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Don't look for marriage. Take the custody of your daughter and keep her with you. As you said, she is the only purpose of your life. Raise her well, educate her, settle her. Trust me, once she is with you, you will no longer be looking for a partner.

I feel sad for the daughter who must be feeling so unwanted in this custody battle. A mother who doesn’t want to stay with her and a father who is not able to because go circumstances. I hope for her sake you find a solution to your predicament.

My father raised me n my sister after my mother passed away...since I was 11th months and my sister was 3 years old.. He never re-married. He is retired now n lives with me..We never left him alone...We are best friends 🧡 and now we care for him like a baby...Daughters can take care of their parents like no one else. Take any decision very carefully. Wish u all the best.

I genuinely feel sad for the daughter.. nobody here is thinking abt the young kid. Both parent's are trying to settle down and just want to avoid the daughter. A single parent can wonderfully take care of the kid. Why is the need to settle again with a suitable partner. If at all the word says suitable try talking about the kid as well. Rather than only thinking abt urself

Be happy your wife agreed for mutual consent divorce without any alimony. A few years you have to struggle then the daughter will be self reliant. Don't make another mistake of marrying again

First of all, since your ex is visibly not taking good care of ur daughter, u can approach court to have full custody. There are cases where fathers have been given full custody of girl child as well due to inability of mother to take good care. You said u are financially sound, so you can hire good lady governess to look after your daughter when you go our for work. But do it as early as possible because the existing set up u mentioned is going to have negative impact on ur daughter. As parents, our primary responsibility is to ensure well being of and protect our children. Once this is sorted, u may sit with your daughter and decide about remarriage based on her opinion about that or after getting her on boarded with the idea (a wrong second mother can make situation worse).

This time u need to search someone who is just a housewife so that she can look after ur daughter n any other child if she has Good story n it sounds practical

Keep your daughter with you. Hire a trustable caretaker as you have a good package and from decent background. Don't leave the child in the hands of a mother who does not want her. Children are innocent no matter what bitterness happens between husband and wife. I keep my son with me, struggled for 5 years handling him all alone. But now, we are stable. Never give your child to the irresponsible parent. The child life will be in hell.

We got our widow Sil with a 7 yrs old married to divorced person ( custody of a son with mother)...things didnt go well nd today both are in court fighting for there rights ...mutual agreement non of them are interested into as both wants to teach each other a lesson. With the experience we as a family member are going through would suggest not to marry ...better have friendship ..go for dates have good times spent ... Kids suffer the most because of difference nd fights between parents.

Is it allowed by the law that a single divorced father who is living alone without his mother(grand mother for the child) can take care of the daughter?

C27062 : Life isn't easy and fair and I understand it completely. But u have to keep faith in God and live your life and take care of your parents. I too live the same life without divorce as I have a 14 years old special child (son) with my mom and husband working in a corporate. I take care of everything. Keep the hope and work on yourself.

You need to move on and find a suitable companion for yourself. Life is very long.

If you are eager for companionship once again try some dating sites or matrimonial sites. You can ask family or friends to introduce you to someone. It's not necessary for the lady to have faced a similar situation. Many people are non judgemental. Most of the people suffer in a relationship due to either the circumstances or incompatibility. Take your time, dont rush. There are people who will embrace a child as their own. People are good, situations are the real devil.

Your problem is that you haven't yet accepted your situation. The moment you accept it, solutions will start emerging. Looking from a man's angle remarriage looks good. But looking from the child's angle it' s and absolute no-no. There aren't women, no matter how distressed they are, they can't raise someone else's child w/o being biased. I am saying this being a woman myself. Unless a woman is enlightened enough or conscious enough she can't do it. And attracting such a woman seems out of your current capabilities. Dear man, accept the situation the way it is and take plunge to raise your child singlehandedly. The moment you decide that your energy will shift. In the due course of time if you come across a wise woman who is ready to share life with you, you can go ahead and marry her. But at the onset itself thinking of remarriage looks an unplanned and unthoughtful decision. That can force you to go for a second divorce. For inspiration, take examples of single fathers. There are many. As you are saying your daughter is your priority, raising her singlehandedly shouldn't be a problem.

