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Submit ConfessionGender: Female12 May 2026 at 3:27 am
#C27106 I am 40 F working in a reputed MNC, have seen many ups and downs in my life since my childhood. Brought up in a hostel since I was 9 year old and still connected with family a lot. Being part of large family , I was eldest in all 4 sisters and was first one in my family who got job . I did whatever I could have done for my family be it financial , mental or any kind of support , even after my marriage as well , despite of having issues in my marriage and it created a kind of dependency on me for them. Now my younger siblings are married and well settled; they show as if still if only I am responsible for everything to sort out on any kind of support needed at my home for parents or anything else , no one really support my family similar way like I did and my parents are ok with that considering it’s their wish. And now when I say no for any support or expect my siblings to take some responsibility I am considered as wrong . I feel really hurt , really really hurt seeing this ; my sibling whom I supported so much have become so calculative when it’s their turn and when parents are also fine. Some time I feel like , was I responsible or getting used for everything I did. My siblings made their own group to support each other without me , we stay in a simple house and they are living in lavish place , sadly they don’t want to stay at our house for single night and ask us to stay at their home on any special occasion. Worst part is they also asked my daughter to celebrate her birthday at their house as that is better than ours. I know it’s not new story but I just felt to write it and also suggest all elders in this group to be very cautious before giving more then needed support to any one , as it can become their habit , if you stop doing then it can be negative for you .
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It's the sad story of parents supporting their favourite child n burdening only on the one... whatever u did for ur family u did that as a responsible person which I really appreciate but that doesn't give ur parents or ur siblings the right to burden u forever... I know when u have finally stood up for urself even ur own parents are seeing u as wrong.. unfortunately u cannot do anything to change anyone's mindset.. it's upto u to go ahead with what u want..my suggestion would be look after urself first then others..
You have not learnt to set boundaries by now, it's not fully your mistake but you need to sort this out by a group family meeting and telling them what you are holding for so long, if you keep on feeling bad and guilty this will only cause you trauma, nobody else can rescue you from this situation, you have to RESCUE yourself, please do that learn to say NO be it hard way
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Set boundaries. Don’t give till you are dry. Don’t teach them a lesson or anything like that, just ignore. Focus on yourself and your child, work. Save money and be happy so that your child has a good positive environment. If possible move out
Stop giving them what will they do throw you out max of the family - it's not going to be decremental for you , it's boon for you .. You will be able to live your life on ur terms not on theirs .. Problem is going to be theirs .. so take the step and make them suffer .
Feel sad for you.. Don't worry whatever you have done to your family that return reward will come god... Trust and believe in Karma..