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Believe me I think about the same question but with a Man P.O.V 🤣

Be a real feminist. Marry a shorter guy and allow him to be a homemaker. Give equal rights to him.

You invested in real-estate ? Meanwhile, I’m still investing in food and hoping for similar returns.

Your questions are valid, but no one can answer them. Sometimes out of desperation, we start chasing things that were never meant for us. Keep meeting people without high expectations. Wishing you find your partner soon.

They're not confused about commitment. With all the "practical" Things they also look for emotional and physical intimacy equation and compatibility which is also very important and matters in a marriage. When I mentioned about it in one of my meets she asked me "if I'm a sex addict" I mean wtf.

Your questions are right. The man who really wants to get settled for life will have the answers. I am the very lucky few who got all that checked on my first meet. But neither my marriage was easy nor will be yours. Its India. We get entangled with a lot of people. But if you find a partner who is willing to be around you, understand you, you will be able to navigate it with a lighter heart.

First of all congratulations and all the best for your future endeavours. You're a hard working person who has built everything on her own. But the thing is you're talking about marriage. How can you proceed to an institution like marriage without following the first steps? Romance and intimacy are the first steps that connect two souls. It seems you're looking for a business venture rather than having a partner for life. No man would want to marry a woman with no romance or feelings. They aren't machines.

Opposite gender, same story! Most of the women I met seemed more focused on securing their future than on building a life together. In my view, both your expectations and theirs matter. Without dating, romance, intimacy, and vibes, a marriage can easily become a set of performance & responsibilities being fulfilled rather than a relationship consciously built and nurtured together.

See, matrimonial and dating apps are a scam, in matrimonial apps people cloak themselves as most pious human beings on the face of the earth, men suddenly become Maryada Purushottam Bhagwan Ram, and Women become Sanskari Dharmik Super Virgin Pro Max Extreme Sita Mata... On Dating apps the same people would be Independent Baddies and Cool Party Dudes... Cause they're polymorphic and attracting crowds that fulfill their purpose. Don't fall in this trap, thankfully you're intelligence is saving you, but there's a High probability of being used and abused. So advice is, Let love happen organically, focus on yourself and Self-developement, if love or marriage is meant to happen it'll happen and no one can do anything about it. Take care and God Bless you 🙂

Dear Confessor, Most of the aspects that you look for(emotional maturity, intelligence, stability, depth, etc) are not Fixed Entities but Evolving in Nature. People tend to improve more as they experience more of life. All these factors are based on One Core Aspect of an Individual i.e. The Character/Values of the Individual. If you find a Person Compatible with You on this aspect, You will probably have a Good Companionship and Lifelong Commitment. Wish You All the Best.

जैसा तुम्हे चाहिए ऐसा मेरा एक कजिन है और जॉब पैसा भी अच्छा है उसके पास बताओ करवा दूं शादी

How about doing a business contract with people you meet? While you have high expectations with much long term goal of life and also you aim for the same from your partner, it's better to advertise business meetings and sign contract with them. You will get pertner and financial commitments both with too common shared goal without any emotion or vulnerabilities of a relationship.

It's entirely my own opinion. If both are perfect then the life wilk be boring. There should be balance like yin and yang.

Probably even when they are 30, Men are boys till they get married, only then they will understand what marriage is all about, and later when they have a daughter in their life they become more understanding towards women

So yesterday I read it on an evolved male’s fb wall ‘अगर arranged marriage ka concept ना होता तो इस देश के लाखों लड़कों को लड़कियां ना मिलती क्यूंकि वो इस लायक़ नहीं है’ I Translation- If there wasn’t the concept of arranged marriage, lakhs of boys/men would have stayed unmarried in this country because they deserve it that way. This is the current reality and I can understand your point. Right now I can suggest you two things: - join some hobby classes where you can meet people with similar level of understanding. But It will be purely by chance. - Start attending self improvement workshops (mental, financial, spiritual). I have come across many young eligible boys/men in such workshops. Present in this kind of event itself shows that the person is ready to evolve. There are chances you can meet someone wise there. All the very best!!

You have achieved so much so you better the difference between dating that leading to marriage or look for marriage directly after a brief courtship Dating may or may not lead to marriage and everyone has their own way for that..

Put your checklist aside and get to know people for who they truly are, if you're genuinely looking for a life companion rather than a perfectly curated luxury experience. You'll be surprised by how much better that feels. Over time, I've realized that it's not only people who disappoint us; our own list of expectations often filters out the genuinely good ones. Always remember: perfection is an illusion.

Mam i appreciate you being in a strong position, just a piece of advice ' You will nevrr find a person when you are looking for with so many parameters , you will just come across someone when you are not looking , and that person kay not tick all your boxes , but may take you off your feeet and you will automatically feel it in your guts...

