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First consult best Dr undergo Counselling. Later u think about Hvng baby any way you like. Bcz u hate ur mom’s hug , then how u take care of ur child vth love & care.

How you will grow the baby without touching. Adopt a bigger kid later in your life. Don't spoil a child's life if you are not going to change in your non touchability policy. Marriage is your decision but it's a mistake to destroy another life( child life)

Wow! This is amazing, trust me you have saved yourself from so much trauma and troture from men and in-laws. Communicate to your parents and live the way you want to and stay happy with or without a child. Go girl!

You're considering giving birth to a child without a father. You know what society is like. When your child is older, will s/he be able to cope with all the questions people will ask? And what if you don't like your child touching you? It may help to talk to a psychologist about this issue of yours before making any decision.

Raising a child as single mother will come with lots of difficulties including day care when you will be busy in work, other social issues in our society which may not affect you but may seriously affect the child causing trauma, so decide accordingly, it's your life and you need to decide but keep in mind that a child will also get involved which may have completely different personality and outlook towards what you decided, as far as marriage is concerned it's totaly right not to marry if you don't wish to marry, you can look towards adopting a child if possible that will be good for you

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You do realize that a baby would need to be touched and the baby will have the need to touch you?

Half the country is stuck in marriages they don’t want. She’s getting criticized for being honest about what she wants. The irony writes itself.

This sounds like one of my ex lol, she wanted affection caring love etc but she hated physical contact with anyone so I respected her boundaries. Despite that she loved babies and wanted to have her own, but she was obviously uncomfortable with sex and physical touch so in the long-term we mutually broke up because she admitted that even if we get married she's not sure she'll be physical with me ever and was scared about having a baby because she was that sensitive. I hate to break it to the person who wrote this but if you are virgin but still wanna have your own baby, the pain of childbirth is 10x times more. If you don't want to marry then you can just say that you're asexual to your parents and that's why you don't want to marry but I would suggest you not to have a baby by yourself and either adopt or get a surrogate to do it even if it's with sperm donation.

Don't marry , because his life will be spoiled. Consult doctor for process of baby as the method u mentioned. In future, be ready to face the problem occurs during this process ie Society will look you in different form ( may or may not happen) also think of the child future how he will be without father. Consult a psychologist on both and take a good action.

Listen - don’t listen to anyone else - u have achieved a peaceful life and calm life anyone can only dream of…don’t mess it up for anyone or anything even your parents cause they don’t know your heart. If you are happy that’s it. These days relationships are fickle and selfish start away from them. Have your own child through sperm banks etc and build a life you like. People will eventually follow - India also there r people who have their own kids without marriage it’s not unheard of anymore. It’s a bful life you have pls don’t mess it up because u don’t fit in others box. They don’t know anything else so they think it’s the best for you. But pls listen to your heart only… getting into marriage will ruin two lives if you’re not up for it.

Then why don't u adopt a baby.. If u r not comfortable with a man's touch.. It's gonna be a living hell for the man.. Either go for adoption or get a baby through sperm donation.. But raising a kid without father in India..! It's a big thing.. I feel adoption will be better..

Good idealogy. People may give stupid comments advising u to get married and go for counseling but jus ignore and pls stand on ur thought. Giving birth is secondary but if u want to stay single one of the bestest thought and stick to it. Don't worry about the society or others.

I belive its better you Stay single...you are already 30..and your mindset is not going to change...so dont make life tough for others as well...if you are fine with how things are now...then carry on...

Try convincing your parents. Give them indian examples of Karan Johar, Tushar Kapoor, Ekta kapoor etc....if they still don't understand, you yourself can take a call and decide to go ahead with your journey of being a single mother. Initially, societal and parental acceptance may bother you, but just ignore them. With time, they may or may not accept you and the child...that is their choice. But you live the life of your choice. Don't allow yourself to be confused ☺️

Whatever you do, please don't marry. Talk to ur parents & tell them everything honestly. But don't, I repeat, don't get married

Once you marry a good man all will change... ...ex is best happyness in the world...enjoy.

Once you fall in love.I think everything changes gradually....Try someone...Get married after the court period....See the changes in you...

Date with someone and start live-in . After some time you will start liking the touch.