I hope, people, as husbands and wives, realise the consequences of in-laws’ interference in married life. It’s high time for the the in-laws to give space to married couples too. I believe when this understanding is achieved, everyone can live peacefully and love one another more including the in-laws. May you both find an amicable way to raise your daughter in a loving environment

Let me remind you about the iron lady Indira Gandhi. She was brought up by her father only post her mother demise.

Please take custody of the daughter. She needs her parents more than anyone else. If u r earning good , make the right arrangements and bring her to stay with you. I know many single parent (father) who are taking care of the child . Please think about the child and the trauma she is going through.

Women can live alone Men need a partner irrespective of the kid or not This post is an example I would say getting into another relationship makes things difficult I wish your wife gets back to you because the divorce would have primarily occurred due to a third person interference I pray God your wife realises your importance Ditch the in laws They are always bitchy,this includes men's side too But you both have brought a beautiful life into this world and if your daughter means alot to you,live your life with her and for her You can gain your happiness through her eyes,you don't need to seek a partner to seek purpose

Daughters are blessings dude .. take her in have courage, raise her alone.. mark my words in a few years it will be great bond, I've been through almost same shit but different story, mine left for other man when my girl was less than 2 years, I got her custody, raised her alone as single dad now she's unstoppable, lovable, adorable and what not and worth fighting, we've seen ups and downs but she always raised my standard and she's brightest one now, my one line advise just get your girl in and forget everything she deserves all the love and care of daddy.. if you need any suggestions just inbox me without hesitation

First of all, you are all faking up that you care for your daughter or love her, if really you are,than there should be no second thought of keeping her with you. Initially it will take time for you to manage things, but by the time she turned up 15-16 years ,she does not need that much of your time. I am single mother of a son, got mutually divorce at age of 35 . But does not feel to have any new partner in my life. My son and me hold a great bond. Plus I am complete in my own company. So real love for your child ,does not look for another partner.

Hey, you should move on with your life.. I would suggest to move out of the city where you lived with your ex wife or where she is staying. You don’t have to absolutely think about what is she doing etc. you should only concentrate on what you want in life and plan for that life accordingly. I know it takes lot of courage to move on and takes time that’s ok just take time relax and you will definitely have your way forward. Take care of your daughter all these things shouldn’t affect her anyways.. look for the job opportunity outside of your city and start making new friends.. good luck!

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Get your daughter's custody. Take care of her as a princess. During this journey, you may or may not get a right companion, but that shouldn't be your priority right now. Better to stay alone rather than being with a wrong person. If you are sure you can be a good father to your daughter, make her your priority

Hit the dating apps.. but never tale any girl seriously...

Why can’t you keep your daughter with you? There’s absolutely no reason she shouldn’t be with you, since her mum abandoned her. Millions of single mum ( & dads) keep their kids with them.

If suggest you strengthen your situation and raise her by yourself. Don't marry just for the sake of rasing a kid. Marry only when you find the right person again, who will love your daughter as her own

I wish every women who get divorced by husbands should give his kids back to him to know the pain of taking care of a kid as a single parent , I know I sound brutal but I hv seen many single mothers n their struggles , n ur post seems like u feel ur daughter as a burden if she is not with u may b u would hv enjoying ur life by now , u opened a custody case just to hurt ur wife now it’s backfired , m also a remarried women even I had a kid when I was remarried I know the pain myself as a single mother

Pls take care of ir daughter man. Dont get married again. Sure, u will enjoy ur rest of life with ur daughter. Dont try to disspooint her

My sis lost her husband and has a 5 year old son.After her son started asking for a Dad because other's daddy show up at the school and take them out and all The fatherly Love he wants to experience,..Through matrimony we found a match .infact the guy who was divorced and has a child himself approached and we decided that she would get married in a year but the guy rushed into it making excuses that he wants to change the father's name son's Aadhar card so the sooner the better,, he rushed n she got married ..the guy tried ( I hope so) but couldn't get father's name changes ..my sis changes all her documents she left her well paying job again because he mentally harraed her into doing so. After she went there to finally stay with her stuff in just 3 months the guy is now not ready to keep the SON. Misbehaving with my sister as per his mood. Previously my mom dad used to stay with her and would take care of Son. Now they sold most of the stuff and shifted to native place as my father is retired now. The guy is not contacting my sister .. my sid is left all alone with no savings ..no place to stay no stuff or money to buy new stuff. Can't work as no one is there to baby sit. So life is difficult.. seeing today's cases ..I think there should be some eligibility and course before marriage.. people are just getting married for money, k drama moments or for the sake of family. Even slightest discomfort can be a reason of separation.. I wish you Luck I can totally understand what you are going through.

