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Don't marry her. Because these questions will come up post-marriage as well. You won't be able to handle it and the grumbling will remain forever. And, in turn, you will not only be spoiling your own life, but hers as well.

Brother. if she said twice it could be multiple times. twice is only possible if u meet a stranger and happened unexpectedly. If he was a boyfriend, then definitely she had multiple times. Because of her past experiences she knows to handle situation also very well. let me tell you, it's very difficult to accept something like this from ur wife and it will keep haunting again and again unless u too are of same category.

Past decides present and future.. Think of it. Don’t get into marriage with this girl if you can’t remove this fact from your brain

You cannot marry a woman who was in relationship then break the roka .. if you are confused and not able to handle her reality then better not go in marriage

Choose peace of mind over anything else. Think what would help you have that peace of mind, and do that.

If you are very doubtful then please don't marry her and add more trouble to her life and yours. Search a partner like you are who you are and call yourself pristine which you are not mentally. Please let her go and cancel this engagement. Let her find someone who will accept her as she is.

Although everything is subjective in life, I would rather advise you to think about this marriage twice. It's nothing to do with just her past but the fact that you won't be able to handle this thing and ruin your life and hers. I am not even talking about the possibility of her going back or whatever, she may prove to be very loyal to you or maybe not but you won't be reaching that scenario because seeds of suspicion have already been sown into your mind. Also, since you were never emotionally/physically involved before, the first thing you will always fight with her post marriage is regarding her past. It's best you find someone who shares value where you do not feel conflicted in such a beautiful relationship that you intend to enter. It's best to not move ahead with her if her past is continuously bothering you. ( No judgement on you too since you were always focussed on your goal and whatever castles you built for your bride in your mind are not unreasonable as well) But in case you decide to not go ahead, make sure that no blame falls on her since girls generally are more on the receiving end if the people come to know that she is responsible for breaking of roka.

Bro, her past is something you can’t change, so there’s no point obsessing over it. And don’t assume that walking away means you’ll find someone better, more often than not, things don’t turn out that way. The only thing that truly matters is whether she remains loyal to you from this point onward. The future matters far more than the past.

If she talk u very sweetly then something is very fishy. Contact her ex without informing her, its better way to check her honesty, ask him reason of breakup too, if u r satisfy about ur girl then do next move otherwise it's better to close here Check her efforts for u, if her efforts are pure then ask her directly about past relationships. Any female still remembering her ex then it means she still love her, it's better to go away One ques for u, what if she lie about physical relationship??

Simple logic, No seal, no deal !!

Once u hv doubt over a person, never go ahead in that relationship... This doubt will destroy your peace even she thousand times proves herself... Better break this relation and find someone on whom u can trust..

After marriage, his boyfriend might contact her .. and so and so on . Later you will be blue drum . Or anything else .

It’s not twice. And never will be. The moment some dispute happens she will run to him. Since you never had any relationship between to break it. These things will haunt you Fr lifetime. Let her marry boyfriend. And you will be safe. There are good girls search fr them

Dude fact is you can't change the past. If you have doubts why didn't you ask before roka ?? She could hide it right ! And let me clarify something women who gets cheated are more devoted towards new partner. Moving on is definitely possible, shaming a non virgin woman is very common in India. The more you will write in social media the more things will mess your mind. So if you can't accept it just break the roka. After marriage more than physical registration, handling the household and building a life is more important. I can assure you world does not revolve around virginity. You just could see that what she brings on the table as an equal partner. But surely you are more concerned about virginity so if you think that it's not working you can get out of this. It's better to leave it rather than getting caged in a lifetime over thinking spiral.

To be honest everyone has a past few hide it few shares it anyways mate it's hard for u get someone with no past so let be clear ask her if she still talks with her x and if so move on ... Reason why she is not with him aswell...

First of all I want to clear out that nowadays most boys are girls are having bf/gf and physical relationships too. you’re not having a past relationship or physically intimate with anyone that’s your problem, not her. And honestly, she had told you about her past means she trust you also so trust her too. She can lie also but she didn’t.

If she is saying 2 times with one guys , then consider it at least 20 times with 2 or more guys. It is true for 99% , 25 year old girls.

2 Times Means 10+ Times In Female Psychology

It will keep bothering you even after marriage, better not to proceed further.

Let her go. She is too good for you!

Don't marry her. If you have a clear past, you can never love her. Whatever moments you'll create with her, every time the thought that will come to your mind is that she already lived these moments with someone else and it will turn into a life long trauma for you. Don't let your emotions or the nice guy inside you to overpower your thoughts, and take a decision practically.

