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Kudos to this lady who put her foot down for herself..!!! What’s wrong in doing to our own parents who made us this far.. I’m so happy people are standing up for themselves and realizing soon before it’s too late and good part is she is not falling for that good husband trap.. always remember men take a donkey until they get horse so I always tell women you should never become that donkey.. good luck 👍

Your money, your choice. Please help your maternal family first and then if anything is in excess you can spend on them and that too is your choice

🤔idk what ohers say or do but im clear on one thing i dont spend your money nor i live on your food i have my own money so helping to anyone in my life is upto me unless i eat your food and do charity 🤣

Guys are good in pretending else who would marry the true face. Better to have the right always to take decision with you. And rest in-laws are the same category (max). You tc of ur family first. If boys wants to handle the responsibility of t their parents why this norm is different for girls?

If you're an iim grad, you should have considered marrying someone having similar credentials like yourself

Muster up the courage and say this to his face and your MIL's too.

Instead of anonymous confession here, deliver this message directly into his mailbox.

Do ur duty towards ur family and let him do his ,plan ur finances accordingly,discus wd ur husband and u shall pay for d nannies and let him pay for d other maids ,how much u do u are never going to be appreciated,remember that. When ur family visits in ur town let them take a hotel or homestay and enjoy ur time wd them, don't let small things bother u because,it's ur mental peace that falls apart, beleive me kisi ko kuch farak nhi parta he and most importantly don't discuss everything about small things to ur partner...I think husband and wife shld b friends but never be best friends...simple fanda Jiyo aur jine do.

Kudos to you for speaking so openly , all the women yet to marry must read such posts . Take care of your career and finances before marriage. Always , alway have a back up . Gone are the days where only a man was expected to be “ settled “ before getting married . A woman should have same goals . And a suggestion, before you talk to anyone , speak to a good lawyer first . Remember this family will fight you tooth and nail to avoid taking responsibility for kids . End of the day they will out all the blame and kids responsibility on you and make you the villain. So be it . Be a badass villain at that .Good luck to you.

A wrong Milu will read this and get mad at his wife

Who are they to question you if you help your parents . Family does not replaced by marriage . Go for separation if they torture . You ll find peace when you ve less stress

Who is Milu?

No need to justify anyone. Spend wherever you think is right. Legally they cannot force you and courts will also say this thing. No body can force a married woman to give their salary at home. Learn to take a stand for yourself in your life.

Will you be getting any share in your father's property?

They want your money. While your husband is free to give all your money to his parents, you will be questioned on it. Society is not the same for men and women. It's your money, you do what you want to do. Let them complain all they want.

You never considered your husbands family as yours and you don’t want too as well.. that’s why this confession 🙈🙈

To the people who say girls don’t marry a man earning less than her here she did and guy is earning less than her.pour your views now.

Thats amazing sister. Go fot it

Sorry sister. Its your money, other than your spouse ( and anyone who you want to share with ) none is entitled to know about your money and how you spend it. I dont give anyone that space to even know what I make. You can have a face to face conversation and let the people know that you don't want their inputs and you dont like what opinion they have to offer. My money my rules. None questions me but unfortunately some people know where I spend. And I don't appreciate that. People have felt bad when I shut them at the first instance of testing mt boundaries but, now they know what their limits are.

Not every men are same! But jealousy hoti h kuch ko , aur isse koi baat nhi nature h ye bus

So basically you are married to all Indian men?

It is never related money. It is about maturity, boundry, respect. In Parents oriented arranged marriage culture, always a Girl marry a boy. It never allow a woman marry a man. In these cultural marriage, usually a girl always become woman because of root environment change or after giving birth. But a boy never have opportunity to become a man. He may become man after 60 or woman in heaven. Your parents only pick a boy for you. And you allow them for this pick. So you and your parents responsible for this. Don't complain this.you are still in girl mode if you still think that it is related to salary issue. Better Live with this if you give warnings others. Atleast allow your child to become as woman or man.

Dump the man! Simple.

So you know each and every Indian Men Families? Just because your husband's family is shit or whatever, everyone ain't same.

If ever had a package of 34 lpa, i would have never gotten married! Twins in a marriage like this!! Dear lord!!

Your money, arrogance is talking not u...slow down n tell us the other side of the story too

This is why girls are going 4B. Marriage only benefits males not women

Can't you guys sit and discuss these things at home?

Divoarce is the only solution, move on, he has mjndset problem which will never change and you will live irritated always with him

Pretty much what I was saying in my last comment in the post before this one. Men seem to have a hell lot of problems about their wives helping their own parents with their own money. But, in our country, even some women will go against you because they have no capacity of comprehension, and are usually the "pick-me" types. They will lecture you instead about how the man is always right. Pity. You do you. Don't take bullshit from anyone. Man or woman. You have to take responsibility of your parents. There should be no compromise on this aspect just because you are a female.

It doesn't matter if u are from second tier or first tier college what matters is having decency empathy certainly missing here. As u are earning well money is not criteria but it also create insecurity feeling among the husband and family .in india many are misogynistic and patriarchal. They feel having money power in woman hand mean losing control. It's about power control. U should not take shit yes good money do there but it number. U can't get perfect husband but should be good enough to function as family ideally inlaw should not keep butting that only will cause trouble. U should your situation seriously. Rich husband not mean luxury that ladies misconception. Marriage is not business partnership it's beyond that. Men also aware lately many educated woman misusing the laws and system that part of ongoing issue . At end it also greediness it has no ends. One need to curb it leave with satisfaction here husband and family suffering this disease

Men are most selfish . Never allow them to treat your parents less than theirs..id they do so, tit for tat. I personally feel that girls parents do a lot more than boys parents. Boys parents are selfish, they raise them so that the boys can earn and spend money on them. Girls parents just do it with love and expect nothing in return.

It’s time to stop marrying Indian boys and marry abroad to non desi

Why are you even sharing details of what you are doing with your money? Your in laws are prime example of toxic family. Ask them to mend their ways,firmly. You married somebody with low dick energy. Convey everything clearly to them if you wish to stay in this marriage, else there is no dearth of capable guys in this world.

Tell them my family my money . So shut up