You are searching Groom at Dating app and you are expecting for commitment and responsibility 😄. Your expectation is ok but at the same time most of the well settled groom is looking for Virgin Girl under 28 years.

When you meet man either through dating or arranged marriage set up. Tell him before only What are your expectations from partner and from marriage like how you both will share all the bills of the house 50:50 Share kids expenses 50:50 And if you are not ok with getting intimate before marriage then talk about that too. And don't forget to include pre marital blood tests before marriage from both mutually. From safe health point of view. For men intimacy matters girll. Men are created like that by God. So post marriage do keep time for intimate encounter when both mutually feels like enjoying private time together ❤️ If that guy genuinely likes you he will say ok let's wait till marriage. If immature then he himself will back off.

Why you need man as a partner? Live alone

Probably you are choosing people based on their outer looks/status.. to know the mind you have to know your mind first, after that you would be able to see patterns in people and choose accordingly

Physical intimacy in marriage is most important than other things..

Focus on attracting someone or let him fall for you.. that guy will be the perfect match for you.....

You are absoultely correct. Professionally well settled but I see that most of Men above 30+ now a days are not emotionally matured.

Different gender but same story. Difficult to find people who values internal qualities, most focus on things which are external. 😅 Rare to get a true friend these days.

Yes Very nice explanation and observation It happens becoz we need opposite gender not becoz physical but mentally support too You are self dependent time or your match will meet you surely, till then enjoy being single. It very good to stay away from toxic or unmatched personality

मै भी B. Tech IT engineer hu,, Stock Trading करता हु, घर जमाई बनना है मुझे, तुम्हारा पैकेज मेरा zerodha,बोलो रेडी हो क्या शादी के लिए? किसी वेल सेटल से शादी करके रोज की अलग अलग किरकिरी झेलने से अच्छा है किसी मिडल क्लास बच्चे के साथ पूरी जिंदगी खुश रहो। अपनी मन मर्ज़ी लाइफ। दारू गुटखा, बीड़ी, पूडि ऐसी कोई आदत नहीं है मुझे। Waiting for your reply, my Facebook profile is always open.....

Do you watch a lot of podcasts? If yes, then I'm sure you won't be able to find a partner at all. If no, then try some marriage apps or register yourself to a match maker. Trust me, they are better sources than dating apps.

You can't get required details from matrimonial or dating sites. Don't waste your precious time on sites. You have to ask it from your parents & relatives, they will help you with. But you have to take final decision of getting detailed enquiry. Else you will be in problems. All the best wishes.

People who are emotionally matured are already married...you must be looking for sexy handsome rich guy who loves to do outing and clubbing and enjoy his own life...in this scenario you'll not get any commitment

Basically you are looking for a gentleman with the complete package. Good people still exist among us but are out of our reach.

Marry a virgin man

I suppose u r late now

What came first, the chicken or the egg? When i met my wife, then girlfriend, it was about chemistry and attraction. This drove us to connect and once we connected deeply, compatibility was understood. Guys want to know that the girl they're with is someone they can have fun with too. Conversations, intimacy, shared passions and hobbies. Etc. It doesn't mean they lack emotional maturity. Some may. Some may not. It is only in the process of getting to know someone, that emotional compatibility can be verified. Also with regards to ambitions, life goals etc, those change with time and commitment. For ex, if you want reassurance that someone will unconditionally support your career and parents and you want this reassurance up front, why would a guy give that to you? He may say it. But if he likes you and there's a bond, such things come naturally out of love. So it's a complex question. Be wary of guys who are in it only for fun and up front say they don't want anything else. With those who you seem to "vibe" with, focus on spending time together and having fun and getting to know each other. Compatibility and commitment can only come with time.

If you aren't lucky you wont...

Such a clean and rational post. The question sounds genuine . However I was puzzled and confused seeing some laughing emojis here . Is there anything so funny which I am not able to understand?

if this is genuine then share your details inbox we are looking for someone. rest is destiny.

I am the one you are looking for 😌

Ping me and your search might end.

I don’t have answer for this but please don’t settle for less. Don’t lower your standard for any man. Best wishes.