You're asexual girl! And it's totally normal!! You can get semen from sperm donation banks and can actually inseminate yourself to have a child!!! Don't listen to people saying you need a father too, I've been raised by a single mother, it wasn't easy but it's possible.

Your kid will touch you they are clingy as anything and I dont know if you hc heard of kangaroo care. Giving birth is just the beginning. Please do some research on after care of kids and choose wisely.

Have you ever considered moving out of India?

You already have decided, so best of luck . Don't think too much , no one can advise you better than yourself

Brilliant woman. You can surely adopt a child Don't listen to the nonsense of men and women who have suggested counselling. They themselves are frustrated with their life and want you to experience the same misery. You are already sorted in your life. You can also sponsor a child's education if you don't like to be physically involved with your child later

Live your life getting married is your wish ❣️ but until you find your love wait for it you can't force someone intro your life just like that ungaluku therium ungaluku edhu naladhu nu

You said you don’t like anyone and asking opinions from everyone contrasting i’nt? Now you can enjoy yourself,giving birth to your baby as your wish, But Loneliness hit harder after 50s

First go to therapy and try a relationship

So good to see someone accept her/him like this. If I was in your position, I might have thought the same. But just like any other thing I would have wanted to know the reason before taking calls. Yes there is a medical term called haphephobia, but is it the same in this case that would have been a good exploration. Do you like touching or cuddling a baby? So you can start your queries which is an option. Other than that there are people who don't give much importance to dig deep in everything and move on with life, people may say that's naive but those people are most happy in their lives. In that case you may carry on the way you want and be happy. That's another option. Any of the above would be either way right. I hope you find the answer or become happy even without knowing it. N:B: The world is a monstrous patriarch, people who are saying you are snobby, over confident bla bla don't give them anything bad to feed their malnourished brains.

A child is not a plan B for your life structure. You are thinking about what you want, not what a child will need.

Touching is a sensitive matter only, try once then you love it, all your problems will be solved.

See marriage is your decision... If you don't like physical contact... Then don't marry... If you like living alone... Then do it... Always Remember... Marriage should be an outcome of success and your concious decision... If you do it based on what society is saying and what others are persuading you about, you're life will be spoiled and this same society will laugh at you only. So please be happy like you are and if you decide to settle down, then you can consult a psychiatrist to maybe address the physical contact issue or doctor as per your needs for a child and proceed accordingly. 👍🏻🙂

Ignore the society norms and conditions,It is truly heartening to hear you speak with such clarity about your goals and your life. Embracing your individuality, honoring your boundaries, and recognizing your capacity to provide a loving home as a single mother are all profoundly positive and courageous steps. You have built a successful, independent life, and taking control of your future to align with what brings you genuine happiness is a wonderful way to honor yourself. You deserve to pursue your dream of motherhood on your own terms, and your commitment to doing so ethically and thoughtfully speaks volumes about the kind of person and mother you will be. Keep trusting your instincts; you are on a path toward a life that is authentically yours. All the best

I have a friend who would be perfect for you. He also doesn't want to marry, but he wants kids. This way you will not have to be physical and your kid will also have a father and you will have help raising him. He doesn't hate physical stuff; he simply likes to be left alone. He can interact and communicate well but doesn't want to share his life with anyone. He wants kids because he loves them, and he wants to leave his business and everything he has built to someone. If you want, I could set up a meeting.

U r already 30, so don't worry about the marriage part. Regarding the child, there r many volunteers.

I don't understand why you need suggestions and all. If you are this confident about your views, experience and way of life you should take a stand for yourself and hold with it. Even though not having a father will somehow affect the child but let's consider it's his/her fate and leave it to that. Unless and until you truly trust someone's wisdom and accept their counsell over your thought process it's not gonna work that way either. So better stick to your views and continue, you will either learn a lesson or succeed ! Suggestions are almost useless.

You need father also to raise the baby for his well being , you can also make a contract with the father to divorce him after you have baby that way your baby will be legal also

Please see the interviews of neena Gupta and how much her daughter struggled for mother's decision

Since, you don't like touching even if your mother does, what would you do if your kid does the same with you ? What if your kid denies your touch ? What you sow, so you reap !! Don't forget..

