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I really appreciate your respect towards her...you are a gentleman truly. There's nothing wrong a man expects his woman to be good. In your situation, you had no past relationship....so your expectations are not at all wrong....in the current situation, it's better you should not marry her. Because your mind is not ready to accept her past though trying to forget it....if you marry her now, it may come to forefront in one or the other way which leads to fighting. After marriage it's too late to take any decisions...both of you talk about this openly and come to the conclusion....but don't marry if you are in confusion.... please

Never believe a woman with a past who says, "I dont love my ex anymore, I only love you". A woman past is a past, even if she has only exchanged love letters or expressed love with him, it would still be a past. That guy will remain in her memory, and she will compare you to him consciously and sub consciously, leading to a disaster in your relationship with her. Dear men, don't be like those miserable male feminists, never tolerate a woman who has loved a man before you.

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The good thing is that she was honest about her past before getting married. But from what you've written, it doesn't seem like you're truly okay with it. You might accept it now because of emotions or because you hope you'll get over it, but these thoughts will probably come back later. Don't force yourself to ignore how you feel. If you genuinely think you'll never be able to accept her past, it's better to walk away respectfully before the wedding. Otherwise, this discomfort will likely create problems for both of you in the long run.

I think the real question is not whether she had a past, but whether you can genuinely accept it and move forward without resentment. From what you described, she was honest when you asked, she did not hide it, and she is making an effort to build a future with you. That is a positive sign. However, your feelings are also valid. Since you have never been in a relationship yourself, it is natural that you imagined marrying someone with a similar background. The problem is that once a person starts questioning the past, there is often no end to it. If she says it happened twice, your mind may ask whether it was really twice. If she says it was one person, your mind may wonder whether there were others. No amount of questioning can completely remove doubt if the issue is coming from insecurity and overthinking rather than evidence. Ask yourself honestly: if nothing new is discovered and everything she told you is true, can you accept it and treat her with respect for the rest of your life? If the answer is yes, then stop digging into the past and focus on the person she is today. If the answer is no, then it is better to recognize that now rather than enter a marriage carrying resentment. A successful marriage is built on trust, honesty, character, and commitment not on constantly investigating someone’s past. If she has been truthful, loyal, and serious about building a future with you, then judge her by her present actions rather than her past mistakes. Only you can decide whether this is a deal breaker for you, but whatever you decide, be fair to both yourself and her. Do not marry her hoping your feelings will magically disappear, and do not punish her for being honest when you were the one who asked the question.

Some men enjoy while having ..ex by listening their past

Man why don't u ask such things before things get serious (like Roka or engagement)? Now suffer!

Bro, what you're about to do which is a big commitment for life. But a seed of doubt is already sown in your mind, which will only grow in future and that's not fair for her, she had experiences in past which is absolutely fine.Your expectations are different and doesn't align with her, so it's better you called off the engagement. A bitter ending is better than endless bitterness. BTW I hope you somehow get to experience intimacy before marriage to know more about this down the line.

Find about her honesty is because of fear that her x will leak info about their relationship Or Like she wants to embrace honesty with all her will. If second scenario then set her conditions that she will not breach any such type of relationship in future

Be careful!! We come across many crimes happening after marriage..

ANy way your going to Enjoy it Leave it... No seal no deal 😂😅🤣

Read about retroactive jealousy from AI. It is psychology problem you are going through

Don't marry let her live with peace ✌️

Better stop marrying her.. if u marry and in future if you point out using wrong words then both will hurt and both futures will be in trouble.. better should not know these things to eachother

If she is committed now, her past doesn’t define her. Respect that and move forward like a man.

Bhai uno issliye respect care effetion batare kynki aagey chalke aapki maloom b hua to sambhal liye jaisa rehna bolke. Correct type of pampering. Magar aap poora case ulta krdye Poochke khair jo b ho bharosa to nai kar saktey Ek baar hua ghalti se bole to b sonch saktey magar 2 time with same guy bole to wantedly. So i think u are mature enough to take the wise decision. Allah her kisi ka naseeb acha kare. Ameeen.

If u can't accept then don't move ahead wait n see if u can get another gal with clear past like u

One question - why does a man or woman need to know about the past of each other! You both have come together cos you want to start fresh!!!! Just may be ask questions like are you sure of this marriage, you haven’t been forced into it right?, if anytime in future you want to walk away let’s do it amicably! Past just creates doubt and insecurities! And we do judge them even if they tell the truth or not!!!

There is a simple formula...1st is always FIRST 😂 it stays..

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Chomu make ego. Don't marry her. U will ruin her life with your shak ka kida. If you can't deal with it don't ask questions in future

Just Read Confession 27056. No Seal No Deal. Already seal broken just tell her for physical so she can compare with her ex, if you are noob in physical then your married life will fcked up!

Stay single.

Better drop this alliance..Mental peace is more imp..The girl s ease to ve ve premarital sex shows her attitude..i think this doesnt go with ur nature..

Bro whatever she said multiple it by 10. These ho3s ain't loyal don't get married to a ran through beach for your own good.