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Submit ConfessionGender: Male13 May 2026 at 8:30 pm
#C27121 33, M I am a reasonably good-looking man with an athletic build, although over the last 4 years of working from home, I have gained some belly fat due to a mostly inactive lifestyle. I got married about 3 years ago through an arranged marriage setup. Before tying the knot, I had an active dating life and was in 7 relationships. My first girlfriend was reasonably attractive, though not exceptionally beautiful, while the other 6 were strikingly gorgeous. I had passionate physical relationships with all of them, and intimacy was never an issue in those relationships. My stamina has always been quite good, and a typical intimate session for me would comfortably last quite long. Coming to my wife, she is dusky and looks okayish, though she is genuinely kind-hearted and caring. She had two relationships before marriage and had been physically involved with one of them, which I learned after our wedding. I chose to marry her because my instincts told me her kind nature would make for a peaceful home, which was a major priority for my parents. Over time, I genuinely started loving her and cared for her. We both work in the IT industry and are financially stable. I have always tried to be a supportive husband, ensuring she feels valued and happy in the marriage. We travel frequently, both within India and internationally, and are generally seen as a happy couple. I enjoy buying gifts for her, and she has never objected when I spend heavily on myself either. However, our physical relationship has always been a concern for me. I rarely feel strong physical attraction towards her, and our intimacy has been very limited since marriage. I often struggle with arousal and sometimes fail to maintain an erection, which eventually made me believe I might have a medical or s*xual problem. Last month, while my wife was away for 3 days on an office trip, my anxiety pushed me to make a regrettable decision. I hired a young and beautiful escort for a night purely to figure out whether I truly had a s*xual problem. Despite the guilt, the experience gave me clarity. I had no difficulty with arousal, stamina, or performance, which made me realise the issue was not physical. Now I feel deeply conflicted. Our parents have started pressuring us a little to plan for a child, but I still do not feel genuine physical desire towards my wife. What troubles me even more is the drastic difference in my s*xual life before and after marriage. I am unsure how to deal with this situation and would sincerely appreciate some advice on what I should do next.
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Pookie Baba was right ....Jo 100 jagah mu marega woh ek jagah kaise tikega.....go for counseling
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Am I the only person wondering how Indian population has grown so much without any of what you say . They say thiruttu maanga enikkum..it's basically mindset .you know she is there always for you .so you take it easy .there are so many therapists who can guide you in right way .
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Bhai u r problem is more in psychological side than physical
Nobody can get everything from a single person we are humans not robot that we can build according to our preferences. If hypothetically you leave her married someone else maybe she will be immensely attractive you will feel intense physical desire for her. But her heart may not be good . Then there will be physical satisfaction but not mental satisfaction. Which will eventually lead to disastrous marriage. Because marriage is long time thing peace is really important to work it out. Now you are getting mental satisfaction not physical. Now you have to decide for your own life what you want. Only you personally know you're own priorities. Honestly this type of problem if happen you should go to couple therapy to talk to doctor try to see if they can do anything about it . It's nothing uncommon problem actually. So instead of cheating or resenting her take right step.
Tabhi toh kehte hain na Virginity is a Gift in Marriage. Tu benkelundd kabhi satisfy hoga bhi nahiπ
Before making your wife pregnant beta get tested for all STD . Otherwise your little bundle of joy baby will come with some virus if you are infected with any viruses. Secondly whether you get attracted to her or not , now literally there is no meaning in that after getting married to her. If that was what your inner desire was you should have got married to either a decent girl or beautiful girl. Now no use thinking π€ about that . You have crossed that station of your life's journey. Accept her the way she is . And move on with life. Dont destroy her life beta. Long back I read somewhere a naughty hubby becoming naughty Tarzan when he went on business tour and slept with someone. After few months that is 90 days window period got over he got a little naughty surprise called as HIV . when he mated with wife after 90 days , that naughty Tarzan hubby infected clueless innocent wife with same HIV VIRUS. End result both of them now will have to be on anti retro viral drugs to keep immune system alive healthy otherwise HIV will progress to AIDS when the T cells will go below a healthy range. Even condoms doesn't give 100% protection. So better don't do such adventure beta . Also anti retro viral drugs side effect is possible kidney failure for some in the long run. And if you don't take that daily you will die of AIDS so it's like double edged weapon . If kidneys fail there is only dialysis every few weeks to filter and clean up your blood by products which your kidneys used to do when he was healthy active. Don't do such little naughty Tarzan adventure in future . Stay committed faithful to your wife and enjoy rocking s** with her life long with variations both would like to try mutually beta. And then there are other viruses like HPV which doesn't need penetrating effect to spread . It passes by skin to skin contacts too. For men it just gives warts on private parts. But for women this HPV is very dangerous in the long run after remaining dormant in the body system for 5 to 10 years it gets activated and can result in cervical cancer. Only treatment is removal of cervix , uterus painful chemotherapy. Think about all these things before your naughty mind tells you to become a naughty Tarzan hubby next life. Don't gamble with your life. If health is there then only you can earn well and enjoy life going for trips in India and abroad. And other things with spouse , family. Keep your body weight in check . You will put on weight , that will invite diabetes, which will make your blood thick and sticky , chain reaction will be s** life going full toss . Because of errection issue. Get a good pair of comfortable shoes , go for alternate days jogging 25 mins . To keep body mass index weight in check , stay healthy , and for enjoying rocking s** life. Beta. ONLY with spouse little naughty π Tarzan hubby
Ye aisa karenge baad me wife office trip me enjoy karengi Fir ek dusra confession aayenga I found my wife intimated with her boss.