You need to discuss to related professional psychiatrist or doctor first. After that no need to think what others are thinking. It's your body so your call. My one of cousin is feel same she isn't merry& lively happy no force her to marry.

Marriage, romance, and physical intimacy are matters of personal choice. However, why not set aside those hesitations and give a marital relationship a try? Your current decision is akin to suicide.

You are a platonic, thousands of people around the world are platonic. It is completely natural and normal. Indian+Pakistani+Bangladeshi men would never understand it so there's no point in discussing it with them. Second thing is that you are too ahead of the time, after 20 years we might see many cases of single mother without father, but not currently. If you have eligibility then move to broad minded society, somewhere in Europe or anywhere where people don't poke their nose in others business. This is not at all possible in India. Because in India 99.99% people live for segs and kids and money only. Deewaar mein sar maarna asaan hai, yahan k bande ko segs se aage samjhana impossible hai. So many kids are orphan in India and sometimes some parents don't take care of kids, this is worse than being an orphan. At least your baby will have a mother. But have you ever tried to spend some time with any kid before? Kids needs hugs kisses pampering from mother for emotional and mental development, it is a necessary part of growth. If you comfortable to feed your baby, hug her/him to give her/him a daily bath, even cleaning in toilet, from changing diapers to pot seat everything you'll have to manage, make sure you don't find it disgusting. Because it will damage kid's emotional balance. So first you need to be clear about your own limits then think about the baby. Move to other country where single mother don't get abused. After one or two decades you can think of coming back to India, by that time there will be grown up new generation with broad minds. Good luck

Stay alone and adopt a child, don't ruin anyone s life , if u don't like hug of ur own mother then it means u r a person who enjoy their own company, but if u want ur own child then it's better to change ur life style coz it's better to taste and decide, don't decide good or bad without taste. First time u feel weird but after 3-4 time u feel it's ok for u 😊

qurb e qiamat k zulmaat

ROFL...you should opt for IVF, without getting touched by anyone it's also a way to get yourself pregnant and give birth to a child. BTW you're sick with an illness, better consult it with a doctor, maybe it may help you, before opting for the above mentioned option.

I wonder if that how will u love and take care of ur baby, babies need lot of love care affection and more importantly hugs and kisses how will u do that

Just marry some one and enjoy s** for sme days f not your gono suffer for whole ur life even though u don't want ur body will ask some day so accept marry and get baby and den u dint like ok giv divorce and take ur baby and be alone but don't harrase him if u like marry him be happy family life If u don't like now at ur end no one will be with u and u feel every one around u have kids husband and function u I'll regret later a lot abt that just belive in God get into it but sure ull like all feelings

Many women would want to have kids on their own coz they can and they can take care of the kid BUT that’s your want, its most unfair to have a kid who would grow up without a father throughout his/her life. Father figures in the family are not fathers! So don’t!Better not to have one, just imagine a life without a father and always wanting to have one, not fair!

Buy a pet that's the best solution

Ur wants and likes/dislikes are urs. But its EXTREMELY SELFISH to have ur own baby thru technology and depriving that innocence of love of the other parent. Yes, everyday we come across single parent that pushes themselves to balance this.. but ther the circumstances are beyond control.. but in ur case, its conscious decision.. its against nature. There is a reason why it functions the way it does… technology is a favor not to be misused for selfish desires. U can adopt a child and give it all the love and all that u have… that way u r a catalyst to someone’s beautiful future.. ther r children alrdy existing who are deprived of basic needs. Pls turn ur attention ther… dont add to it.

It looks like u r feeding up ur psychological problem. Getting touched is the bare minimum way of expressing love in humans. Starting from parents to babies, then spouses and then sharing the love to kids. So u should go for medical treatment. Even if u get kid, u will raise without touching it and may not allow it to touch. This may pass ur problem to it.

See having a baby is like in constant physical touch, you don't like some own touching you, how can it be okay for something to grow inside you, things like baby always wants a mother touch, and breastfeeding will me out of the window.... So your views are completely contradictory... Don't like touch and want to have a baby ... What if in future you hate the baby's touch that's a entire life of trauma for that child. So just go to orphanage spend time with kids or become someone in educational field where you can always be surrounded by kids... So better don't have baby

Is it ok for a child to be raised without a father voluntarily ?

