggestions too.. slowly when you start considering and give importance to her.. she will definitely understand what is the situation at home, and no wonder she will also share the responsibilities and family commitments.. a healthy husband and wife relationship demands two way communication..pls do that..she will automatically understand the things and it will be a smooth Life for both of you and at the same time you can fullfill your family needs..

You're not just an introvert you're also a control freak. Why do you guys marry is a mystery.

U need to tell what explicitly need to be said. U can't let u or her control one another. Keep ine account tell her to give fraction of amount for household Expenses U do the same also what u do with your money for your siblings is entirely yours it's nobody can ask. Jealous of wife is her insecurity it's not u can do anything. Some ladies want control so as some men but it's important one should not be dominating. Respectful to one another

But if she wants to know about your finances what is wrong in it? Marriage is a partnership of two people.Now you two have another responsibility which is your baby so there is nothing wrong in knowing each other's finances and discussion matters related to finances. Regarding jealousy about sister is because probably according to your wife, your sister and mother often gang up against her which is a common feeling among women because usually most families side line the daughter-in-law unintentionally and give more importance to their own daughter. People should first understand that the daughter-in-law has left her home and now in a complete new environment so needs a bit support. So you should both discuss this issue openly with each other because some women often expect open conversation which as you said you don't do it as you are an introvert.

If you do not control the situation the situation will control you. Take control of your emotions, make sensible choices and enforce them.. Be fair but be firm. If you are both earning, then you can both send money to your parents, but you must also both contribute to ongoing household expenses. If things escalate, enforce separate finances. And most importantly be very firm (and rude if needed) about her mother not interfering in your marriage. Same applies to your mother. I have two divorced friends and both say that they filed for divorce to get rid of their mother in laws not their wives.

Going through the same issue, now the infant will be used as a tool.

From what you have written, it seems that both of you entered marriage with very different expectations, and over the years those differences have become recurring conflicts rather than isolated issues. Looking only from your perspective, it is easy to conclude that your wife is controlling, suspicious, or influenced by her family. However, if you look at the same situation from her side, she may see a husband who does not openly share information, keeps finances private, supports his parents without detailed discussion, and remains emotionally reserved. For someone who values transparency and emotional closeness, that can create insecurity and distrust, even if there is no intention to hide anything. A few things you can do from your side: 1. Increase transparency without feeling controlled. Being introverted does not mean you must share every detail, but sharing important information about finances, family responsibilities, plans, and concerns can reduce suspicion. Transparency is different from surrendering control. 2. Create a clear financial framework. Instead of arguing repeatedly, sit together and define household expenses, savings goals, support for parents, and personal spending. Both spouses should know the overall financial picture and agree on reasonable boundaries. 3. Separate spouse issues from extended family issues. Many marriage conflicts become worse when parents and siblings are constantly discussed. Try to keep discussions focused on your relationship rather than defending or criticizing relatives. 4. Acknowledge her concerns even when you disagree. People become more rigid when they feel unheard. You do not have to agree that your parents are wrong or that you spend too much on them, but you can acknowledge that she is worried about your family's future security. 5. Set boundaries regarding outside influence. Just as her mother should not be deeply involved in your financial decisions, your family should also not be involved in marital disputes. A marriage works best when major decisions are made primarily by the husband and wife together. 6. Consider professional marriage counseling. The conflicts you describe are not about one single issue, they involve communication style, money, trust, family boundaries, and expectations. These are exactly the kinds of problems that counseling can help unpack. Most importantly, stop viewing the situation as "who is right" and start viewing it as "how do we make the marriage workable." Four years of repeated arguments usually indicate a pattern that neither spouse has been able to break alone. Unless there is abuse or severe misconduct, the practical path is often not divorce versus staying together, but learning new ways to communicate, negotiate finances, and establish boundaries. A peaceful life is unlikely to come from changing your wife alone. It will probably come from both of you making changes, and the first step is focusing on the changes that are within your own control.

Can't say anything without knowing on both sides. However, I would like to reiterate to all men and women who are with this kind of mindset not to get married and spoil the future of a child.

You think you will find a trophy wife after divorce 🤣👏👌 please go ahead then. The reality will make you mature.

You're a Manchild

This is what happens when the salary structure is different between partners. I do believe people should marry other with equal or very close pay scale, else be ready to face these conflicts

Did she know before marriage that your parents are dependent on you financially ? Or did you hide this from her family before marriage ? Little bit of help towards parents is understandable but taking full financial responsibility of parents from house to food to medical bills to daily expenses, is a lot and no wife would be comfortable with it if it was not disclosed before marriage. Would you marry a woman whose parents are dependent on her completely?

