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Submit ConfessionGender: Male11 May 2026 at 5:05 am
#C27092 I am a 25-year-old male from a very strict and conservative family, where relationships and love marriages are not easily accepted. At the start of my studies, I got connected with a girl, and somehow we stayed in touch. Now it has been almost 5 years together. In the beginning, I was never really serious because I didn’t see any future due to my family background. But she kept assuring me that I should just stay with her, and she would wait for me even 10–15 years until I convince my family. Slowly, I got attached. She gave me so much care, attention, loyalty, and always tried to make me happy. Honestly, she is one of the most caring, obedient, and beautiful people I have ever met. She has loved me to a level where I genuinely feel she can do anything for me, but she can never let me go. And honestly, I am also deeply connected to her, care for her a lot, and I am ready to stand for her against everyone if needed. Now I am close to the end of my studies, and for the first time I can actually see a possibility that maybe I can convince my family for her. But there is one issue that keeps disturbing me. Whenever we have fights, sometimes she raises her voice or her tone changes. Even though later she understands her mistake, apologizes sincerely, and promises to improve, during arguments it happens again. Because of my strict family environment, this thing scares me a lot. I start overthinking that if this behavior continues after marriage, how would I manage things with my family? Sometimes when she asks me, “If you think everything else about me is perfect, then why can’t you compromise on my tone?” I honestly tell her that I really cannot tolerate disrespectful words or an aggressive tone after marriage. This is what confuses me the most. On one side, I see her love, loyalty, care, sacrifices, and emotional attachment. On the other side, this one behavior keeps making me question whether marrying her would be the right decision or not. I genuinely want mature and sincere suggestions from married people or emotionally mature individuals: Am I overthinking because of my family background, or is this actually an important red flag to consider before marriage?
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So you connected with a girl at the start of studies which means 1st standard and till the end of studies you are together.. I guess you just finished 12th.. so listen kid, please complete your college... you will get more clarity!!
bhai TONE kabhi change nahi ho sakta.Agar apko wo pasand hai along with that tone,go ahead.family ko side karke socho kyuki shaadi k baad sab badal jata hai, family bhi.
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Sit with her and discuss. As you have seen her till now, she never disrespected you.... probably she unknowingly shouts while angry. She is not continuing that anger or frustration once it's over. Talk to her and explain your family situations. She can control that over reaction by practicing meditation, yoga ...if there is no other flaws in her apart from this, go ahead. All are not perfect. Another one may have other issues....you know this girl completely. She is caring and good.
You will find, sincere, understanding, respectful, soft spoken women in all corners of the earth, but unfortunately the earth is round. 😅😅
Bhai sher bhi dekhna hai aur gand bhi fatti toh kaisa hoga🤔
It is very normal for women to raise their voice during arguments. I have been married for almost 30 years and yes we do yell at each other very often. I see no problem. If you want a meek and submissive wife it is different. But all marriages have occasional problems
What s wrong in raising tone,when angry.. nobody is perfect
yes it is a big reg flag .. you are !!!
You are feeling insecure,you are damm lucky to got that girl who loves you beyond anything main thing she is loyal, today we can see those wives had loving husbands they are doing extra marital affair, understanding each other is main thing,you have also flaws but she accept you,why can't you doing same thing?
There is no guarantee that arranged marriage girl will not turn out from shreya gosha to usha uthappa atleast sheloves u she has all qualities that a partner has to be .accept what in front of u .
Le beta, so is this first time you are seeing a woman raising voice ??? I mean your mom sisters they don't argue or scream ? Am I the only one who is finding it creepy. Sound like women at your place don't have the guts to speak! After all these years and quality you have mentioned, if you think her enraged tone ( occasionally) is the the deal breakers. Fit pahli fursat mein niklo beta! Let her breathe!
Yes please don't spoil her life...
You ask her .. opinion about you..she will tell 100 points that are not acceptable by her still she loves you.....
Don't ruin her life marry one choosen by your family 😆
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This is not an issue
Oh my God.... shall I say something......? She deserves better. Not you..... Do you think that you are 100 % perfect......? If she changes voice raising attitude, you will simply move the goalpost and again blame her for no reason. If your family is controlling family and you have any unhealed wounds, the your girlfriend is not reason for all of your issues. Don't be toxic and try to accept her as she is. If you cannot, just leave her.
Are you marrying for you or your family? You are a red flag. I don't she can read this. Convey her, leave him immediately da. True love will reach you soon.
Fight honi chahiye, but uske baad reconciliation is more important
Marry an ai sir 🤣 that would be best for you
Boss marry an ai or something
Now the time has come to man up and introduce the girl to the family and you are now worried about her tone?!! You are not ready for marriage. Please leave this woman and all woman alone. Such a narcissist AH. You say she is obedient? Is she partner or your pet dog? Men and their entitlement!
I can’t tolerate this , I can’t tolerate that what are you a 13 yr old?
Why dont you simply tell you want a gawar girl as your wife...who will touch your feet early in the morning...ghunghat pehenkey bethye....tumhari puja karein....nautanki khatam nahi hoti tumhari
Leave her bro . You are not simp type man bro ,it's not easy to behave like simp like rest 90% Indian man for you and accept disrespectful things
Leave her man not worth it don’t tell ur family and spoil ur life
Please breakup right now if u care about her . You are next level patriarchal and regressive mind set , most likely due to ur upbringing, u did not adapt to todays culture . She will suffer constant domination by ur family and u will ruin her life if she utters a word of contempt . Please find an arranged marriage girl who comes from exactly ur mindset and doesnt believe in equality in marriage , and never dares to argue