उससे रिश्ता तोड़ो क्योंकि वो इतना शक्की पार्टनर deserve नही करती

You may give up on this engagement if it brings you peace . Honestly speaking though , its 2026 . If you are still looking for a virgin then you are up for a rude awakening. You need to be more open minded . In future you might just find a v , but that does not guarantee a good married life . Sincere suggestion , find-a partner that supports you , brings happiness and both of you contribute for a loving relationship. Remember everyone has a past.

Bhai ek baat kahunga larkiyon ko apna first love hamesha yaad rhta h, usse ye baat zarrur puchna ki do you have a regret of getting physical with her man in the past agar usko sach me regret h tab thik h sab aur agar tujhe fir bhi doubts ho rhe h simple sab cancel kr ke nikal ja uski life se....yaa fir time le usey observe kr shaadi krne k leye time maang...agar if abhi bhi uska past me connections h toh bandi red flag h......WOMEN NEVER FORGET THEIR FIRST MAN WHOM THEY HAD BEEN PHYSICAL....UNKE DESIRES ME RHTA H UNKA FIRST MAN...Be very careful bro...teri peace matter zyada krti h naa ki ek red flag ka pyaar

Every one will have past, past is past, live in current. If you still can’t come out of that , then better consult Psychologist. Still can’t come out, then better to not to move forward with this relationship, becuase we should never enter relationship with double minded. It Will ruin your and your partner life.

Don't marry the girl who have past she will always compare you with her past and later ur marriage will destroy so move on dnt marry

bhai tu shaadi karna bhi chahta h? are we waiting for another episode of Crime patrol?

First and for all, you shouldn't have asked someone about her past. It has nothing to do with you as it happened in the past. What happens in past remains in past and must not effect the future. If you have accepted her in the first place, make sure to accept her with all her flaws.

Good that u spoke up Imagine what if she had lied? Break the stereotype that I am a virgin and i deserve a virgin thing Accept her, converse more freely and have a pma.If required, postpone the dates take more time Be strong and move ahead happily with her

It's important to consider the impact of your decisions on both yourself and your family. Instead of leaving, think about finding a partner who shares your values and aspirations. Marrying someone who is a good match for you can lead to a fulfilling and happy life together. Prioritize your happiness and the well-being of those you care about.

Don’t proceed with 1% doubt. It’s your inner soul who knows the truth. Skip it.

One word "Don't"

There is NO medicine for doubt..that too on a women who had an intimate relationship in the past twice or more maybe... nobody agrees and says yes I did 10 or 20 times...better do the enquiry again with ex, locals, office if she's working.. only to be sure on the numbers but Don't GO with this relationship bro even with 1% doubt 🧐

If u want to know her that she honestly love u ,and caring for u ,just tell her that u also lied about ur income ,u earn half of the income u told her . Then see the real colors of love

If you are confused don't move forward because in future at some point it will effect your marriage so better to called off

What you are going through is normal. Tell her how you feel and ask her to reassure you regularly so that you can get over this feeling. If she has been honest with you you should accept it, forget the past and move on. Tell her firmly that the past should strictly remain in the past and not come back in the future no matter what happens between you two.

Leave n move to other woman simple that physical intimacy may erupt again future also better to b happy then cry later

Very valid thoughts! You must have neen reading all these comments about how women lie about the counts when it comes to the no of relationships/situationships or even count of intimacy sessions. In very rare cases a couple is in relationship and have intimacy only twice. I mean it's possible that it has happened only twice but it's very hard to believe. Also, you are not insecure, you are just thoughtful. My advice is to break the alliance and move along to someone else but this time have the discussion about these things in a very serious and sincere manner well before you proceed with that alliance.

Are namune chup shadi karlre ya zindagi bhar mutti marte rahenga phir

Everyone has a past its normal for last 50 - 60 yrs in our country. Although physical intimacy wid no barriers be4 marriage. It's aping the western world. is a recent trend. Yu r blessed she told yu honestly . As yu didn't have any relationship yu r overthinking. If yu have doubts then plz rethink of yur future wid her. NXT girl ma not be honest & may hide. Best wishes

That's a Polite way of saying 200+ times. Don't settle for less if your mind and heart don't agree.

It she says twice. Surely above 10.

For sure it's just not the "twice" incidents, if you can accept and live with it then go ahead otherwise don't move forward half heartedly

Please don't proceed with this match. Break up. You will never stop these thoughts and you will eventually kill her based on your false suspicions even if she stays loyal. Whatever she does and wherever she goes, you will always believe she's cheating on you. Even if she showers in the bathroom, you will still think she's pleasuring herself because you're not pleasuring her, that's where your mindset will lead you. Yes, she had past and she openly admitted to you everything. She doesn't deserve your mental torture and you don't deserve your own subconscious mental torture. Please cancel the marriage for both fo your safety and peace of mind. Also it's basic common think to ask about physical intimacy things when in talking stage even before any decision was made about confirming the match or not, that's basic common sense a toddler has.

