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Submit ConfessionGender: Male24 May 2026 at 2:19 am
#C27146 I’m a 28-year-old male currently living in Canada. My work permit expired last month. I’ve been in a relationship for the past 2.5–3 years with my girlfriend, who has permanent residency, and if we get married, I could also eventually get PR status. However, I’m struggling to make a firm decision because our family backgrounds are very different. I come from an upper middle-class family, while her family has very limited income. Her mother also passed away three months ago. She is studying dentistry and will likely become a dentist in the next 2–3 years, after which she may earn significantly more than me. She wants to settle in Canada permanently because of her career, whereas I’m uncertain since my parents are in India and I feel connected to them. Physically, she is 5’10” and around 99 kg, while I am 6’3” and 99 kg. Initially, I entered the relationship mainly for physical reasons, but over time I genuinely started liking her nature and personality. She cooks, works hard, supports me, helps me, and takes care of me. Honestly, there’s nothing wrong with her as a partner. One thing that has created confusion for me is that I told her I had been physical with two other girls before, and she was okay with it. When I asked about her past, she said she had never been with anyone, but later I checked her phone and found out she had previous physical relationships. Now that I need to make a serious life decision, I feel unable to decide clearly. I would genuinely appreciate honest and practical advice
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Don't ruin someone's life just to claim your citizenship. ... What I have understand your are still a kid, mature ban mere bhai.. love is greater than physical attractions
If she is okay with it, then you should also be okay with her past,..!
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Upper middle class ? Kitna crores hai apka family ke pass?
If u can have physical relationship even she can have physical relationship but honestly physical attraction is common but love is something different see she is ok with ur physical relationship and u are not ok with it correct so don't ruin her life by marrying her becoz inside u will be feeling she had physical relationship correct
Dub k mar jaa tu. Ya koi ladke se shaadi kar.
Don’t marry when you don’t love her! You’ll ruin her happy life if you do just for the sake of PR.
U don’t love her U love her PR only
A woman who takes care of you should be your wife.
Zero devided by zero is equal to zero
There's nothing wrong in her. Everyone has a past & past is past!! Be honest to yourself & marry her if u really love her. It looks like a sweet & sincere relationship, also your physical match is so wonderful. What's the guarantee that in future you will get a partner who never had any relationship with anybody before or even if u get one what's the guarantee there will be a genuine attraction, understanding & bonding like this one? How does the past matter when you both are already in a sincere relationship? If u really love her, her past shouldn't bother you. Why spoiling a beautiful future with useless imaginary garbage?
Bhai, tere fundamentals hi hile hue hai. Also, if you are concerned about her past, then pls leave her. Because overtime it will become a huge hindrance.
Lot marry there to get PR.,so they dont look past or figure... just marry, and get PR.. then.... up to you..
Past is past
Message to this boy gf- ....... run girl run as far as you can
Ye log dusare ka phone kaise check kar lete hai ? Aur log bhi pahle ka sara material rakhte hai ???
Kar le bhai us se shadi
Sahi hai dono wrestlers waali physique rakhte ho.
Don't marry her. Actually don't marry anyone.
Based on your confession here few things and advise u need to consider: From what you've written, this decision is not really about money, height, or even immigration. It's about whether you can build a lifelong partnership based on trust, shared goals, and mutual respect. Here are the main issues as I see them. 1. Your description of her is overwhelmingly positive You said she: Supports you emotionally. Helps and takes care of you. Is hardworking. Cooks and contributes to the relationship. Has a good personality. Has been with you for almost 3 years. You also said: > "Honestly, there's nothing wrong with her as a partner." That is a significant statement. Qualities like kindness, reliability, and commitment often matter more over decades than income or family background. 2. The biggest concern is not her past—it's the dishonesty You asked about her previous relationships, and she told you she had never been physical with anyone. Later you discovered that wasn't true. That raises two questions: Did she lie because she feared being judged or rejected? Or does she generally hide important information? Those are different situations. A single lie motivated by fear can sometimes be worked through if there is honest conversation and accountability. A pattern of deception is much more concerning. You should discuss it openly rather than relying on what you found by checking her phone. 3. You also crossed a trust boundary You found out by checking her phone. That suggests there was already a lack of trust in the relationship. Healthy marriages require both partners to respect each other's privacy while also being honest. Before marriage, ask yourself whether trust can genuinely be rebuilt on both sides. 