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As a Divorce Attorney, stick to.your marriage. In any relationship, seΓual excitement wears off anywhere between months to years. Beauty too fades. But a kind, loyal woman is tough to find. Note: Added Mentally and Financially stable? - Extremely Hard to find. On the flip side... think about this... she may be feeling it too. What if, she ends up cheating and decides to abandon the family simply cz "the seΓ was better"? I recently handled a case like this. The lady being hyperseΓual and the man being somewhat avoidant (but there was a genuine underlying issue there). I suggest, have urself checked for signs of mild-moderate NPD. As for your marriage - It's up to YOU to build the excitement. Tell her how u like to see her in the room. What lacks in intimacy. Treat her like your gf and things should get better. Escorts can be a risky game - 1 broken protection and your whole family is exposed to STIs. 3rdly, be too obsessed with a woman and it hurts ur work when it doesn't work out. 4th women with higher seΓual appetites may have a higher chance to cheat or seek better seΓ one the excitement wears off, if they too seek satisfaction like u. All in all... Is it worth fracking ur marriage and ur stable home for a few days of High? I would've suggested opening ur marriage- But that seldom works. One or the other either ends up getting attached elsewhere or ends up bringing home en STI. Same with ENMs. Rest as u deem fit.
no man is abusing this guy for cheating with his wife. Reverse the gender and fir gaaliya dekho
You need to go for a couples counselling ...
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It's very simple. Just buy some gifts like a transparent saree for ur wife and take her for 2 or 3days without any disturbance spend quality time and night then ur issue may resolve.
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Happens to almost everyone at your position. The first few encounters set the baseline of definition of attraction for us. Should have gone for someone with similar physical characteristics, not same.
She needs more professional grooming and medical assistance to reach the level of your physical attraction, maybe those beautifying formulae, gym or yoga or complete overall transformation. Come on you have financial prowess, take it to where you want it up to. Come on. No woman will say no to anything that will beautify her.
Cover the face, f the base while u think about your ex's doing it . Simple βοΈβΊοΈ
Have a spine
If you are not able to have a stable and committed life, why you married? Having multiple affairs and shouting out about it in public forum is really decent? If your wife says that she wanted to check her femininity and sleep with another man, do you accept it? Have some responsibilities and commitments towards family. Wife is not a material...already you had 7 affairs before marriage.....still not enough. First change your thoughts....learn to respect your wife and live with her. If you still think only physical relationship is important for you, you are not fit for married life...
Switch off the light and continue...
STD test first
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Yucky person
Check with counselor once they will counsel you both
Blud has no issue with cheating on wife now. But only has an issue with his sexual life with his wife? Vaare va. First discuss with your wife on how you have cheated on her. And after that we will give you suggestions.
So you cheated on your wife!
Post your photo and let us judge if you are handsome and athletic or not. Then we will advice you accordingly. Anyway you are going to die from STDs and your wife will be free from you. She can have a child with her next husband after you are dead from diseases.
You are for streets...Dont blame your wife.
A man with a promiscuous past and questionable character. So you cheated on your wife just to 'figure it out' that you have any sexual disease or not, for which you could have just consulted with a doctor. Just confess that you don't desire her so you enjoyed it with an escort. And the way you described your exes, it looks like you're still not over yet, and keep on comparing your wife with them. That's why the past matters for all.
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So u cheated on ur wife woww such a character
So u cheated on her. U would have consulted a doctor or sexologists instead. Damn infidelity is crazily rising among Indians.
u need mental treatment.keep hiring escorts u moron.Men are pathetic.
Har waqt L**d se sochna acha nahi hota - increase foreplay and play ur fantasies khada ho jayega
It's better not to have child when you don't love your wife... You are gonna cheat on her and divorce her anyway... So why bring a child to the world?
Stop watching porn and karma is good bleiver
Do one thing become a gigolo I believe that will give you satisfaction because clearly you don't deserve love. All the best!