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Submit ConfessionGender: Male9 May 2026 at 10:37 pm
#C27073 M34 I'll try to explain everything in minimum words So let's start In 2010 my father died and I got job on compassionate ground(my father was central govt employee) There's exam procedure as well in which I secured good marks and grabbed a very good job as job is given according to marks obtained. My mom felt very proud and kept on telling everyone that I got so and so job. Cut to 2012 I was in a relationship with a girl from 2009 so we decided to get married but I didn't told my family about this as my family is too old school and thinks about caste and dowry very much. So we both got married and my family come to know Abt this after 6 months in between they're searching matches for me as well (especially who can buy me with good dowry). They didn't liked this decision of mine getting married to other caste girl as according to them we belong to upper caste and my wife is from reserved caste or lower caste u can say. So they cut all the ties with me but still I tried to be with them used to visit them but they never allowed me to bring my wife to my paternal home. I must say my wife is a real gem a goddess one can have,sometimes I utter bad things but she always stops me from cursing them and calms me for my anger towards them even after knowing that my family don't likes her at all and still wants me to marry some other girl from our caste. In 2015 we were blessed by a girl by god's grace but she was very ill from the time of birth because of some complications during her pregnancy as my wife had some reaction through some medication. In all this time my family talked to me I visited them multiple times on different different occasions but their reaction was still cold even after this huge amount of time. In 2019 my daughter died bcoz of her illness and till that time my mom had never seen her face even for once. This thing hurt me from top to bottom and I cut off all the ties from them blocked them from every possible way of contacting me. In previous context when I used to visit them their thinking was that I visit them to grab my share in the property (I heard this by myself as I called my mom and she talked to me but I didn't disconnected the call and she was talking to someone saying "ye milne thodi aata h,ye Ghar ki baatein jaan-ne aata h" )this too hurt me badly but still I didn't responded without letting them know that I heard all her conversations what she said Abt me. Still I tried that family needs to be together at every cost. But my daughters death shook me from deep inside and I don't have any feelings left for them. So quit visiting them. Even they didn't tried to contact me even after this much loss of mine or tried to console me or stand with me in my this much hard time. The first thing I did after this is bought a very big spacious home ( bigger from their)so that I can show them that I don't need their property all I wanted was love and care. They come to know Abt this and this hurted my mom's ego so she filed a case against me in department and court as well that I'm not taking care of her(that's a law for compassionate ground appointed employees). I'm a very respected person at my location(tier 3 city)everyone praises me respects me,and her actions made me look like a clown to people around I was even thinking of file a defamation case against them but I stopped myself thinking that what'll be the difference left between me and then so I stopped myself from that. Now I'm fighting in the court as she don't want me to live peacefully,if she wanted me to care for her she should have contacted me on the first place but she didn't. My stand in the court is I want them to live with me I'll take care of her in every possible way. Please let me know your views Abt all this What should I do and what I'm doing is right or not?
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You are one of the rarest of the rare man who completely support the wife and the woman you choose to marry. First of all, hats of you for that. When a man is grown-up and ready to marry and start his own family that means he cuts the umbilical cord. If the parents really love their son, then they let them go and create their own family and life. If they feel otherwise, then they’re wrong, and they need to come in terms with it. Children don’t owe anything to their parents. Parents have to nourish the child, educate the child and prepare the child so that he can lead an independent life. Don’t get into this guilt trip. You did the right thing. You have done your best. Hope you have a peaceful future.
Money is the most powerful tool ...so your Mom too is highly money minded ...if you don't feel like stop talking interacting nd meeting her but keep sending her some amount every month.
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There are many angles to your story. First is, you got married w/o telling your mother. That’s a very big betrayal for a mother/for a family. 2nd, You did it when you got a job in place of your deceased father. Understand that relationships are transactional. They have been always like this. That’s the basis of the society. What you are receiving, if you are not balancing it or not reciprocating it, there will always be backlash and tension. Then there’s karma theory as well. What you give, you receive back. Did you try to convince your mother when she didn’t allow your wife to enter the house? All these things matter and have consequences in life. Now, when you people have reached to court, you can’t help but fight the case. Now you can’t be ‘she’s my mother, let her do whatever she’s doing. I’ll not be like her.’ That’s why you didn’t file the defamation case. If you are fighting, fight well. Otherwise right thing would have been to convince your mother in the beginning itself. Mothers are easy to convince. It’s the children who show ego first. But when a parent starts doing it, it becomes unbearable.
That the Court will decide .. You cannot do any thing if matter is pending in Court ..
It was mum vs gf U chose gf Now mum is salty So try to reconcile she is ur mother after all, u married as per ur choice she was angry 😡 so even Stevens Noweet her talk reconcile
Since you married against your mom wish but enjoying the perks of a compassionate job based on your father’s death, i think your mom is definitely hurt. Atleast send her some money monthly for medical needs or emergency even if you dont visit her
Everything will be in your favour just trust the process. Ager aap sachcha hain tho aapka saath achcha hi hoga!!!!
File a defamation case! The old hag deserves worst in life!
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You should hire a good lawyer to fight your case, but sadly Indian laws may force you to give monthly maintenance to your mom, that the court will decide depending upon your salary, I can relate with you in many ways can see what you went through, my own toxic mother and father completely controlled and destroyed my life, they raised me worst than girls I was in a cage, got me married to a govt teacher of their choice and I got another set of toxic inlaws who controlled my wife, it took me 15 years to get rid of these toxic parents and 4-5 Miscarriage of my wife for her to realize that her toxic father was causing trouble and stress in our married life, I left everything took no property share or money, lived separately with my wife on rent and later on bought my own home via home loan, my daughter was born and my mother never felt the need to see her grand child ever, my mother died in 2021 my father in law died in 2021 too, god gave them what they deserved for bad karma, I have cut all ties with all toxic relatives, inlaws etc and live my life with my rules and happy with my own family
Tell her to live in your house and Ask property share from your parents house.. She will take back that case.. Greedy log k greedy banna padta tab hi unki greed khatam hoti..
U r on right track... U still have emotions of being a boy of a mother who doesn't care... Kill it before it kills u
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Ur father passed away now u shd be everything for ur mother but u left her for ur love..U got ur father’s job as well..Ur leading a good life because of ur parents..Then u shd do something for them na..U got hurt when ur daughter left u same way ur mothers would have got hurt when u left her and also she is suffering the loss of ur father..
Is ther any law which takes your job given on compassionate ground after complain???? First find out that?!.. Any stop worrying about peoe now days every body knows both side of coin people just talk about u for time pass and forget I are holding too much about people
This is what the real world is, nobody spares not even the ' so called family ' I can understand what u must be going through.. just because u stood for ur own choice ur mother only destroyed ur life without thinking once..this Is what happens in toxic families.. I have been through this shit n still in it... I would say be with ur wife, console her n do ur good deeds n most importantly pray..pray to God to give u the strength the courage to fight n overcome.
Should not ve hurted ur parents.in the first place..
She can't be your mother