#C27158 Hello, I need relationship advice and suggestions please. I am 23 years old, and we have been in a relationship for 3 years. Both of us passed the Korean language exam, and he has already gone to Korea while I am still waiting. We have already had a physical relationship. Even when he was with me, he used to have physical relationships with other girls too. When I ask him about it, he says he loves me and that those things were not real or meaningful. Even after going to Korea, he asks me every day to be intimate with him, and if I refuse, he blackmails and mentally tortures me. If I do what he wants, he shows me a lot of love, but if I don’t, he insults me and even says terrible things about my home, family, and parents. What should I do? If I leave him, will I have to stay single for life? Because I am already a girl who had that kind of relationship with someone, and I don’t want to deceive an innocent person in the future. He has already pushed me into depression. Whatever he does, he says things like, “What have I even done?” and acts as if I’m overreacting. Please give me suggestions without judging me. I am extremely tired of all these things.please help me 😭😭
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Run from him girl! Build a career, you’ll find someone who’ll accept you for who you are .
What do you expect people to say for you ?. If you know very well what he is doing with you is not right then why are you even tolerating . If you have physical relationship and the relationship does not work out then you will feel used only. And honestly I think you can see very well you are being used. There is no future in these kind of relationship. So see for yourself leave him and move forward. If you continue too , suffering is what you will get.
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Girl run! Stop all contact. You are still young. If he is having multiple sexual partners women while he’s with you remember, he can bring you diseases like HIV, AIDS and other sexual diseases, which is life threatening. I hope at least this will stop you from having any physical contact with him. Focus on your education and work. When the right person comes along, you will have a good relationship. Don’t fall into the trap. You don’t need to reveal your past to anybody especially to men. The past is the past and everybody has done something. Don’t focus on men now. Get therapy. The world is beautiful outside this toxic relationship. You have many opportunities. Good luck.
How can you be virtually intimate with a guy who is in Korea?
He is toxic If you want to live, leave him Stay as far away from him as you can... virtually and physically.
Leave Him! I'll Marry You. Without talking even once about your past.
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There are guys with past who you can marry ..why put yourslef through a toxic situation
Better to be single than toxic relation
just stay happy! take time and be with you and don't contact him for a while and its ok! you were not in love that was attraction and its ok ! ab jo hogaya use hum nhi badal sakte but hum koshish kar sakte hai ki hum future me galti na kare ! aapko ab future ka sochna chahiye aur single raho to achi baat hai but kuch time baad koi na koi acha lag jaayega don't you worry about that
It's nothing of the sort of deceiving etc etc ... Now the modernity brought so many changes in the life styles. So accept adopt and adore the change. Good luck
If you want to leave him, just leave him without any 2nd thought. Then take some time to heal your emotions . You hurt guilt regret what every it is. Every thing is possible here. Mental exhaustion, depression koi bimari nahi hai, ye bas unhealed emotional state hai. And good news is that emotions aaj kuch aur kal kuch aur ho jayenge, coz ye change hote rehte hai. Iske liye koi acha subject matter expert se contact kar sakte ho, even ye karne se tum apne actual potential ko achieve kar loge. Just value your self, love your self unconditionally & Choose your self.
He is just using you..move away!
Galti to AP nay bhi Kya hai or AP ko pata bhi hai SB k Kya chal raha hai AP k Sath!! Kindly abhi bhi waqt hai shambal jaiyn. Move in kariyn es relationship ka end abhi say Nazar arha hai bhut bura!!! Allah pak AP ko apnay hifzo aman main rakhay or AP ki muskilo main kami ata farmiy
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Leave him..work and grow yourself...He is toxic and it's better to be alone then to be with one who belittles you again and again..life is long..give it a chance to heal..
First intimate him Then ✂ their weapon. Problem solve lifetime.
U mean North Korea ??