You need professional advice

What u are looking for is hard to find now a days... U r self dependent......marry only if u get what u want... Otherwise don't marry... U will be disappointed.. best wishes... May u r dream/ wish come true

It's very rare to find your choice on dating apps if will be able to find and get then your are lucky,, Life me 4 Sukh sbko ni milte hai ,,,shadi nowadays very tough,,,,

You are wasting your time and wasting men's time as well.. the attributes you are looking to get required maturity post relationship / marriage and the only way to reach them is through romance.. so be open

You are getting old,marry soon..grandmaas have 3,4 kids this age.. women body perfect baby birth age is 23 to 30

You seem to be extremely sorted about what you want and you are at a good place in life age wise as well as career wise. Just keep this in mind - don't lose your life over finding such a partner.. Those kinda men barely exist, maybe 2 in 10 if I'm being optimistic. And even if they do, it's not a given that they'll like you too. Most men (even the super sorted ones) like it if they can control their woman and make them feel more dumb. So don't ever fall for any such things because once you face a setback it's hard to again reset life and get back to normalcy. Be on the lookout for genuine people and take your time navigating your find for a partner, don't rush into it for the wrong reasons.

Dating apps must be for dating not marriage. And plenty men must be having an account for time pass. Once a girl falls into this trap, men will think that she has been through multiple realations and not suitable for marriage. Most men still prefer the perfect wife who will be liked by the family. In our times we had no apps. Neither had relationships. Just got married all of a sudden.

Single rhne me hi win win hai.

Gh Ya perfect girl for u buddy😌

There are 2 aspects of your confession, 1st side you say you are stable Financially and emotionally both and 2nd side you are looking for emotional compatibility and stability in life..!! Young Lady You don't need a companion at this age for mental or emotional support rather something else..!! so Focus on your career instead ..Best wishes

Bhain Itna kujh nahi milta shadi ke baad

Men usually aren't crazy about financially independent women 🌚 there's always this trade-off where you could've gotten a preferred man when you were under 25, and married him and you guys could've built your life together. But at 30, most people are already exhausted and tired and preoccupied with exes, so it all turns chaotic 🌚

Your questions are right

I'm in Pune too. Why I don't stumble with the right one ..

Simple yaar. Dating platform is for dating alone. Not for commitment. Each profile u see in ur matrimonial website is unique in some or other way. While not all the men need only physical intimacy. There are lot who are waiting for the moment u r asking. If u r not finding ur guy, just skip and search again. Frankly speaking I m also ur age and searching for a girl. Finding a girl for marriage only is tuff. Boys are plenty here. Choose wisely.

Sick feminism is solely responsible for the changes in men now. And now its vice-versa 😆

How much do you weigh?

Ma'am, it's a continuous-process driven activity, not a predictive-analytics driven decision. You pursued your career, not after figuring out everything. You took on your initial job and gradually put efforts to find your niche, growth, and satisfaction, without quitting it irrespective of all the irritation and frustration. Similarly, instead of thinking to choose a MAN by trying to figure out SARV-GUN-SAMPANN, to take your marriage call, just choose a MAN through your trust-worthy friends circle or whom you might have coincidentally met and spend sometime together. If both of you feel to go forward, then tie the knot. Trust me, marriage is not about the match or magic, instead it's about willing to keep continuing a companionship with mutual efforts, understanding, and trusting the union and it's divinity.

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A bitter fact = 90% men don't like strong independent women, maximum men likes earning+ obedient women, who does not have her own opinions about anything. Look from rest 10%. Good luck lol

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I think u better stay alone..so many arranged marriages re successful..

Men are naturally scared these days of commitment in a country where they are considered a perpetrator by default. I would myself marry somewhere else probably with someone more beautiful white girl than the girl here who pretends to be white and acts fake accordingly. You seem good and honest but it's a collective degradation of societal values

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Don't chase ... Attract

It is very difficult for you to get it but there are few questions you can ask to yourself and that guy with whom you want to close the deal, these questions will give you clarity of thought

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i m from pune come in dm i m lookin for wat u need

Don't give up didi😦

Men really doesn't want to commit to marriage but rather be get wife treatment and sleep around with different women be very careful if a man ask you for being intimate before marriage that's red flag,good men would married you .

Thanks to feminism. This will get worse.

Were you expecting the guy to bring talks related to responsibilities - emotional compatibility - long-term goals - ambitions - values - expectations from life and partnership? did you try to initiate the conversation yourself regarding the aforesaid matters? or were you waiting him to do so the whole time? May be they find you not so interesting or maybe they really had no answers hence they shifted towards intimacy, physical needs/pleasure. May be you are not even looking in the right direction. Meet them directly and ask such questions yourself. May be you find the collective vision regarding marriage or maybe you would not find it missing in all. Ask questions to them. you will find the real version of them. but don't wait for them to do all the talking. It is equally boring to them hence the shift.

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Very simple, all men are scared of the shit laws which are against us so that's the prime reason

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More than anything you need a Lawyer/Advisor to prepare your pre-nup, financial protections and post-nup before u get married to protect what u have today in case it goes south. Structures often do a lot more to protect marriages than hope itself. Also helps vetting the right person. Feel free to DM for more help.

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