Peace is more important than genes!

Her target is keep on fighting until you surrender.

if this argument continues like this then it will affect your kid mentally and physically both. With this type of partner having kid is a big mistake. Indeed separation is good. Hope you do not misbehave with her. Even if you share every detail of ur life she will never be happy and let u be happy !!!

You're the problem it seems

Her mother's interference is soon going to spoil your relationship.

Yesterday are my sister in law left my brother in law for this same reason he also hides about his financial matter and says its his personal. As wife she ask "dont I have the right to know what's going on your financial life so that we can discuss with eachother regarding managing the money and saving for our future " same goes with your wife . . She wants to take the lead? Bro she's your wife so she's the queen of your house and should take care of your home as proper wife and mother. Isn't your mother who runs the house? Same goes for her . Many men hides about their financial status and salary from their wife and says "im fulfilling your needs no? that's enough don't involve in money matters " . You will have a child with her where you both work together and agreed on but when its come about your salary ,she's stranger .shouldn't know about it . Wow . Its crazy till this day she doesn't know your salary . Wife is someone who knows most about her husband more than anyone . She's not someone who spends money uselessly so no issues in discusing your financial status and her earning belongs to her .she can sent it to her parents . She's not obliged to go to work and give the salary to you .you will spend your family but if she does the same thing. Its wrong .Its you who should take the responsibility of her and fullfill her valid needs . If you don't treats her like stranger then this time she won't say you guys are hiding something from her . You have child now . Think of it . Instead of getting divorce over a silly reason . If you rather getting divorce than talking about your financial details to her then there must be something your hiding . That's why your willing to lose your marriage and child over this . Stop being stubborn and get a separate home so you dont have to face any stupid sister in law dramas .be glad at least you have a wife who is willing to save for your future through going to work where i have seen many wives sit at home and says "saving money is his duty, if his salary is low then its his problem but he must fullfill all my needs even its unnecessary expenses still he should do it for me as a proper husband " . Be glad she's supporting you .build your own family like your sister gonna come with you until you die.and your mother and father established a own family for them but your the acting like unmarried guy . Don't you have a desire where you own a house and your wife take care of the house, saving for future and rising your child and giving him a bright future by you both work on this marriage life as partners.

Story of many households 😢😢 Most of the issues either come from finance or physical intimacy 🙈🙈

Why would t you tell her your salary and expenses? And if you feel that is intrusion, why did you get married???

Being introvert when you can be vocal to your parents and siblings..that relationship can be with wife as well..she is not an outsider where you are not able to open yourself up. Apart from this, her family interference is wrong as well as your family marriage is between husband and wife ..men or women parents are equally wrong whether staying together or not.

Thats why you should meet before marriage and discuss basic life goals and expectations.. not everyone is comfortable with each other..

Vak yar tum log kya ye choti choti family matter ko lekar social media pe rone aa jate ho Apne aur 5-6dosto se bat kar k dekh family kalesh sab k ghar me he vai..ye normal hai

Bade bade shehero me chhoti chhoti baatein hoti rehti hai. Value each other and enjoy life

A very common problem this is. Talk clearly and openly and set rules for both of you which none should break.

Take a flat nearby or in same apartment if available and move out with your wife. You’ll stay close to your parents and at the same time reducing your wife’s interference in your familial affairs

See if you are marrying her then you day to day details is important for her.. Spending money to your parents and sisters is ok if they can't able to manage but you need to explain your wife about all the situation your parents and sister is guest but your wife will be with you in all ups and down so you need to be transparent with wife nothing wrong on her side if hide your financial stuffs then you able to hide anything that's the mindset she will get..dont tell " I will not tell my financial things even with my parents". Both are not same she has to know all the things .. It's in your hand to prefer peace or chaos.

Bro, take evidence of her upkeep and her annoying conversation and go for divorce.. If the role is reversed she would have divorced u long time ago

Ask her family members not to involve in inbetween. That is the main cause for diverses now a days

Her money is her money and your money is hers too. Get rid of her and live peacefully

After marriage you have to change yourself alot as to have a responsibility of your wife and kid it's fine you don't want to disclose your salery or the amount you are spending on your parents but on the other hand you must fulfill your wife all financially and emotional needs according to islam and I don't understand your sister part because getting jealous from one is not right you should be on your wife side supporting your parents and also don't let anyone come between your marriage woman need respect and love more than money in marriage

Hiding things from your spouse is bad. Dont hide it in name of introvert or whatever.