4. Your long-term life goals may be the biggest compatibility issue She wants to: Build a dental career. Settle permanently in Canada. You are: Deeply connected to your parents in India. Unsure whether you want to remain in Canada. This difference could become much more significant than differences in wealth or past relationships. Imagine five years from now: She has established a dental practice in Canada. Your parents need increasing support in India. You want to return permanently, but she does not. Neither of you would necessarily be wrong, but this conflict could create serious strain. You need a detailed conversation about: Where you both want to live in 5, 10, and 20 years. Whether either of you would realistically relocate. How you would care for your parents. Whether you both want children and where you would raise them. 5. Family financial background matters less than values You mention coming from an upper middle-class family while hers has limited income. Since she is studying dentistry and is likely to become financially independent, the gap may become less relevant. What often matters more is whether your values around spending, saving, supporting family, and lifestyle are compatible. 6. Don't marry primarily for immigration status. If part of your thinking is: > "If we marry, I can eventually get permanent residency." that should not be the deciding factor. If the relationship later fails, both of you could face emotional and legal complications. Marriage works best when the commitment exists independently of immigration benefits. 7. Ask yourself these questions If immigration status were not involved, would I still want to marry her? If she earned more than I ever would, would I genuinely be comfortable with that? Can I forgive her for lying about her past, or will I keep bringing it up years later? Can she trust me after I checked her phone? Can we agree on where to build our life? When I imagine growing old, is she the person I want beside me? Your answers are more important than anyone else's opinion. A practical way to decide Create two lists: Reasons to marry Loving and supportive partner. Good compatibility in daily life. Shared emotional connection. Stable future together. Other reasons that matter to you. Reasons not to marry Different long-term country plans. Trust issue regarding honesty. Lingering resentment about her past. Any concerns that you believe cannot be resolved. Then ask yourself: Which list contains issues that can be solved through communication, and which contains fundamental incompatibilities? Overall impression Based only on what you've shared, the strongest reasons to pause and think carefully are: 1. The loss of trust caused by dishonesty. 2. Your uncertainty about living permanently in Canada versus your commitment to your parents in India. The differences in family income and her previous relationships, by themselves, are less likely to determine the success of a marriage than trust, communication, and aligned life goals. One final question that may help clarify your thinking is this: > If your immigration status were already secure and there were no PR benefit from marriage, would you still choose to marry her with confidence? Your honest answer to that question may tell you more than any external advice.
Bro, the issue isn't just about the visa. A woman may sometimes accept her partner spending time with someone else, but for many men, it's much harder. If a man says he'll do the same, it often means there is already doubt and hurt in his mind. If your only concern is getting a visa, then it may be better to let her go and stay with your parents. They raised us with love, sacrifices, and responsibility, and as children, we have the same responsibility to care for them when they need us. Nothing can truly replace a parent's love and support. But if you genuinely love her, then accept her completely, with all aspects of her life and choices. At the same time, find a way to keep your parents close and take care of them as well. True love and family responsibility should go hand in hand, not compete with each other.
ரெண்டு பேரும் தேர்ந்தெடுக்கப்பட்ட தேடுவியாவ தான் இருந்திருக்கீங்க. So நீங்க சேர்ந்து வாழறதுல என்ன தப்பு இருக்கப் போகுது?., வாழ்த்துகள் ப்ரோ 😁
😂 problem is why she lied , she knew you would accept it though
You don't deserve her...
Whatever this is!! Surely its not Love!!
abbbeyyyy saalee 🤣🤣
There is no Pyaar ,there is only PR 🤣💀
Better den coming in india anytime
Agar shaadi bhi kiya na, toh tuh pakka divorce hi dega after getting PR
Yes forget past
Chup chaap india aaja bhai fielding set ho jayegi nahi toh
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Leave her she desrves better partner
Reduce her weight, increase your weight & it will all balance out
For how much can i get World Cup league match tickets in Canada?
Don’t be a hypocrite
I hope she dumps you !
You don't deserve her, you are a hypocrite. Leave her alone and let her find someone who truly loves and values her.
You aren't mature enough to marry bruh.
You are a characterless spineless degenerate. If you think this is love, then the problem is your parents that gave this beliefs. I know I am being harsh but it is the truth. You pretend you love someone as a life partner then brings up your family background, financial status etc into the equation. How low can one be! Rules are for you, but not for me! Wow
Get the hell out of her life...you dont deserve her
Tujhe PR chaiye ya future certain nahi hai Maa baap me hai waha Jana ??? D K boss Kya girgit ke jaisa randi rona raha.
U seem like the red flag here not her!!!!
Second or third hand maal ko bibi banayega bc 😀
You want status in Canada and thinking about your girlfriend past man be a gentleman and married her if second person and don't be dramatic.
Here's my practical advice: you can fuck off back to India and live in peace according to your medieval customs.
She deserves better you are a TILLCHATTA
If your work permit is expired and you staying in country illegally better get your documents straight or either Jail or deportation 😂 .. officials will decide for you and your future ..
What a jerk