Hmmm - mistakes happen but when u realise something is not right you need to focus on how you want to make things right for u. 1. Do u love your boyfriend for who he is? Think (if u r staying with him only bec you had physical intimacy and u think that is a crime - u r wrong). 2. If u love him the way he is (and want to be in the toxic relationship that is upto u, if u want to move out then focus on below points. 3.inform him that you are breaking up and no longer want to be in this relationship and have a clean breakup (if he threatens you or blackmails you with pictures or anything dont hesitate file for police complaint (inform him u will do it and you will not back out) protecting your dignity is important. 4. Stop thinking that you had physical intimacy and how will you live your life in the future (why stop living today for the fear of what happens tomo) no matter what happens we have to face it whether you like it or not! 5. Decide whether you want to move to Korea or stay in India (decision is your's - think and work towards what u want). 6. Once breakup is done ensure u stay True to yourself (u never know u might fall for the same person again and again after all sometimes our hearts dont give up easily - then I would says it the fate and u cant escape). 7. In future when u meet the right person - tell him about your relationship (so u dont feel guilty of emotional cheating - again. Thats your choice no one is forcing u to tell truth or hide it - its for u to decide) 8 most important point - this is bit controversial not everyone is saint again this refers to only people who had their physical intimacy in schools/colleges or before marriage (again i wouldn't know that). Its not like everyone marries whom they loved or whom they want to spend their life with. 9. Ensure you dont cheat after meeting a right person (bec that is the last bit of dignity and emotional intimacy you can give ur life partner).
You already lost your self respect when you chose to stay even after knowing he was getting physical with others and continued the one sided relationship with a cheater.
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Uski puppet banne se acha hai ki bold step lo. Agar jarurat pade to police hi help lo. Or sabut save karke chalo. Delete nahi karna gusse ya emotions me.
Is it really necessary to by physically intimate when you are together?? Why can’t u focus on your career and wait till marriage ??🤔🤔😢
Hes an a****, better to be single and suffer mentally every day....you have given your body but not your soul to this a*****, he will dump you one fine day...there is a japanese proverb the longer you wait to get down off a wrong train the longer it takes to come back..
Move to korea and there you can find any man, and stay away from any person who tries to blackmail you.
Who gives voting rights just attaining 18 years of age, they must put a eligibility test before it, so that eligible one get the opportunity to elect, those who can't even decide over here must not be allowed to decide other's future too 😌
Red flag
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Why would you even want to be with such a guy
BPL kar. Ese toxic logon se door hi rhe. Bhot chhoti ho umar mein.
Fuck off such relationships where you are dying everyday, block him and go ahead in your life, do meditation
What madness is this getting intimate before marriage then losing ur self worth feeling lonely and depressed? This isnt love its lust For now just get out of this relationship Keep urself busy get any job if possible Later on u will understand what u need to do next
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In colloquial bengali there's a saying "Alpo boyesh e pakle baal, tar dhukko chirokal" translation for Pan India audience "When you're pubic hair get's white at young age, you suffer for a lifetime" meaning is when at a young age you imagine or start thinking of yourself to be excessive uncalled mature and free, capable of making autocratic life altering decisions, you suffer throughout your life. That's your current situation. So advice is please behave your age, focus on Self-developement and career not the current nonsensical life you're in or you can keep yourself on the same path. Choose wisely. 🙂
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If he's in Korea and you are here, How are you two still getting intimate daily?
Whore
Kon si duniya me rehti h aisi ladkiya ? Pls Aise ghatiya ladke ke sat rehne ki jrurt ky h phle to ye batao ? Nikl jao phle or uski band bajao ho sake to 🙏
Uski zindagi barbad kr de shadi kr ke us se
Are you kidding me! You knowingly want to jump into a hell marriage... He is physical with other girls and you r ok with it... Your confession makes me remind of the shithead wife "Binda" from Desi bling!!! Think wisely girl... Few months of depression is far better than lifetime mishap...
You are too innnocent for this world
You are being played by a player.....you can be sure he says the same things to every woman he sleeps with....and you have been dumb enough to leave him with photographic and videographic evidence so he can continue to blackmail you...I would not be surprised if decided to pimp you one day