Transparency is the only thing you can do from your side for peaceful life

wife ka number dena I'll make her understand

Best her

What do you mean take certain control of finances of family SHE is a part of? She obviously has a right to do so. Im not understanding whats your problem?

Divorce and marry again

toxic women, need some good psychological to change her way of thinking and believing Prayers

Why is it that women are expected to take care of their in-laws, but not their own parents? Isn't this a bit much? Will you take care of her aging parents? I guess not. So, why such insecurity about her sending some of her money to her parents? Why is it all about you, you, and you? Simply do not agree with how you're trying to portray your wife. Everyone has fault, and so do you. Grow up. These are minor problems that crop up pretty much in every marriage. If you're an introvert who cannot fully open up to his wife, expect the same from her as well.

Seems like you dont know the meaning of marriage...Its okay for you to support your parents but you have problem when she does the same... and in marriage everything is shared, instead of getting married you should have remained single devoted son and brother only.

So you can share bed evry night..can bring a child ..Can share life..but can't share financial information..what kind of partner ship is this?...you need to be transparent with her..you are not thats why all this problem..sit with her discuss evrythng ..why you need to hide how much you are earning or how much you are spending in ur family?.. marriage mean growing together sharing...set ur goals togethr..ask her to be transparent with her money and you also do the same.. And if you are so private why did you get married?.. And also you are sending money home..but when she is doing the same you are jealous AF...why bro.?

U don't get peace even u married another women again.... Because u are not only introvert u are not fit for marriage. Marriage is sharing...wife and husband should be like one...she may not ban u from giving money to ur home...Its basic to tell salary to wife.... Ur parents are one family, ur sister also has family, what about u and ur wife...u both r only family...u don't see ur wife as ur family.... If u have debt first lender go to ur wife only...not to ur parents and ur sister....womens are like this only...they don't gave money....but u gave money they save for future....they don't give to their family.....u don't give her safe feelings to her...that's the main problem

If you don’t believe financials must be shared among partners please get out of the marriage and save that girl from years of heartbreak. Cos you are only going to find ways to hide your finances over the years.

I simply don't understand , from ur words in this page.. what kind of relationship u have with ur wife. Being intorvert, doesn't mean u cant let ur wife know ur salary and kind of expenditure u do Also she said , she gives half her salary to her family.. if u think she wants to ctrl ur entire family, let her know openly what u spend on them. If u don't tell her, then she s right, u r hiding things from her, like she s a outsider..🤷 Also ask ur wife to share the family expenses from her salary .. U both r playing hide n seek game. It won't help.

You take care of your parents financially and your statement - “She expressed a desire to send half salary to her parents home” So? Isn’t it obvious? Why she should even express! It’s her money! The way you take care of your parents, why do you as a man feel she will not take care of her parents? Firstly , this entire stupidity of girls leaving parents house and going to guy’s house is utter bullshit. It’s like Sati Partha widow needs to die as husband died but with time it got changed right. Then why such stupidity in the name of culture still being continued to favor men? Both should leave your house and take a house on rent somewhere in middle so both can go to their parents house to take care of parents too. The day men will start leaving their own house and start living with wife’s parents house then you will realise how difficult it is to live with your partner’s parents! But clearly that won’t happen coz men have conveniently termed “Ghar Jamai” as a slang but women leaving her house and coming to yours is culture! Ridiculous honestly. Both should share each other bank statements to show financial savings , both should equally save and equally spend on respective parents!

The problem is you.. not her

A Manchild who doesn't have a spine hides behind the tag of Introvert.

Even now, you're unwilling to share anything with your wife, saying it wasn't intentional. She's supposed to be your partner, your better half, yet you keep her excluded from your life, as if she has no right to know what you're going through. At times, it feels like you still see yourself as a bachelor, treating this marriage like a relationship you can simply walk away from after a breakup. Yet when it comes to having children, that's something you're willing to pursue intentionally and then leave, as though that somehow solves everything. Go ahead and find your peace. She's already been made to feel unwanted and sidelined by both you and your family. Perhaps that's why walking away seems so easy for you, as if she was never truly a part of your life to begin with. So go ahead & find another woman, have children, and repeat the same cycle.

Real culprit is her mother and her upbringing, you can’t change it now ! And I don’t see if you have mutual trust you need to hide anything per say !