Leave her or else you will regret forever

भाई तुम निकल जा,,क्यूंकि तुम्हारा जैसा स्थिति है आज नहीं तो कल तुम चिंगारी को जवालामुखी का रूप दे देगा और सब समाप्त कर देगा

Second mrg nu nenachiko bro..

Feel bad for you. The real problem is you had no relationship in the past. There is a high possibility that you will find some one outside marriage. Lose your virginty to someone else before your marriage then you both will become equals. Build an affair with her exes wife/gf to match the equation. Guys wont get opportunity to lose virginity but girls get that. If you stay as a virgin you are considered as a dinosaur kind of person who does not exist. Most of the women like men with past relationship and experience than a virgin guy for many reasons but it is the opposite for girls. Atleast insist for a health check report and ensure she does not have an STD. Get to know who her BF was and send a clear warning if they try to continue anything after the marriage they both will bear the consequences. Kick her ex on his groin for enjoying without responsibilities. She may compare your sexual performance with him. She may divorce you and ask for alimony.

Have some standards and boundaries for yourself. Moral and family values go a long way. You clearly have those but your partner, not so much. Don't listen to the comments who say "oh this is modern age, you must be insecure" type nonsense. Move away and close this now. There are plenty of beautiful women who can give you all you need. Don't fall for sweet talk.

Yaar kaun ho tum log yaar....

The real question is why you asked the this question after you got engaged and not before?

Girls always lies. If she said she had twice that means she had 200 times and with several guys. Avoid such women. There are many normal women. Chose among them

Don't marry her brother,your virgin and you don't had any past relationship, your not insecure,but if yout feeling doubtful than don't marry, you have to adjust her because of her past?why?You have right to marry a virgin girl,you deserve that ,there is no shame to chose a virgin partner,past matters a lot,it doesn't mean if she is kind and so on as girl's do this drama, first they enjoy their teens , adulthood and than settle for guy who is average and successful and trap them in their net,so be carefull it's upon you ,if you want to marry her or not ,and if yours gut feeling say no better to listen your mind.if i were in your situation i don't marry a girl who has been intimate in past and multiples hav multiple relationships,Be a man, don't be a simp, virgin deserve virgin.

Some things there’s no moving on from

Just ask her these qstn rather than asking here if she reassures u then trust her

No seal no deal.. She is just now goimg with u as a safe option after hoing around for years.. Belive me bitcjes don't stop at one.. N if relationship was there then sry bro she got drilles numerous times not just two times... THINK abt their chats their vc.. What what they wud hv done... Her nude pics wud still be with him and maybe many others wud hv seen tooo... Think bro think... No seal No deal bro

Mat kar bhai...ruk jaa

Bro my honest advice directly tell her that I didn't want to marry...beleive me her ex is going to msg her back ..ladko k prob ha ..aur ladki kbi unko naa b nhi krskti

Yarr fir wahi...fir wahi saare comments padhne padenge

Not everyone tells the truth, maybe she diluted it, maybe not. The one who tells the truth is far better than who hides it. Now there are two questions to ask yourself 1 If you got a chance to get intimate with someone while in college would you do it? 2 If you can really accept what she told you and never bring it during future quarrels(coz they are going to happen with everyone). Answer yourself this and you will not have to rely on someone else for an answer.

To satisfy your doubt hire a detective

No seal No Deal

Dont Marry Her .. Otherwise You will need therapy after sometime .. Peace Matters .. She Will Not Bring Peace into your life ..

When will Indian men learn that ladies like bad boys better than the so called "good & innocent boys". They find "good boys" boring! Don't marry on doubts and suspicions. You won't be able to handle her! Girls are brave about such things! So you marry a girl like you dreamed of and one day you will find her too conservative and boring in the bed and you will start looking at other ladies speculatively! 🤣🤣🤣

Please read your message again. So much entitlement men have and judging women while they are saying I am not judging at all. Please leave her so that she can find a good person and you can live your life in mistrust

She is very open loyal, she declared everything infront of u, she seems best for you