DM me let's talk. I think I have a solution.

Your child will touch u dont get child

Sorry to say. Take a counseling first. Then if you still need a child without father move to abroad and plan. Many are not matured enough and that kid will suffer. A kid needs both father and mother.

If u want to marry u can go therapy or go to dr simply to discuss ur issues and i think it will get better

You are soo lucky not to love anyone. You don't know the feeling neither you don't no the pain. In short you r in a better peace than anyone else maybe. But yes marriage is important after a certain point of life you really need someone

Adopt a baby dear..u will be giving a life

Will you be fine if doctor touches for IVF and how you will manage to feed the baby

Pure soul ❤️ best confession

Go for a contract marriage. But hope u vil not get addicted to ur man's touch.

Once you get married, you will never hate him don't worry... Nikah is bond once done you will fall in love ...

Artificially impregnate urself....and enjoy being a single mother... Ur priorities are sorted...just go with ur instinct...don't marry anyone...don't fall for society trap.... Enjoy ur life.....

U need counselling, nothing else.

You need proper counselling and yes for single mother u will migrate to Europe best country for making fullfillment of ur desire

You have to touch the kid. So don't get married and don't go for children also. Please don't even adopt also with this issue. Also consult the dr first for this issue.

Migrate to a different country

neraiya padam papiyo

U can adopt someone .

Marry yourself

If you are so clear with your views as such. Then do take help to get more clarity and then ofcourse do not get married and adopt in that case 🙂

That's so warm sweet and adorable confession.. more power to you girl..

You are on the path of salvation. Go ahead

You just need a counselling! In case of single mother without marriage you can't do that and you know this! Reality is something else which you don't want to disclose! This is half truth, i don't know why that half is left!

Okay let's be together and just focus on career

Good idea I feel the same

Consult a psychiatrist immediately

You are Asexual. It's a spectrum. Google more about it. Once you learn, explain it to your parents. If you want own biological child find physically and mentally healthy sperm donor and go for IVF.

What about the baby? Do you want your baby to touch you or not. If you don’t allow your baby to hug you then the baby will die.

There is something called asexual rwcognized formally, you are not wrong youbare different.

Be honest with ur parents , stop them from wasting their time and energy finding suitor for u . Tell them exactly who u r. Its ok to be born different, asexual etc . Every human doesnt have the same desires and aspirations in life . As for bearing ur own child outside wedlock, thats gonna take some convincing and time , give them some time to absorb the first confession, then think about child . Lots to consider when u decide to be a single parent (from the child's POV too ) If u need a certified counsellor, whatsapp me +91 9819850818

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Marry someone who is not interested in physical relationship. Disclose your priorities and marry someone who agrees.

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I would suggest you to remain single but drop the idea of being a biological mother without a father. Even if you succeed with your plan you shall fail as a mother you won't have explanation when your child grows up. The maximum you can do is lie to cover your fantasy. And your child has to continue with your lie which is unfair and unjust for your own future innocent child if any. Better adopt which may be beneficial for all.

Don't get married. Maybe seek counseling over the baby part because a baby is very physical and it would be unfair to deprive the baby of physical touch, then take a call accordingly.

Don't spoil others life.

Ocd problem

Can please ping me.

Love someone

You are soo lucky not to love anyone. You don't know the feeling of love neither you don't no the pain. In short you r in a better peace than anyone else maybe. But yes marriage is important after a certain point of life you really need someone

I really dont understand what stupid senseless n mad mentality people r developing from where they get these thoughts its mental disease i feel people effected with nowadays

Ap mahabharat ke kaal ke hain kya? bina touch kiye hi bachha chahiye?

Adopt a child if u hv financial security.

When you don't like even ur mother touching you then how u will let ur kid touch you🤔. How you will like ur kid when ur kid touches you.First get clarity on what you can do.

I can help you

Adopt a child. Pray to God that your baby is healthy both physically and mentally. Your parents should be convinced by you only. Society ki maa ki aankh. Woh toh wese bhi jalte hai sabhi se.

Go head doggy

could you move to the west? this would not be an issue at all.

This is exactly me. Get out of India and later convince your parents you want to be a single mother