There is no other option than BEING A MAN. Observe ur wife's parents. Who runs that house? Who is incharge? What is role of ur father-in-law? Any argument happens, u can compare urself with her dad. If she argues back, tell her, ur dad is lucky have ur mom as his wife, am I lucky? Are you like ur mom?? If u compare her with her mom, immediately she ll agree to divorce. BTW, tel ur wife, I don't know if u ll be reason fr divorce, but Definitely her mom will be main reason for divorce n she becoming single. I hope, u don't ve a kid. Pls don't have kid with this kind of wife, she ll make ur life a living hell. Divorce is confirm for u.

No need to tell your salary. Give a shut up call to her mother(respectfully) whenever she speaks about your home and finances.

She is right. As a wife you can't give excuses that I'm introvert. Change your behaviour then. She is raising your child, she has every right to think about future of your kid and your old-age. Keep your sister away from your marriage. Give money to parents but make your child and your wife 1st priority always. That's your duty as husband. Your parents are now your extended family. Your first responsibility is your own kid and your wife. And as per law also: you are nobody to tell her where she should spend money or save money. Courts treat both in laws as equal- yours and hers. If you are asking to not to send money to her parents, you also have to follow the same rule. You won't get divorce on these stupid issues. She will get your property share too (your parents property too) + child's maintenance+ her maintenance. Why you want to put your life at stake for such small issue? Grow up and act like a mature person.

You are contributing for most of the family expenses.. you also save, you also provide for your dependent parents.. You have been a very good husband, a very good son, an excellent family man... But she is not having enough of it.. she wants to dictate what when where why how your hard earned money is being spent... She can do that for a portion of your income but not for whole income.. Controlling freak narcissist... Few tight slaps in front of her parents, shouting at your top tough voice not to interfere... It should be enough... Either she should shut up or pack off leaving you.. As long as you don't do anything illegal and don't have bad vices, you are free to tell her as much as possible and "not every thing"... If she really loves you and know you then ..." her trust on you" is missing Behaviour of men in these matters is more important.. *Be a MAN"

Well if she wants to take care of her parents that's nice . But these things should be cleared before marriage.if possible, so the guy have any other plans (financially) so he or she can deal easily . But you can't undone these things , and looks like she is bit a controlling person . And you are introvert, ... Tab toh tumhri G marleygi ye bandi . Take care of yourself. What piss me off , when you describe that she is saying "that you are spending too much money to your parents (talking about guy parents)." After this stage , things will go south , since she will take this as grudge and give money unnecessarily to her parents and spend money in other ways . One things leads another . So simply talk to.her ... And make a boundary since you ar introvert and if she don't understand... So you know the chances and steps .

This is the defination of a man child !!!! Men who hide behind introvert tag to shadow their weakness are biggest red flag, even if you divorce her, in another marriage also you will face same issue because you are the one at fault.

You were not ready to get married. You want live a secret life naming it introvert. You are not an introvert you have dark secrets. You give your salary to your parents then complain about her giving her salary to her parents lol. She is a woman. Did you forget?? 1st let me ask if you are a man or no?? If you think you are a man then earn and take the financial responsibilities of your wife, child and household. Why sister is using your money? Men should only marry when they are done with baby sitting their siblings and their children financially, emotionally etc. Now he want to divorce your wife because spending money on her feels a burden this is only happening because your parents n your sister are the real burden. Your wife is absolutely right here. Stop giving money to your sister and you will see your sister’s real face. Start spending more on your wife and save for yourself n your son. Your sister is no way your responsibility. Let her work and become financially independent.

This sounds like a you problem, you are the red flag here, you don't share your salary with her, but you know how she spends her salary. You want to take care of your parents, your sister, but she can't take care of her parents, what a hypocrite, she should have divorced your sorry ass

You yourself question her for giving her income to her family but at the same time she's the bad person if she's questioning you for giving your income to your family? Lol. Loser behaviour out and out.

You should have never got married

Absolutely nothing wrong with you. Intend to know about your father-in-law here. Come on! His daughter wants you to sign cheques in his direction and criticise your parents. I don't care about about what is marriage. Currently, you are on the losing track. May you start thinking with simple numbers only. Once again, I would like to have your sasural tagged here. Utmost disrespect.

she had a child and di u pay her for tht ? no it was free , for surrogacy one kid is 40 lac . she did it for free . this is for those men who say my money is ours and her money is her . dimwits.