No seal no deal If you're virqin too🤝

You won't believe me but the truth is She learnt how to convince a man of her desire for future stability and can gain control from her past relationships, Definately sure there was not one guy in the past relationship , i am 100% sure it's not twice , more than 10-20 times may be They all will lie in this matter , And to make you stay in this relationship and make you marry her to prove her self worth secure a proper future she is manipulating you like she is emotionally dependent on you triggering your saviour complex and making advantage of your lack of female relationship experience, things will change after marriage she may hiding her bestie or another ex completely out of your eyes , In future you may feel the resentment, won't experience same amount of emotions dependency, You mentioning about her emotional investment in this short time is what clear evidence you becoming victim of a experienced manipulator. And what you are experiencing is definitely not insecured don't allow those irresponsible spoiled female brats Gaslight you , it's your natural mechanism to get this anxiety when she already went qith didn't maintain boundaries, don't fall for these boundaryless women narratives I could see high manipulation here , it's you who has to make decision, And if you are reading my comment and marrying anyway years later you will remember me what I said , by then don't forget to update me Until then bye.

Run run and run faster. No Seal..No deal bhai. Tu akhand chutiya banega reeee

You should cancel the marriage ASAP. Once the honeymoon period gets over, you will start thinking about her character and her past 24x7. Even if she would kiss you out of pure love, you would be thinking that she did same with others as well, totally ruined. There's absolutely no scope for trust and intimacy here. There will be a stage when you will lose all your interest in her and she'll find it pathetic. People who live in the past, never settle down peacefully in the future. An uncle of mine is almost 65, after few years of marriage when he came to know that aunty's parents were looking for another man/groom and she talked to him 2-3 times, after that uncle's behaviour changed completely, at different occasions uncle slapped aunty multiple times for various reasons but root cause was his frustration. He is almost 65 and still abuse aunty now and then, calls her prosti characterless etc etc. If you want to live peacefully you better cut off all ties with her, leave her, let her live in peace, she should get married with someone who doesn't live in past

how do you believe that only twice intimacy???? Someone will fuck her again neighbor, Ex , classmates or etc etc Leave her bro don't ruin your life , always choose a virgin

What if: twice with the same dude Hidden part: every day for the last 8 years What if: twice with the same dude Hidden part: yesterday only before breaking up with him to marry you

History is like onion. You see one layer. It starts unraveling more and more when you go deeper. What if the stat she gave, she thought is an acceptable stat rather than the actual stat?

Replace her

Bro it wud be twice in a day 😂😂😂

run asap

These men generalizing all women with few cases of blue drums while women have been r*ped and ab*sed for yearssss and the stats are so high all over the world, but somehow we are supposed to say "Not all men". Irony.

If v!rginity was a deal breaker... You should have asked about it up front... Before the engagement right... See if you're ceremonially married... Then you're F**ked... All you can do is cope or leave... Choose carefully which path... Both have it's battles... Pros and Cons... Now if you're not officially married... Then don't waste anymore time, you're wasting your time and your families time along with the other person and their family.... Go to a quiet place, sit alone, ask yourself... Knowing that she's caring and ,X, Y, Z(and not playing it as a role) ... Can you digest the fact that she's been in bed with another man, lying naked in some hotel or OYO or anywhere if the answer is Yes... Then move on and never bring this topic... Not even remotely in your head... If the answer is No... Then directly call your family inform them you don't want to proceed further... Cause you'll be F**king up your life... And both of your families lives as well.... Alimony and Legal bhasad alag se.

Better to let go Also very difficult to find virgin girl these days. Good luck

Leave bro leave, because after marriage she will compare the performance of the previous one with your performance, and if you are not able to satisfy with better performance than the previous one, you will end up paying alimony.

Dayum. Someone I know recently got engaged who told me about her past too. She’s 25 too. Could it be the same girl? Not sure lol… but by the description I’m having a gut feeling that this is definitely her. DM me if wanna chat more.

Happy to give you frank advice, but first tell me two things about her previous relationship. Who broke up with whom, and why? Answer here or DM me.

You are just retirement plan for her nothing more

And these bitches would want to get married to a settled person

Once a whore... Always a whore

Agar tum ye shaadi karte ho matlab tum chutiya ban rhe ho. Isliye better to find some other.

No...pls marry a person like u....else u make ur life and her life hell

She’s clearly manipulating you mentally. Break the marriage off.

What a looser. Burdened your life with career and responsibilities, when it came to marriage burden yourself with self doubt and confusion. Don’t marry till next 5 yrs. 1st be a men, date some girls understand women. Don’t live the rest of life like a looser and seek virgin girls in arrange marriage.

Dude. The world is full of players. U will find another woman. Quit the alliance. May you find a perfect woman of your choice.

if you want what you ae asking for then you would have to marry illegally meaning a minor... a woman who is 25+ and has 0 body count is extremely rare almost impossible, you shouldn't have asked her that question, shhe definitely regrets her confession and you will never find peace after hearing that answer