Hats off bro I'm in the same situation Now my son's in the 10th std Still single

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Loneliness kills...not many people realise that...all those who are preaching here in the comment section are not in a similar situation and think life is rosy enough even if your single....it's not easy ..being a single father or a mother....and even if your enjoying your own company ...trust me ...it will hit u big time as age passes by....everybody needs a companion....the child will grow up any which ways and move out ....I pray and hope for the right partner to reach out to you to complete your family..

How old is your daughter? Y cant you keep her with you?

Whoever you marry , the new lady will not have affection with your daughter. Please be careful

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Get ur daughter 1st

1 personnel purpose of life is enough to live..so take care of your daughter..if you are looking for more purpose..do work for some social cause..why looking for partner and making things complicated

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Is 20 LPA is good enough in NCR

20 LPA middle class only, mention honestly, otherwise we skip confession

So are you looking for a nanny for your daughter? Before having a child didn't you ever think that you might have to take solo responsibility of the child or you just did that for 5 minutes entertainment and thought all responsibility is your wife's headache. Men fight upto death to get back their children after divorce, and here you are..

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I respect man because I was raised by my dad he was my hero my friend my philosopher my guide my love my all.. I remember it was from age 8-13 when my mom had to work in other state .. my dad without anybody help he raised being bitgba father n a mother.. to he honest I never felt need of a mother.. I enjoyed my dad's company.. we both were a great team.. I had 3 elder brothers too.. after 13 my mom was transferred back in a few months a attained puberty and in few days my dad died physically but even today his soul is with me... That's how great man can be.. he still lives in every memory and in every walk of life 🧬... Don't fall into temptations

What do you mean you stay alone and have no provision to take care of your daughter? How are you different from her mother then? She is as much your responsibility as she is her mother’s. Why do you have to get married and get a stranger to take care of your daughter? Aren’t you an adult? What’s the point of crying? Just grow up and take responsibility! Lots of single mothers and fathers out there in the world

I have opposite situation my husband left with new born baby boy. And he is settled down with another one in new place it's been two years he never look back ..he never concern about baby. What should I do I also feel broken 💔 for my baby. Regular sochti hu syad koi ek message ayega vo bhi hme miss kar raha hoga but no usney toh block kar rakha hai I hate these people jo bachcho ko bhi chhod dete hai

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With 20 lakh per year, you dnt have provision to look after her alone? Seriously?

Don't think of marriage now please. I feel extremely bad for your daughter, she is getting none of her parents, this is really depressing. You first arrange to take the custody of your daughter & bring her back.

Not a single woman here faulting and criticizing the father in law for the mess he created OR the lady who left the daughter behind looking for another guy. Isn't she the one who gave birth? Not. One. Woman.

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You take custody of your daughter, this should be your top priority, marry someone who understands you and your needs in this situation, if you don't find someone try looking for partner with similar situation with a kid, may you find someone like minded, as for your ex father in law such buddha are going to rot in hell, my own father in law was so toxic totally controlled my wife, so i can understand what control he must have had on your life

Please take care of your daughter. Don't go for marriage again.

Why can't u keep ur daughter& tc of her? Problem solved.Ur our old daughter,staying as a PG ,neither with her mother nor father...weird!!

You both are killing the future of an innocent child …..none of u are efficient enough to take her custody but u gave birth to her !!!! You are earning descent but cannot afford her to be in a good boarding school…..where she might find strong academic to stand on her own feet …..however she’ll never be able to get the 100%emotional well-being ….pls be human !!!

Marrying again at this stage will worsen the situation . 99.9% women are selfish from inside your new wife will force you to have child with her and she will not take care of your first child.

Look for a live in.....because WOMEN hv turned BITCHES.....a frirnd of mine was working abroad for just 4 months and earning his Bread and Butter....the bitchy wife was sleeping around with her boyfriend in his Bedroom.....useless So bottom line....take care of yr daughter....and look for a live in.....for at least 3 - 5 years.....then think of settling down.....dont jump the gun now....